December always felt like such a special month to me, especially as a child. While Christmas is often a big celebration for others, for our family, it’s more of a Thanksgiving and a family gathering. Our religion doesn’t have Christmas in the traditional sense, but we still gather with relatives to share in the season’s spirit. Sometimes, we spend it just at home, keeping it simple, or we might visit relatives where, instead of "Merry Christmas," the tarpaulins say "Happy Thanksgiving" or "Ramos Family Gathering." I always found it exciting to see that, as it felt unique to us.
Back in elementary school, I would always get excited for December, knowing it meant the end of classes and a break from school. The thought of seeing some of my family was something to look forward to, even if it was just a small gathering. And of course, I loved that it was a time when I could earn a little extra money from family members. Spending time with my family brought so much joy, and it felt like the season gave us that special opportunity to be together.
Still, as much as I enjoyed these gatherings, there was always a part of me that felt a bit different. I would sometimes find myself comparing our family gatherings to others, noticing how they had a complete family with a dad, something I didn’t have. It made me feel a little insecure, like there was something missing, but I also knew how lucky I was to have family who cared for me. Even if there were moments of self-doubt, I truly loved and appreciated my family. They were my comfort, my happiness, and every December, I got to be reminded of that.
And so, each December, the gathering became a reminder of what truly mattered. We didn't need extravagant displays or big celebrations; it was the small gestures, the laughter, the feeling of being seen and valued that made the season feel whole. I realize that these gatherings shaped how I understood love and family. They taught me that family isn’t about perfection but about showing up for each other, embracing each other's flaws, and creating a space where everyone belongs.
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