edward allen bro

casually stab me

[brosephballin-blog]

(1/2) So I've been gender questioning for a good while and I think I might be nb, but I don't know? I am dfab and I don't feel the need to go through surgery but I feel like I'm not fully comfortable with being "female." But part of me is more afraid of the reaction from friends and family

(2/2) if I were to tell them about this. Like I'm worried they'll think I'm just trying to be special like when I came out as ace so idk what to do about anything. Idk if what I'm experiencing is dysphoria and I dress femme a lot so I'm just really confused. Sorry idk why I'm bothering you with this

Hi friend, sorry if this is late, I haven't been online in a while :/ First of all, don't get too caught up in what others say or may think. If you don't feel comfortable being female or feel a disconnect from being female, then you're most likely experiencing some form of dysphoria (which is totally alright!). And if you wanna say you're nb, go for it! It's ok to be confused and it's ok to not feel comfortable or ready to come out, so if you want to, take your time. But if you do decide to come out and they try to shut you down, explain to them that you just wanna be respected n it's hurtful when they say you just wanna be special. I don't know if I'm being helpful at all, but if you wanna talk more about it then feel welcome to, both on and off anon. I hope you wade through your confusion and figure yourself out soon, I know it can suck to not be able to know who you are and not be taken seriously. Good luck!!

[askatruscum]

Never respond to your birthname or the wrong pronoun. Do not allow anyone to get away with referring to you as the wrong thing.

Bring other friends and family around who refer to you as your name. If everyone in the room calls you ‘she’ and your parents still refer to you as ‘he’, it’s going to...

[brosephballin-blog]

Seriously, it's fine if we disagree and argue about our points of view, but DON'T put words in my mouth or assume what I believe or don't believe. Just because I'm truscum don't mean I agree with the opinions of every single truscum out there or that I'm literally Hitler.

[pizzaback-deactivated20201011]

I still can’t believe there are cis truscum

[brosephballin-blog]

Aka doctors? The ones who diagnose people? And prescribe hormones? And perform SRS? Yeah, I can’t believe it either.

[pizzaback-deactivated20201011]

i really don’t think any of those people are truscum omfg

[brosephballin-blog]

…

[vappy-deactivated20151219]

Are they saying that they think someone needs to be recieving prescribed medical attention to be trans

[all-mighty-idiot-former-deactiv]

"Why are dysphoric trans and nb people thrown under the bus so that non-dysphoric cis people can feel special and catered to in a community they don’t belong in?"

considering that this is a post on their blog, yeah probably

[brosephballin-blog]

Actually I DON'T believe someone needs to be on hormones, undergo surgery or do anything like that to be trans. A lot of people can't afford it or choose not to do it for several reasons. All I'm saying is a doctor most likely won't believe you're trans if you don't have dysphoria, because, y'know, that IS the defining symptom. Doctors, like truscum, think you need to have dysphoria to be trans. Most doctors are cis. That is all I'm saying.

[pizzaback-deactivated20201011]

I still can’t believe there are cis truscum

[brosephballin-blog]

Aka doctors? The ones who diagnose people? And prescribe hormones? And perform SRS? Yeah, I can’t believe it either.

[pizzaback-deactivated20201011]

i really don’t think any of those people are truscum omfg

[brosephballin-blog]

Truscum = people who believe you need dysphoria to be trans. Doctors = people who believe you need dysphoria to be trans.

[pizzaback-deactivated20201011]

I still can’t believe there are cis truscum

[brosephballin-blog]

Aka doctors? The ones who diagnose people? And prescribe hormones? And perform SRS? Yeah, I can't believe it either.

[brosephballin-blog]

All I want for Christmas is more easily accessable treatment for trans folks and to be taken seriously, like, once.

[hellhound-gytrash]

Trying to "cure" Trans people into being cis Vs. Medical treatment for dysphoria

I think some of you outside the transmedicalist community don’t understand that the transmedicalist view of treatment isn’t at all like anti-gay conversion therapy. We’re not advocating denial of gender in favor of biological sex. We’re advocating the validation of what’s between your ears.

What is so repulsive about helping people who are miserable and feeling mismatched get a chance to feel comfortable in their own skin?

[brosephballin-blog]

The holiday season can be extra painful and dysphoria-inducing for trans people, but hang in there, you'll get through this.

[brosephballin-blog]

Why are dysphoric trans and nb people thrown under the bus so that non-dysphoric cis people can feel special and catered to in a community they don't belong in?

[light-of-being]

I have been putting this off for a reeeally long time because it’s so highly controversial, but it needs to be said. This misinformation is causing a lot of damage as it goes mainstream. Sorry for the length. *prepares for the hatemail*

You can be born male and wear frilly pink dresses, be...

[infinitimatti]

"dysphoric privilege" IM TRYING TO SCREAM BUT ONLY QUESTION MARKS COME OUT

[brosephballin-blog]

To all of you who think that the idea that gender is a choice isn't hurting anyone, let me tell you something. I was forcefully outed by my mother after my suicide attempt this summer. She told absolutely everyone I know, and now several family members have ceased contact with me. It spread around school somehow, and several of my friends not only left me, but also spread rumours about me. Some even physically abused me before any teachers could intervene. People have called me so many disgusting things. I can't have PE anymore, because I was harrassed in the wardrobe. Only two people kept being my friends, but I have barely even seen either of them since it got out. I'm not allowed to come to their homes anymore because of their parents. Now that it's almost Christmas, a lot of my family members are visiting. Some of them aren't talking to me, but the ones who are have asked me a lot of uncomfortable questions. One of them being "Why would you choose to be this way?" I am not choosing it. It's going though this, or dying. No one is even calling me by my preferred pronouns. A few days ago, at a family dinner, I asked to be called a different name. I was ignored. Don't ask me why I care so much when people say that gender is a choice. I don't know why anyone in their right minds would choose to go though this. It's a serious condition that makes me and countless of others wish they were dead instead of having to deal with it. It's not a goddamn accessory. Don't treat it as such.

[brosephballin-blog]

@ that person asking how choosing to be gay hurts anyone: MAYBE it's because homophobes have been saying forever that gay people are choosing to be that way and "choosing to be gay" if you're clearly not gay only reinforces the idea that sexuality is a choice?

[brosephballin-blog]

Why is it that every time I see a tucute saying what truscum are, they're always like "thryre gross binary trans men who believe u have to hate urself to be trans and they hate trans women and theyre ableist af" but when a truscum is asked what tucutes are, they're usually just like "people who dont think u need dysphoria to be trans or thats you can choose to be trans". I get that tucutes don't like truscum but you're being very subjective and often making up things to make your point of view seem right.

[brosephballin-blog]

"trans men are pushing trans women out of safe spaces :(" Really? In what universe? Trans women get all the representation in the media, bad AND good, but when was the last time you ever saw a trans guy at all on TV? Don't even get me started on tumblr, where trans women are revered and trans men are constantly thrown under the bus. I don't HAVE any safe spaces. That's the goddamn problem.

[brosephballin-blog]

i'm getting bad again these days and i dont know what to do, my next therapy session isnt for another month and i dont know how to hold out until then... :/