A Neophyte's Den

[nickmillers]

[pawneeian-turtles]

#no one realizes the significance of this #the point of this movie is not that you will find another love #it’s that douches like tom will keep falling into the cycle of chasing a manic pixie dream girl #and probably think that she’s the one #but guess what? just because you listen to the same music or because she has a cute name #doesn’t mean that you’re meant for each other #500 days of summer the most misunderstood hipster hit the world has ever seen

And let’s talk about the fact that Joseph Gordon Levitt himself said the point of the movie is not so you’d feel bad for him and fall in love with him, it’s so you’d realize how selfish some people are. Actual quote from him from an interview: The (500) Days of Summer attitude of ‘He wants you so bad’ seems attractive to some women and men, especially younger ones but I would encourage anyone who has a crush on my character to watch it again and examine how selfish he is.” “He develops a mildly delusional obsession over a girl onto whom he projects all these fantasies. He thinks she’ll give his life meaning because he doesn’t care about much else going on in his life. A lot of boys and girls think their lives will have meaning if they find a partner who wants nothing else in life but them. That’s not healthy. That’s falling in love with the idea of a person, not the actual person.”

[s-till-s-ane]

TOM IS LITERALLY MY EX BOYFRIEND I JUST REALIZED THIS AND HE EVEN COMPARED HIMSELF TO HIM DURING OUR BREAKUP

[onlinecounsellingcollege]

If you have to beg someone to be in your life, they don’t deserve to be there.

Mandy Hale (via onlinecounsellingcollege)

[onlinecounsellingcollege]

Sometimes being a friend means mastering the art of timing. There is a time for silence. A time to let go and allow people to hurl themselves into their own destiny. And a time to prepare to pick up the pieces when it’s all over.

Gloria Naylor (via onlinecounsellingcollege)

[buzzfeedcentral]

Children Of Asian Immigrants Reveal Sacrifices Their Parents Made 

[zwamboobs-deactivated20161210]

Fuck

[theoldreclaimingasia]

There is a huge, huge difference between when people like my family mixes their native language and English together in a sentence, and you peppering random Asian words (e.g. Korean and Japanese that you learned from anime or Kpop) into your English sentence. What my family does is called code-switching (common among bilingual or multilingual speakers), but what you’re doing is accessorizing and appropriating. So don’t give me that “if Asians can mix their language and English together in a sentence, I can, too!” No. 

[thirst-empress-deactivated20170]

Things KPOP/K Hip-hop fans need to stop doing /EDITED:

• Being queerphobic - To say that idols can’t be anything than heterosexual is ridiculous. You have hundreds of idols of different backgrounds and experiences, to say that none of them could be queer is just small minded and downright ignorant. But this also implies to fans who only want an idol to be gay “so their ship can come true”. Or say “As long as their gay for the person I ship them with I’m happy if their gay”. Guess what? You’re just as small minded and ignorant as the person who doesn’t want to believe in queer idols.

• Shaming Female Idols - Don’t start calling female idols/celebrities “sluts” because she came two feet within your fav. Female idols work just as hard as male idols, if not even harder. Misogyny is rampant in the entertainment industry. They deserve the same respect as male idols. 

• Fatphobia - Idols like B.A.P’s Himchan have literally talked about suffering from a eating disorder. Idols have even talked about living on “water diets”. Idols are force to starve themselves to be the “prefect” or “desired” weight. So please don’t say “____ should lose weight” or “____ is hotter now since they lost weight”.

• Using AAVE incorrectly - Stop making posts saying an idol is “bae as fuck”. You look like a damn fool. If you aren’t 100% sure what a word means don’t use it. With that being said don’t make fake subs of an idol saying “nigga”. No nonblack person should be saying nigga in the first damn place. And if you are not black you have no right to tell black people they shouldn’t say nigga either. That is our word to reclaim. 

• Anti-Blackness - Y'all ain’t slick. Anytime an idol gets within 2 feet of a Black person some of you start singing “I hope Oppa is safe” or “Those girls need to back up”. But when they’re near a Korean girl or white girl it’s always ‘I’m so jealous!“. When BTS was in L.A that was majority of the comments.

• “Pedonoona” - This isn’t funny. If you are a grown woman, stop lusting after an idol under 18. Nothing is cute or quirky about a 20+ year old woman wanting to have sex with a person who’s still in high-school. You are NOT “admiring” them, so don’t try use that as an excuse when you get called out. As much as male kpop fans get dragged for making sexual comments about younger female idols, female fans doing it should be no different. I’m honestly disgusted by the amount of fans trying to defend their pedophilia. If you take a person telling that you are revolting for sexualizing a minor as them telling you what to do, you need serious help.

• Leaving gross comments on idol’s SNS - Again, this isn’t funny. A man telling a woman he hardly knows “how hard I am” or to “suck my dick” is the exact same thing when a woman tells a man she hardly knows “how wet I am” or to “eat me out”. If you can’t message an idol to have a decent conversation, don’t do it at all.

• “That’s just how Korea is!” - Stop. Don’t you dare clump all 50 million people together when your 1 bias fucks up. That’s not how Korea is, that’s how YOUR fav is. Korean fans have said time and time again to stop saying this. Why? Because it’s a racist generalization of their culture. When Korean fans can admit that an idol fucked up then international fans need to do the same.

• Whitewashing - Honestly, it’s like beating a dead horse at this point. It’s already been proven that it is possible to make a picture brighter without touching an idol’s skin tone. A simple Google search will get you hundreds of tutorials on how to not alter a person’s skin. You’re just being lazy and refuse to learn how to make better edits if you claim it’s not impossible to bleach an idol in an edit. You claim to love everything about an idol but constantly make their skin lighter?

• Defending EYK - Just don’t. People have stated so many times why these people are nothing but gross racists. Everything down to their refusal to improve their butchered Korean, only to make fun of idols’ English to their “Gender Guessing” game. Do I even need to go into detail on why referring to a human being as “it” is just downright dehumanizing. Not to mention just how transphobic the entire game is to assume a person’s gender just because they have feminine or masculine features. Just stop defending them.

• Groping Idols - Do I really have to explain why touching a person you don’t know inappropriately is wrong? I know it’s exciting seeing your bias up close in person but don’t put your hands on them.

• Making fun idols’ “Engrish” - If you expect a person who grew up in Korea their entire life to speak perfect English is just astounding. If you can barely say ‘hello’ in Korean don’t you dare poke fun at their English.

• D*rp/R*tard jokes - Ableism isn’t funny. Mental illnesses are nothing that needs to be made fun of. You’re not showing your quirky way of showing love to someone. And don’t say these words are not directly making fun of people with neurological disorders.Because where do you think these word came from? It shouldn’t be hard to take these words out of your vocabulary and edits.

• Inappropriate Gifts - Stop giving idols your panties, menstrual blood, sex toys, or OTP fanart/ fanfics. Why would you think that shit is cute in the first place?

• Transphobia - Idols like F(x) Amber and Nu'est Ren have talked about how much it hurts them when fans misgender. Amber has been in tears discussing how much it hurts when fans call her oppa. And Ren has spoken about being harassed in men’s restrooms because of his appearance. Just don’t do it.

• “Oppa/ Unni didn’t mean it!” - Yeah, just because a person’s intentions weren’t harmful doesn’t mean the end result wasn’t. We’ve all done problematic things but we all get called out on it. When we get called out we learn from it and know not to do it again. Cradling your fav when they do something offensive isn’t helping them learn. If you were not personally offended an idol does something offensive don’t tell others they shoudn’t be. Because 9/10 if you weren’t offeneded by it, it’s not something that effects you. 

• Fetishing - You don’t “have a thing” for Koreans. You just like some Korean idols. “Loving Asian men” is not a compliment. And by Asian you really just mean East Asian. Again clumping some million people together is a racist generalization. So don’t date East Asian men and women only because they remind you of your fav. Don’t hold these men and women on a higher pedestal than any other race solely because you watched a kdrama and you think Korean people are like your favorite character. Just don’t.

• Taking down about American Hip-Hop - There’s no way in Hell that people who adopted a genre are better at it than the people who created it. K Hip-hop lyrics are no different from American lyrics. To make claim that K Hip-hop artists have “better lyrics” American rap is just amazing. What makes your fav any different? Korean rappers are always saying their biggest inspiration was in fact an American rapper. If it weren’t for Black Americans creating yet another genre of music your Korean fav wouldn’t be where they are today.

[lexsfosters]

[biscuitsarenice]

Lindiwe Mazibuko - South African Politician - Former Parliamentary Leader for the Democratic Alliance  and the first black woman to lead the parliamentary opposition in the National Assembly.

[yourbigsisnissi]

men are so gross sometimes

[blackfashion]

She is everything. WHERE IS HER MOVIE?

[thahalfrican]

this is unreal, its really that childish in power

[prettyboyshyflizzy]

smh @ everyone laughing, This is terrible

[stopwhitepeopleforever]

Screenshots from my rant on Eurocentric beauty standards. Please ignore the typos.

[angryhijabi]

Fuck internalized racism.

It turns us into monsters.

Today in class the professor had us partner up with someone else and discuss an issue with each other. One person would write and the other would read it out loud to the class.

A very quiet Iraqi lady came up to me and asked to be my partner. I am normally a very talkative student so I thought this was the perfect opportunity for me to lay low and let someone else take the stage. I asked her if she would like to be the presenter and she said, “I can’t. I have an accent and no one can understand what I am saying.” So I said, “I can understand you.” She said, “Thanks but my children make fun of me. They say ‘mom be quiet, no one can even understand what you’re saying’.”

This made me realize what a shitty human being I am because I used to say the exact same thing to my parents back when I tried to hard to please my racist classmates and before I realized how amazing it was that my parents were fluent in more languages than most of them would learn in their entire lifetime.

The fact is, people with thick non-anglo accents are perfectly aware of how the world sees them. That’s why my classmate, a brilliant woman, hasn’t said a single word out loud in class. That’s why my aunt, tired of being mocked for her accent, asks my sister to make all her important phone calls for her. That’s why sometimes even I use smaller words when I am talking because I can’t pronounce all the words I can write.

McGill University recently fired a professor because he had an accent. One of my other classmates, who is fluent in English, is fighting for his right to not be forced to write the TOEFL, which is usually waived for students with his educational background. And finally, last but not least, I know my accent is the biggest reason why I walked out of the American embassy in Saudi Arabia with a visa stamped on my passport moments after I arrived while all the other applicants were thoroughly questioned and, in some cases, rejected.

Dear POCs, fucking stop making fun of other people’s accents. They already have a hard enough time dealing with a system that marginalizes them. Fight for them, not with them. Always remember, you are not superior to other people just because you speak the language of your colonizers fluently.

[afadthatlastsforever]

Why should a relationship mean settling down? Wait out for someone who won’t let life escape you, who’ll challenge you and drive you toward your dreams. Someone spontaneous you can get lost in the world with. A relationship, with the right person, is a release not a restriction.

Beau Taplin // The Liberation  (via likeabullot)

[alwaysbewoke]

[willywonka-suicidecamps]

^^ what I’ve been saying for so long

[themegatrontrail-deactivated201]

canada actually kept its Japanese citizens interned until 1949, a full FOUR YEARS after the war’s end and three years after the United States released their Japanese citizens

[bunbunlauren]

Fuck Canada

[micdotcom]

Watch: Bernie Sanders delivered a stirring speech at religious school Liberty University about reaching across the ideological aisle.

[notational]

This is the single classiest, most inspiring move I’ve seen in American politics over the course of my lifetime.

[onlinecounsellingcollege]

6 Types of Loneliness

There are 6 main types of loneliness:

1. Interpersonal loneliness: This is the result of losing a significant, or intimate, relationship.

2. Social loneliness: This is where a person is on the fringes of a group, excluded from a group, or is actively rejected.

3. Cultural loneliness: This is where a person belongs to a different culture and feels that they don’t fit, or belong, in the new culture.

4. Intellectual loneliness: This is where a person feels intellectually, or educationally, out of synch with their peers, their family or their social group.

5. Psychological loneliness: This is where a person has experienced a trauma that separates them out from others around them. That is, it’s something other people can’t fully understand.

6. Existential or cosmic loneliness: This is an isolating loneliness experienced by a person who is facing death.

[forevers]

asian racism is so fucking trivialized and it’s all bc the whites managed to hide real fucking problems under this facade of a veil called the ‘model minority’.. like how are all of you gonna tell me that asians don’t face racism when we get stereotyped to the point of causing mental disorders within our communities, when our women are hypersexualized and when our men are desexualized, when using our culture is used an accessory and dismissed as simply being “pretty”, when important traditions from our cultures are thrown away by western people because they see them as uncouth or uncivilized,when we invented and created so much shit for the world but we are only recognized by “slanty eyes”, when our individual cultures are forgotten and we are forced into being a messed up conglomerate of “can you speak asian?” and “are you chinese”, when colonialism and imperialism has destroyed our homes and our culture and tainted our history but no one will admit to it, when we are born in foreign lands but are not welcomed here, when we are attacked and murdered because of hate crime, when people fail to realize that asians are a portion of the community that need help as much as others do, when no one is willing to realize the real problems we go through.

like how can you tell me that asians don’t face racism? how can you be that oblivious? i don’t understand.

[msmemaaaa]

Hyorin is me.

[byakuryuu]

Also, he wouldn't be my husband....

[chikaberry-deactivated20151002]

THIS IS NOT A FUCKING JOKE GUYS.

IF YOU ARE A LEGAL ADULT

FUCKING V O T E.

TRUMP IS WINNING

THIS IS HONESTLY SCARY AS SHIT AT THIS MOMENT. IF HE FUCKING WINS, WHO KNOWS WHAT WILL HAPPEN TO US POCS. STOP TAKING THIS AS A FUCKING JOKE.

HONESTLY, IM AFRAID FOR MY FUTURE BECAUSE WHAT IF HE FUCKING DOES BECOME PRESIDENT??? HE WILL MAKE IT HARD FOR US.

YOU GUYS REALLY DONT UNDERSTAND HOW FUCKING IMPORTANT THIS IS. YOU

C A N N O T

LET TRUMP FUCKING BECOME PRESIDENT. YOUR LETTING SOMEONE WHO CANT EVEN FUCKING TAKE CARE OF HIS OWN BUSINESSES AND WIGS GET INTO OFFICE.

I DONT CARE IF YOU ARE NOT INTO POLITICS. VOTE FOR BERNIE SANDERS.

I DONT CARE IF YOU ARE LAZY, DO IT ANYWAYS.

I DONT FUCKING CARE IF YOU ARE WHITE, BLACK OR ANY OTHER COLOR.

PROTECT YOURSELF FROM THIS FUCKING STUPID ASS RICH MAN.

PLEASE.

You guys honestly don’t realize how important this is. That stupid ass man is in the lead with votes. You CANNOT let him win. To the people that don’t care, you will most definitely care once he’s in fucking office ruining everything more. You don’t understand how important this is to me. You don’t understand how scary this is for p.o.c .

[fallenleaves-kin-deactivated201]

I’m Canadian, but I have a friend in the states bawling right now because he’s winning. Its absolutely horrifying. And if you don’t live in the states, signal boost this shit. The states are practically everyone’s trade partners, including Canada’s, and Trump could ruin that too. It affects everyone on the fucking planet. Signal boost this. Don’t vote Trump. Please.