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Hiatus

I’m really sorry everyone, but I’m going to have to put this blog on hiatus for the time being. I’ve just been feeling pretty down lately, and have been having trouble working up the motivation to do anything on tumblr at all, hence why all of my queues have been spotty, and why I haven’t been posting reminders or coloring pages.

This has been a long time coming, and I’m very sorry for not telling you sooner. Sit tight, okay? I’ll be back eventually.

#I'm sorry everybody :(

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you don’t have to be passing to be trans

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ADVICE FOR PEOPLE WHO ARE NOT HAVING A GOOD DAY:

wait until it gets dark and make tea or coffee or hot chocolate, or if it’s too hot outside make yourself a healthy smoothie with your favorite things in it at any point during the day

put on your favorite underwear, it helps, trust me, it’s an old family secret (i’m not kidding)

if you have a pet, play the “how many things can i stick on you until you move or get mad” game (bonus points if they fall asleep, extra bonus points if a family member sees you and tells you to quit it, extra double ultra points if they join in)

rip a peice of paper into as many little pieces as you can

go to animeseason.com and click “random anime” until you see one that looks completely ridiculous (or actually good) and watch the first episode. repeat if it sucked or if you get bored halfway through

spend at least an hour making a music playlist for how you feel right now and save it for now or when you feel a bad mood rise again

curl up in bed and cover yourself with blankets and pillows and put in music and just lay there for a while (sleeping is also good)

eat everything

drink lots of water

it’s okay bad moods don’t last forever!!!!!! i promise!!! you will be yourself soon and there are people who love you very much, don’t be afraid to reach out to them

you are lovely

eat lots of bananas

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here are some more friends

i bet there is still a box of crayons in your house somewhere (if not you can get them cheap during back-to-school sales); find them and use them (maybe while watching ridiculous anime)

sunshine if you can manage it or just a sun lamp trust me it matters more than you think especially in winter

hugs even if they are stuffed animals or your pet or your pillow whatever is on hand

if you’ve got a favorite lotion/soap/thing that is scented use it liberally

cry if you need, if it doesn’t start by itself or if you don’t want to attract attention put on a sad movie so you have an excuse

write this down to pull out on future bad days:

it is okay to have a day where you don’t get things done

it is okay not to have a reason for feeling bad

taking care of yourself is a worthwhile use of time

if you still don’t feel better it is not your fault (and it is okay to ask for help)

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Friendly Reminders for 'Those Days':

- Some days you just need to let it all out. - Sadness is not a sign of weakness. - You don’t have to make an excuse for crying. - You don’t have to be ashamed for asking for help. - Just because someone else has it worse, it doesn’t mean you are invalid. - Your feelings are all valid, every single one of them! Whether that be good or bad. - Don’t bottle it up, let it out. - It’s alright if you don’t know why you’re upset. - Just remember that you will get through it, and you are strong. Find something that makes you happy, and roll with it.

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it’s okay to have multiple names.

if you go by one name IRL and another online, that’s okay.

if you have multiple genders and have a name for each, that’s okay.

if you use your birth name in some situations and your chosen name in others, that’s okay.

it’s okay to have multiple names!

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You’ve done a great job untill now, this is really amazing!

Be proud of yourself, love yourself, take care of yourself.

You try so hard, don’t ever think you are not worth it! Believe in yourself and keep fighting, warrior!

chii-bi

Only happy thoughts! ♥

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♡ Don’t overwork yourself, your body needs rest. ♡

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⭐️ Your stims are valid ⭐️

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🌟it’s always okay for you to say no. You are allowed to put yourself first. 🌟

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you don’t have to be passing to be trans

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sensitivesuggestion

types of healthy coping skills

1. self-soothing

comforting yourself through the 5 senses

Touch: stuffed animals, stress balls, taking a bath, a soft blanket

Hear: music, audio book, guided relaxation

See: snow globe, glitter, calming images, art, anything that pleases you visually

Taste: tea, mints, gum

Smell: lotion, candles, incense

2. distraction

removing your focus from the stressor for a period of time

puzzles, art, crafting, reading, movies, gaming, exercise, being social

3. opposite action

doing the opposite of the impulse that aligns with a positive emotion

affirmations, inspiration, lighthearted and encouraging focus

4. emotional awareness

identifying and constructively expressing what you’re feeling

journaling, listing emotions, using a emotional identification chart, drawing, therapy

5. mindfulness

centering and anchoring yourself to the present moment

meditation, guided relaxation, yoga, breathing exercises, candle gazing, going for a walk

6. ask for help

this is important to do when you feel like your coping skills are not enough or they are too negative and detrimental

therapy is ideal for helping a person create a healthy coping strategy and incorporate it into their life

*a coping skill is considered healthy if it helps you to deal with stress more positively, does not hinder your progress, and isn’t harmful physically or mentally. A coping skill can become negative when it is used to completely avoid dealing with the stressor.

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please be mindful that if you often experience dissociation, meditation can be a bad idea, it can make the dissociation worse

other forms of mindfulness that aren’t meditation:

- noticing and naming objects that are around you

- run your hands under water and notice the feel of the water on your skin

- wiggle/tap your fingers or feet and notice how it feels; pay attention to the movement: you are in control of what your body is doing, right here and now

#straight from the DBT manual