Exclusionism is NOT bigotry and hostility !
Labeling every one as "lesbian" is like labeling every fruit as "apple"
I have a question:
Is everyone who says "we should not label orange as apple", enemy of orange?
Do everyone who says "we should not use the word "cat" for "dog", discriminating against cats?
So why do some of us, think that people who say "men can not use lesbian label for themselves" , are enemy of men ?
Why do we think that assigning the word lesbian to women and female-aligned non-binaries, means enmity with those who are not women or fem-aligned? Please understand that the use of words and labels for certain things is to prevent words get meaningless, not to discriminate against those who are excluded from these words. I believe that the term lesbian should be used only for women or fem-aligned enbies, because otherwise words and topics become meaningless, and I also believe that insisting on including men in the identity of lesbians is a form of heterosexualization of queer women, although some ppl think it is the opposite. According to many, this issue will de-radicalize the lesbian community and not radicalize the lesbian identity.