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honestly when I was isolated and closeted and straight people would talk so negatively about gay people who “made it their whole personality” or whatever, it’d make me so anxious and sad. It was always presented like there were

The Good Gays, who were Just Like Everyone Else, and liked straight things, looked Just Like Everyone Else, and didn’t talk about being gay, and definitely didn’t ‘shove it in anyone’s face’ or let it ‘define them.’

and then there were

The Bad Gays, who, from what I could tell, were flamboyant gay men and butch lesbians (f*gs and d*kes), proudly out gay people, gay people who liked rainbows and gay culture, politically active gay people, gay people who talked about being gay all the time, gay people with lisps, gay people who are angry, gay people who don’t “pass” as straight, gay people who love being gay and being around other gay people

And I spent so much time early on internally scolding myself. I thought it was wrong to think & talk about being gay 24/7 and enjoy gay culture and feel safest in LGBT spaces. I would always feel guilty and embarrassed every time I brought up anything gay. I thought maybe after a while I’d ‘get it out of my system’ or something and not feel the need for it to ‘define me’ anymore, but it never went away, that intense connection and joy from LGBT spaces and culture.

But now, look: I have this blog where I can just share every gay thought I have with y’all day after day and no one’s annoyed with me for it. In fact, it’s something that’s appreciated! And I can follow a hundred other blogs by folks doing the same.

I am The Bad Gay and I love Bad Gays. I’m so relieved to have found you all.

ukstudentalpha

Respectability Politics is something I find really tiresome. It creates a space in which financially stable queer people with plenty of social capital can be accepted. That’s all. It gives middle class monogamous gay men, for example, a niche they can fill in a community which wouldn’t accept them if they behaved at all differently. And in the long run it does a lot to hamper the development of genuine unconditional acceptance.

Society should accept gay men whether they spend time fucking strangers in saunas, or raising a family with their husband in the suburbs. We shouldn’t be placed in a position where LGBT people are made to mimic the lives of “normal” people. Of course, there’s nothing wrong with being a “Good” Gay either, but there’s a lot wrong with a culture which embraces gay people on very conditional terms.

It’s okay if gay men are promiscuous or polyamorous. It’s okay is gay men are effeminate, and it’s okay if lesbians are butch or masculine. It’s okay is trans people don’t pass. It’s okay if the way people dress or style their hair makes it obvious that they’re queer. No one should have to pretend to be “normal” if they don’t want to.