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theambitiouswoman

Working hard from insecurity = proving

Working hard from self worth = building

Being independent from fear = avoidance

Being independent from wholeness = freedom

Overexplaining from anxiety = seeking approval

Explaining from clarity = communication

Staying busy from discomfort = escaping

Staying busy from purpose = creating

Chasing someone from fear = attachment

Choosing someone from confidence = alignment

Avoiding conflict from fear = suppression

Choosing peace from standards = discernment

Overgiving from fear = earning love

Giving from fullness = generosity

Withdrawing from fear = self protection

Taking space from awareness = regulation

Seeking validation from lack = dependency

Receiving validation from wholeness = appreciation

Controlling outcomes from fear = anxiety

Leading outcomes from trust = stability

Being chill from fear = self abandonment

Being calm from security = groundedness

Holding back feelings from fear = disconnection

Pacing vulnerability from wisdom = emotional intelligence

Clinging from fear = scarcity

Allowing from trust = abundance

Perfectionism from fear = never enough

Excellence from self respect = pride

People pleasing from fear = losing yourself

Being kind from alignment = staying yourself

theambitiouswoman

Stop doing out of character things to teach someone a lesson or try to “get even.” It doesn’t prove a point, it just pulls you out of alignment with who you are. I won’t do anything out of character to prove a point to their disrespect. I’m not matching anyone’s trash energy or try to prove a point or anything to someone who disrespects me. That’s just too close to proving myself to someone who already showed me is beneath me

A person with good values can you see your worth even if they can’t reach it. And they act accordingly or leave respectfully. Really need you guys to understand this

Once a person disrespects you, lowering yourself to their level just shows you’re willing to abandon your standards to match their behavior. And the moment you do that, you blur the line between what you tolerate and what you become

Real power isn’t in retaliation. It’s in restraint, clarity, and boundaries. It’s in being so grounded in your standards that disrespect doesn’t provoke you, it disqualifies them

You don’t teach people how to treat you by acting like them. You teach them by what you allow, what you ignore, and what you walk away from. If a person doesn’t treat you how you treat them or deserve to be treated, you leave. “Easier said than done.” Not really

It only feels hard when you’re more attached to the person than you are to your standards. When you are looking for love outside of yourself, because you’re not giving it to yourself. When you start valuing your peace, your self respect, and your time more than temporary connection, the decision becomes extremely clear. If it doesn’t feel that way, then you’re just not at the place with yourself I am describing. Because it indeed becomes extremely clear

You’re not losing them. You’re choosing yourself

And that’s the standard. You should never lower or lose yourself to keep anyone

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Robe de Soirée Gaston dessinée par René Gruau.

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Read that again.

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Broad collar from the Reign of Thutmose III, 1475-25BC New Kingdom, Egypt.

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Inclined Head with Closed Eyes

Alexej von Jawlensky

c. 1922

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Real.

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Southern spring, feels like home

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Every time you don’t pick what you truly want, every time you say “this will do,” you're training the universe to treat you as someone who accepts less.