statements like "It's wrong to masturbate about a person without their consent" and "It's wrong to do something that quietly arouses you while you are in public even if no one can see it" show that a person's understanding of morality basically involves magical thinking. like I wrote this post on the toilet. That's not the same thing as me literally shitting on you
Playing porn on full volume without headphones on the train: that's like 12 layers of wrong starting with you are playing any video on full volume without headphones on the train the fact thats it's porn just adds to the rudeness
Reading a pornographic story on your phone quietly and feeling vaguely aroused: idgaf
Thinking about stuff that makes you feel aroused: how tf would I know unless you tell me? I don't care but I don't want to hear about it
Seeing your fetish in the wild and getting a bit squirmy and turned on: again I'm not going to know unless you tell me. I don't care! Just text your friend about it like the rest of us
As long as you aren't irritating me I don't give a shit what you're doing or thinking about or how aroused you are
Just don't like, masturbate or watch porn videos on the bus where people can see and hear it. And my objection to that is not that it's horny it's that it's objectively rude
I would also get annoyed at someone picking their nose and flicking the boogies about or playing non porn videos loudly on the bus
Respect shared spaces but the inside of your head is not a shared space
the inside of your head is not a shared space
#yknow theres this video that is blowing up in brazil youtube now called 'adultização'#it's a great video that exposes how social media sexualizes children for profit#at one point the author of the video interviews a child psychologist who says that#'children who grow up on the internet have no clue what's private and what's public'#'these are things that we're taught'#all this pearl clutching around sex and porn that's been going on around lately exposes exactly this I think#people have no idea where the line between public and private lies anymore
This is an idea I will be chewing on. I find it compelling, that the greatest abuses of kids wrt to the internet is not via exposure to inappropriately 'adult' material, but the dissolution of their boundaries and boundary-setting skills. Think there is something to that.
