The Briar Strewn Path

"The Briar-Strewn Path, upon which some trod in booted feet, while others crawl on hands and knees": This how, in my much younger and more melodramatic days, I had described the kinky lifestyle and tendencies. I have been married many years, but I have ever only been with the one man, and even though we have dabbled in BDSM/D/s in the past, but I daresay I have less experience than many of you. Having newly come into the idea of a 24/7 D/s lifestyle, I do not presume to have any answers or advice, but I hope to learn from and share my experiences with others who have are traveling this same prickly path. I would welcome any comments and suggestions from fellow travelers, particularly other female submissives. At this point, I do not call myself a slave, or a full-time sub, or anything that needs defining. I am merely a woman who wishes to learn how to show her Husband the love and devotion that He deserves. This is my first time joining any "alternative lifestyle" community, real or internet; I am also new at actually writing down my thoughts on this subject matter and having other people read them (eek!) And lastly, also my first time using Tumblr (so much new!), so please bear with me as I learn and grow. This site is NSFW, and for folks 18 years or older.

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I adore the socks

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Tell me what to do!

A friendly person suggested a task for me to do recently it was so enjoyable I figured I’d open myself up to other suggestions from Tumblr!

The rules are simple:

Punish my pussy. This means no anal, no tied tits, none of that. My pussy is yours to use and abuse, and that’s it.

Punish my pussy. I like pain. I don’t just want to edge for hours on end (although a couple edges are fun), I want to hurt! Make me regret asking for this!

Please don’t ask me for pictures as I won’t be taking any. If you’d like to hear how everything goes, please let me know! You can either send me a message or an ask or request that I make the report public by posting it on my blog after. But I won’t know what to do if you don’t tell me so I won’t do anything unless I’m told!

If you’d like a list of items I own that I’d be willing to use for this task, send me a message and I’d be happy to go over everything with you. Otherwise, send all your dirty, painful ideas my way!

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Have you tried Icy Hot? It's brutal, but only lasts a few minutes.

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Date night

With Him balls deep in my ass, my arms clasped behind me and trapped between our bodies, He nuzzled my ear as he placed a hand on my throat. No pressure, just a firm grip. As His legs wound over mine and spread them wide apart, I whimpered and started to beg, knowing it was pointless: a good, long pussy spanking was long overdue.

Even braced for it, the first hard slap still took my by complete surprise. The sharp crack of it echoed down the hall. Then another. And another. It was a steady stream of slaps, always landing squarely on my pussy no matter how much I struggled and jerked, still impaled on His cock. With my legs pinned and trapped by His, there was not much I can do but struggle uselessly, sobbing and pleading against his neck. I could barely hear His moan of pleasure through the sounds of the spanking and my own frantic pleading. The beating went on and on, and then, as abruptly as it began, it stopped.

He rubbed his whole hand over my bare pussy, which by now was soaked and throbbing. "Mmm, I like the way your ass clenches on my cock when I do this" He whispered in my ear as He gave my pussy a harsh pinch. I was already so sore from the spanking I could barely stifle my screams as He tortured my empty pussy, gripping and twisting the swollen flesh. And then came what will be the worst of it. He stroked His thumb over my clit, rubbing it methodically until my hips were bouncing up to strain against His hand. My frantic pleading had changed into begging to be allowed to come. I was SO close!! Just as my body tightened, right on the verge of orgasm, He stopped and chuckled. "Not today. I like you this desperate."

I think that made me cry harder than the spanking. With a firm hand on my throat, He gripped my pussy with the other, fingers slipping into it easily, and started to thrust into me and came hard in my ass. He made me lick his hand clean before allowing me to disengage, still trembling from pain and frustrated need.

What an epic date night!

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1. Choose Joy It’s true: A happy wife makes a happy life. Please don’t use moodiness as an attempt to manipulate your man, but in all things rejoice, because that’s the right thing to do. (1 Thessaonians 5:16; Philippians 4:4)

2. Honor His Wishes Give weight to what your husband thinks is important. Make those things a priority that matter most to him, whether it’s having dinner ready when he gets home from work or keeping the house tidy or limiting computer time. Don’t make him ask twice. (Philippians 2:4)

3. Give Him Your Undivided Attention Yes, I know that women are masters of multi-tasking, but when your husband is speaking to you, make a point to lay other tasks aside, look into his eyes, and listen to what he is saying with the goal of understanding and remembering his words.

4. Don’t Interrupt Have you ever been around a person who won’t let you finish a sentence? That gets old fast. Even if you think you already know what your husband is going to say, allowing him to say it without cutting him off mid-sentence shows both respect and common courtesy.

5. Emphasize His Good Points Sure, he has his faults (as do you), but dwelling on them will only make you (both) miserable. Choose instead to focus on those qualities in your husband that you most admire.

6. Pray for Him Faithfully lift up your husband in prayer every day, and you will likely notice a transformation not only in him, but in yourself, as well.

7. Don’t Nag Your husband is a grown man, so don’t treat him like a two-year-old.

8. Be Thankful Cultivate an attitude of gratitude. Don’t take your husband for granted. Be appreciative for everything he does for you, whether big or small. Always say thank you.

9. Smile at Him Smiles spread happiness. Smiles have even been shown to create happiness. Smiles are contagious. And a smile makes any woman more beautiful.

10. Respond Physically Did you know that the way you respond (or don’t respond) to your husband’s romantic overtures has a profound effect on his self-confidence? Don’t slap him away when he tries to hug you or make excuses when he’s in the mood. Your enthusiastic cooperation and reciprocation will not only assure him of your love, but will make him feel well-respected, too.

11. Eyes Only for Him Don’t compare your husband unfavorably to other men, real or imaginary. It is neither fair nor respectful and will only breed trouble and discontent. Avoid watching movies or reading books that might cause you to stumble in this area, as well.

12. Kiss Him Goodbye Success and respect often go hand-in-hand, so be sure to send him off right, and don’t forget to greet him with a kiss when he returns home, for good measure.

13. Prepare His Favorite Foods Although the rest of the family is not overly-fond of spaghetti, my husband loves it, so I try to make it at least two or three times a month as a way to honor him. Next time you’re planning meals, give special consideration to your husband’s preferences.

14. Cherish Togetherness I love to sit near my husband, whether at home or away. Our church shares potluck dinners every Sunday afternoon, and although the men and women normally sit separately to visit, I like to position myself close enough to my husband that I can listen to the conversation, as I think everything he says is so interesting. At home, I’ll take my book or handwork to whatever room in the house he’s working in, just to be close to him, because I enjoy his company, even when neither of us is talking.

15. Don’t Complain Nobody wants to be around a whiner or complainer. It is grating on the nerves.

16. Resist the Urge to Correct I know one wife whose spouse can’t tell a story without her stopping him fifteen times to correct inconsequential details: “It wasn’t Monday evening, it was Monday afternoon…. It wasn’t blue, it was turquoise…. He didn’t ride the bus, he took a shuttle.” Please. Please. Please. Don’t ever do that to your husband — or to anyone else, for that matter!

17. Dress to Please Him Take care of your appearance. Choose clothes your husband finds flattering, both in public and around the house.

18. Keep the House Tidy To the best of your abilities, try to maintain a clean and orderly home. Seek to make it a haven of rest for your entire family.

19. Be Content Do not pressure your husband to keep up with the Jonses. Take satisfaction in the lifestyle he is able to provide for you.

20. Take His Advice Do not dismiss his opinions lightly, especially when you’ve asked for his counsel in the first place. Make every effort to follow your husband’s advice.

21. Admire Him Voiced compliments and heartfelt praise are always welcome, but you should also make it your habit to just look at your husband in a respectful, appreciative way. Think kind thoughts toward him. He’ll be able to see the admiration in your eyes.

22. Protect His Name Honor your husband in the way you speak of him to family and friends. Guard his reputation and do not let minor disagreements at home cause you to speak ill of him in public. Live in such a way that it will be obvious to others why your husband married you in the first place.

23. Forgive His Shortcomings Please do not hold grudges against your husband. Do not allow a root of bitterness or resentment find a home in your heart. Forgive your husband.

24. Don’t Argue You are not always right, and you do not always have to have the last word. Be the first to say, “I’m sorry.” Be willing to accept the blame. It takes two to argue.

25. Follow His Lead If you want your husband to lead, you must be willing to follow. Neither a body nor a family can function well with two heads. Learn to defer to your husband’s wishes and let final decisions rest with him.

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So one of the first things we re instituted after a long break from a more structured D/s relationship, was permanent orgasm denial for me.  Being constantly aroused with no relief keeps me eager to please, and makes me a better sub.  I am never allowed to masturbate and cum on my own, but He may occasionally grant me an orgasm, but only when He is balls-deep in my ass, because He enjoys the way my asshole convulses around His cock when I cum. I love being dripping wet, frantically fucking my ass onto Him, and incoherently begging to cum and being told “no”.  Probably more than He does.

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Fell of the face of the Earth, due to presence of newborn baby, but now that she’s nearly 3, a lot of things are coming back. Relearning my submissive lifestyle, and will update.

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Deepthroat training

For the past few months I've been focused on learning to deepthroat, with some progress.  I have spent a total of many hours practicing, but it's every bit as hard as I expected it to be, unfortunately.  Lately, towards the end, the Husband will thrust His cock in all the way and cum down my throat, making me choke and gag, and usually I throw up afterwards.  I hate hate hate it, but as I keep reminding myself:  It's easy and fun to submit to something sexy that you already want to do; it's much harder when it's not, but the whole point of total submission is that I don't get to pick and choose when and why to submit.

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Time to advance my training

I think it's been about six months since we last had vaginal sex.  The Husband has been exclusively using my mouth and ass for His pleasure, and using my pussy only to tease or punish me.  Honestly, I don't miss it all that much, but I think He misses the variety, but of course, it's available for Him to use if He wishes to.  On the other hand, He appreciates that all the work He had put into training me anally has paid off, and that I am willing and able to lube up and work my ass on His cock on command without whining or trying to get out of it!!  Now I can't even remember why it was ever such an ordeal!  So I think it's time to work on my deep throating skills!  I have a fairly sensitive gag reflex, and He has a fairly large cock, so this will be quite a challenge, but He has made it clear that He wants me to be able to take it all the way down.  Might make for some long sessions of cock sucking in the near future, but I can't think of a better way to spend my night than being on my knees, learning how to please my Husband.

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Life goes on, with kids and visitors and whatnot.  We are not able to keep up with a weekly schedule of beating and ass-fucking that I need, but we manage.  When we go too long without, like more than 3 weeks, I start getting restless and irritable, and I can get mean!  He is always reluctant to bring out the “big stick”, (no it’s not a euphemism, it’s literally a big stick!) but He loves how sweet and well-behaved I am for about a week after he firmly applies it to my ass... 

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Denial

I think everyone is familiar with the concept of orgasm denial by now, even if you don’t practice it.  I noticed that when I was getting off regularly, I was content and lazy, and not as quick to respond or as enthusiastic as when it has been a few days.  And so we have decided that I will no longer orgasm for my own benefit, (i.e. alone), and that I will only be allowed to come while He’s inside me, so that my orgasm can enhance His, when He wants to enjoy them.  And He has not requested one since April...  ><  Honestly, He’s so tender-hearted, if I were to ask, He will more than likely let me.  The hard part is self-discipline required not to ask!

BTW, the lovely sub who runs http://mysubmissionjournal.tumblr.com/ has a long and lovely post about this, but I can’t seem to find it today...

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Attitude adjustment

When I’m being bitchy for no good reason and Husband beats my ass for it.

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If only the Husband had known this earlier, it would have saved us a lot of heartache...  Now He keeps a very large stick handy, and is quick to whip it out too.  Sometimes just a couple of good whacks is just what I need to reset my mood!

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So I created this little device today, but have not had a chance to test it out, and might not for some time.  The theory is to attach the clothespin to a sub's pussy, or any other sensitive area, and the other to a fixed point, such as a doorknob.  Then make the sub move away in an excruciating slow manner (emphasis on the "excruciating").  Maybe inching away while hogtied, or shuffling with her feet bound together, until each clothespin is released.  Or maybe some other method of slowly, slowly taking up all the string.Basically like a "zipper", but slower, and more random. If anyone gets a chance, try it out and let me know how it works out.  I have a feeling tangling will be an issue...  This is just something I came up with today, so if you have any suggestions for improvement, send me a note!

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I can easily imagine belonging to one man for my entire life, but he would have to be a whole man, a man who would dominate me, who would subjugate me by his innate strength, do you understand? And every man—I know this very well—as soon as he falls in love becomes weak, pliable, ridiculous. He puts himself into the woman’s hands, kneels down before her. The only man whom I could love permanently would be he before whom I should have to kneel.

Wanda, Leopold von Sacher-Masoch’s Venus in Furs (via lewdlittlegirl)

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"I wanted to take my frustration out on something"

"I wanted to take my frustration out on something.”  Those were probably the hottest thing coming out of my Husband's mouth, maybe ever.  It is in essence, a line from the movie Fight Club that always gives me thrills.  It's still makes my heart skip a beat thinking about it days later. :)   We were getting into bed when He wordlessly handed me the tube of lube.  I was really surprised because it had been a particularly trying day for Him, dealing with insurance and such, and He usually isn't in the mood after.  He wasn't rough with me, but it was definitely a straightforward-no-nonsense kind of fucking that I had been needing.  And I think my anal training is complete and successful, because after more than a month without any penetration, I was still able to take His cock fairly quickly.  Afterwards, He said that it was sweet to be able to go straight to fucking my ass without foreplay, or whining, or crying off like before, which was the ultimate goal of the training.  And when I asked "What brought this on?", He said the magical words above.  Maybe HE could use some "training" to encourage this mentality...

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Curious if my reply helped?

Sure, It’s always helpful to have another opinion, a fresh point of view! You are absolutely right about the “spark”.  It’s easy to have crazy, spontaneous sex when you’re twenty and newly wed; after 10 plus years and a couple of kids, it takes serious planning and a bit of luck to have ANY kind of sex, LOL 

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..... To see how your husband handles the dom role. Or maybe your looking for a different experience all together. Have you spoken or hinted to your husband about your desires. As a guy - I'm always open to my gf desires if it makes her happy & turned on. Just a thought - my apologies if this comes across wrong. Just wanting to help. Thks - new follower

Ah no, I feel like maybe my posts are misrepresenting me if that’s what you got from it.  Let’s see if I can condense it clearly.  (I am new to writing anything, so please forgive)  We had a fairly spice-y sex life before children, with a moderate amount of toys and such, but the D/s was limited to the bedroom.  Or at least to the sex part…  Now I am wanting to expand it into our day to day life.  The D/s mentality, at least, not so much the attending kink.  I.E I cook dinner and serve Him at the table, but obviously I can not do it wearing heels and lingerie, with kids running around the backyard, and quite often, we have relatives who come to visit for weeks at a time.  I guess I mean to say that I am trying to live and behave in a way that has Him as a focus point, so that I can make His life easier or more enjoyable, even (maybe especially?) if it’s not something I enjoy.  Non-sex examples are packing His lunch and get His things together before He goes off to work, or sitting down and watching The Daily Show with Him, even though I don’t think Jon Stewart is nearly as hilarious as Jon Stewart thinks he is, and I would much rather be bent over and fucked, or at least be on Pinterest :P  And sex examples is anal and deep throating, although I have learned to enjoy anal, and still learning to deep throat.  

And I mentioned that I’ve only been with one man not because I am interested in other men, but that in some cases, I have no basis for comparison.  Ok, like this:  the Husband is much taller than I am, so when I go to hug Him, I hug Him around the waist.  But on the rare occasion when I go to hug a male friend or relative who are not so tall, I sort of awkwardly side-hug their shoulders, and it feels really weird to me.  This is kind of a silly example, but do you see my point, if this applied to the bedroom? 

Anyways, didn’t mean to be quite so long-winded, but it was a great opportunity for me to put a coherent thought together (very difficult to do being sleep-deprived as I am with a small baby).  Thanks for the ask, and have a great day :)