[shadowcass]

[bonnybun]

[notabled-noodle]

reminder that I’m a human person

[retrogamingblog2]

Valentines Rose Bulbasaur Figure made by Arkatz

[schizoetic]

Nobody is ever so mentally ill that they don't require or deserve comfort and respect.

[ed-recovery-affirmations]

Treat yourself as someone worthy of better, even if you don't believe it yet. You have to treat yourself like a person of worth to bring better into your life, even if you do not feel worthy yet. You cannot hate yourself into a person you will love.

[20o1-deactivated20240129-deacti]

you will get through this. things will work out in the end.

[mananabuffins]

It’s hard - really hard - to describe executive dysfunction to someone who doesn’t experience it, but here’s my attempt.

Imagine you’re in a car, and are in charge of navigating while someone else drives. You have a list of tasks you must complete. You tell the driver to turn into the grocery store, and they keep going. Alright, at least we’re now we’re closer to the laundromat. Oops, missed that turn, you listening bud? They’re listening, they just don’t care. They park the car and buy candy, or a cold little drink, and they even share! But meanwhile you still don’t have groceries or clean laundry. You ask again to go to the grocery store, and again you are ignored as they drive in circles, not really going anywhere but using up all the gas. The next day, you do this again. And the next day, and the next. After a few days, you’re running out of food so you raise your voice as you pass the grocery store, and startle them into hearing you. They don’t talk to you for the rest of the day because they don’t like being yelled at, but at least you have groceries. At least now that you’ve bought groceries though, you can do laundry- Except you’ve driven past it again, and are once again driving aimlessly. So, again, the next day, you raise your voice. You yell, you shout, and you force them to take the turn. But then the next day they’re back to not talking to you, not listening to you, ignoring you, but your voice is rough and your throat is sore. You ask for help, but all you get is navigational instructions. No matter how much you explain that you know where the grocery store is, that you know how to get to the laundromat, people keep describing the directions while ignoring the issue that you still can’t GET there, because they all drive their own cars and can steer wherever they please. I’m tired of yelling. I’m tired of begging for drives because I can’t make the journey on my own. I’m tired of being in the passenger seat in my own life because I can’t make myself do the things I try to do. I’m tired of paying for fuel to go in circles.

[softdaisie]

take the leap. do the thing you’ve always wanted to. even if doesn’t work out, it’s a whole lot better knowing you tried, rather than letting the “what ifs” eat you alive.

[neurospicy]

I honestly resent the “adhd and autism are superpowers and only struggle because of capitalism” narrative, and I find it deeply flawed and lacking in nuance to the point of being harmful.

Adhd and autism both exist on a spectrum. They are each their own cluster of traits/symptoms, and those exist in varying degrees based on the individual. Are there aspects to adhd and autism that are advantageous? Absolutely, but we can’t pretend that they exist in an advantageous way in all of us. Some people do have the “right” traits, dialed up to the “right” intensity, and that might allow them to take advantage of their neurodivergence in a way that helps them succeed.

That isn’t to say that they don’t also have struggles due to living in a neurotypical world as an adhd’er or autistic, but they might be able to overcome it. Another person may have all the adhd or autistic traits dialed up to 100, to the point that it’s too debilitating for them to take advantage of any positives that might exist. There are high support needs autistics, for one example, who regardless of whether they had to work to afford to live or not, would still need help with living. Help cooking, cleaning, bathing.

I have “severe” adhd and while I don’t have an official autism diagnosis, I know I am autistic. I never related to the energetic, social, novelty-seeking picture that is painted of people who have adhd. My autistic traits cancel out the “positives” of having adhd, while my adhd traits cancel out the “positives” of being autistic. I’m too burnt out and exhausted all of the time to put forth much mental energy. I freak out when things aren’t predictable. I can’t function if the room is too cold. I can’t eat if my food is too cold, too squishy, too chewy, doesn’t have the right sauce available, doesn’t have the drink I like with that particular food, etc. My interests are very narrow so I don’t have the typical adhd love of variety. Yet I also can’t stay organized or follow a routine. I can’t recall information properly when I need to. I’m not patient. I forget things that just happened 30 seconds ago. I can’t plan to save my life.

This also ignores that some people have no comorbidities or they only have one or two. Some have several to contend with. Some of us have learning disabilities. We aren’t all former gifted kids that just can’t follow traditional structures or sit still in class or at the office. Some of us are legitimately debilitated in all aspects of life. Some of us aren’t just struggling with going to a 9-5…some of us can’t even keep a 9-5 because of our symptoms.

Does capitalism make things significantly harder? Absolutely. But if capitalism were to vanish tomorrow, I still wouldn’t have the executive functioning to keep my space clean, to make myself food, or to stay consistent on my own chosen projects. I would still struggle with arfid. I would still have a delayed circadian rhythm. I would still struggle to make appointments and make phone calls for myself. And I would still struggle to connect with others or make friends with people who might help me with these things.

[mentalquotes]

[ek-vitki-pixels]

Look at the sky

[writtenonreceipts-deactivated20]

In this house we love and support Gwyneth Berdara

[geniusoflove]

people are the most interesting thing in the world im obsessed w everyones weird habits and funny stories. the average person is so fucked up that its funny. like no one on earth is normal n u should make it ur job to see why

[saxifraga-x-urbium]

important

Have you ever thought “Man, I feel impossibly shitty and I don’t know why”?

Run through this checklist before you do anything else.

What have I eaten in the last 24 hours? Is it enough? If not, go and eat some food, you butt.

Am I hydrated? If not, put some fluids in your body, fool.

Have I slept an acceptable amount in the last 24 hours and preceeding few days? If not, do your utmost to have a nap. You need a reset, bro.

Have I been outside/partaken in whatever form of exercise I am capable of? You’re stagnating, homie.

Have I communicated with anyone? At all? About anything? In the last 24 hours? Sup, you’re not actually a lone wolf, and even if you’re just shouting BUTTLUMPS at someone over the intertubes, it’s better than shouting it at yourself inside your own head.

So basically: eat, drink, sleep, walk, and talk. If you still feel like emotional ass after that, start looking for more involved explanations.

[foxtalbotnegatives-deactivated2]

This shit is no joke.

[izcon]

All of these are extremely important.

[geardrops]

Adding: 6. Have I communicated too much? Am I overstimulated? Do I need some quiet time? Go stare at a blank wall in utter silence for a bit.

[howtoimpersonateanadult]

People generally need to eat every 3-4 hours, sometimes more often, so if you haven’t eaten anything in the last 4 hours, you likely haven’t had enough.

[aletheyass]

btw you should absolutely read stuff you don’t agree with. you should think critically about it. you should reflect and find different stimuli and maybe even form your own thought based on or opposed to it. ideas aren’t contagious and reading words someone else has told you are “bad” won’t infect you like a virus and make you “evil”. read with your own brain.

[monsterkissed]

there is such a huge difference between “you are not immune to propaganda” talk and acting like words are magical and enough of the wrong ones will automatically override the brain of anyone who reads them and that’s all there is to it and it drives me up the wall bc that difference is the whole key to not falling for propaganda

“i read a lot of right wing nonsense back to back and after a while i could see how it could convince people” yes! exactly! you could recognise the way it was trying to work and presumably it didn’t and that’s why you’re here on tumblrdotcom talking about it and not out there screaming at pride marches or drinking bleach for your case of shingles. your brain kicked in and noticed the mechanisms and instead of stopping to analyse what those were, how you stopped them and how to teach others to do the same you’re acting as if it was some lovecraftian magical mere exposure nonsense and there’s nothing to be done about it. “you are not immune to propaganda” does not mean “there is no way to recognise propaganda, or realise when you are being sold something, or catch it before it goes too far, your only hope is to just never ever look at any of it.” you’re not immune to sunburn either, but you can notice when it’s bright out and wear a hat and some sunscreen.

[pokemon-personalities]

if you’re reading this, i’m putting a thought out into the world for you. a hope that whatever’s worrying you works out in your favor, that a happy moment comes your way, and that you have a heartwarming reason to smile tonight