I realize this isn't going to be widely relatable but I need everyone out there, especially women, to know: you CAN be Christian, asexual, and a single mother by choice.
I say this because I AM [hoping to be, still working on the baby part]. And I only bring it up because I was browsing pinterest for tips for single mothers when I saw an article about adoption as a single Christian woman, and how it was biblically ok even though the author would of course NEVER advise something like IVF (in vitro fertilization, in which the mother uses sperm from an anonymous donor to create an embryo outside of her body that is then implanted to create the pregnancy) and I firmly disagree.
IVF is the route I'm going because, as an asexual, I have 0% interest in marriage (tried that, failed miserably, it was awful) or getting pregnant the normal way, and adoption seemed less guaranteed for my situation when I started this journey. Plus I straight up like the idea of having my own kids. And the idea that God would have a problem with that is, TO ME PERSONALLY, appalling.
Obviously faith and beliefs are very personal and interpreted from culture, upbringing, etc, but I do worry other women are out there who want to be mothers but not wives, who might be exposed to that sort of thinking and begin to doubt themselves, or settle for less than their dreams.
I don't know what God does or doesn't think but I know what my heart believes, and that is that you have every right to be a mother of your own child regardless of sexual orientation, and that God smiles when people practice love.
