International women's day 2018
I've spent International Women's Day 2018 reflecting a lot on the life i have... how my rights have changed, especially in comparison to 100 years ago, and still in some countries today. It is now more for others that i fight for equality.
It is easy for me to focus on the strong women in my life. There have been many, both directly (my great aunt - who has taught me to be strong in the face of illness) and indirectly (Carrie Fisher.. for showing me a kick ass princess). These women made me who i am today and helped me overcome challenges.
When the careers advisor said, only a decade ago: "you cannot be an archaeologist... it is not an appropriate career for a woman"
i found it in me to say "i'll do it anyway" mostly because of the strong figures i had around me... and ok, a lot of stubborness.
But this time i want to focus on the men in my life. Sure i've known some assholes... abusive boyfriends and sexist bosses... but there's (at least) two men who have been amazing.
The first is my partner. He is one of the best feminists i know, he has taught me to respect myself, to speak up and to question the inner patriarchy and distortions that can often be found so deep within me. I have known him now for just over six years and i am truly not the same woman as before. (It's probably his fault i'm such a militant feminist... so you have someone to blame! ;) )
The second is my dad. He's always there for me, has always supported me but more than that... i clearly remember being 16 and my dad going through hell at work because he'd promoted a woman to senior engineer over her two male colleagues.
They accused my dad of sleeping with her. There was an investigation and he had to prove he wasn't. I remember the paperwork... the guys had tossed in their cvs and personal statements... hers was the best. But still my dad had to justify that. And he did.
I can remember his anger about the whole thing; he ranted for a while about how unfair it was that this woman was the best candidate for the job but it didn't matter... everyone just assumed.
I guess what i'm trying to say, in this long-winded ramble, is that it takes many people to make equality. It is only with the men on board too that we can achieve true equality.












