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this blog will from here on out be inactive. thank you tumblr friends for the laughs and the support. I wish you all the best in your future endeavours inshaAllah.

#gonna keep it alive so I can scroll through it in 5-10 years #but won't be using it anymore #take care of yourselves kids

anyway I’m trynna start a twitter career so hmu with the twitter handles

how you know a man is woke: you can spew anti-men sentiments and they don’t take it personally or get offended because they know they aren’t in the business of perpetuating this male culture and they know it isn’t personal.

#men who chime in and agree with the things I say #are the best #0.000000001% of the population but they do exist

@seulmates yes. yes. yes. yes. yes. this “Allah (swt) knows best/Allah (swt) will reward you” line is such a cop-out and so dismissive of the shit behaviour of men towards their women.

@seulmates ma dude I feel you

that last reblog was so on point because generally speaking it’s always the learned Islamic scholars who tell women to be those things towards the husband. soft, kind, turning to Allah (swt), not burdening the spouse, taking care of the spouse’s needs, being content with what they’re given, exercising patience. these are things both spouses should strive to perfect in their relationship but the burden of fulfilling these acts is always on the woman. the man can be as irrational and burdening as he wants but as long as he’s doing his part financially (and most don’t even do that smh) then they’ve done their duty. I’m gonna save that post and teach it to my kids one day inshaAllah.

#islam vs culture

theallamericanmuslimah

“Marry these kinds of men:

1. The Patient: The man who remains patient in all circumstances, and never whines, moans and complains. When some trouble or affliction hits him, he turns to Allah for help.

2. The Protector: The man who protects his wife’s wealth & his chastity when she is away from home. When she returns , he does not burden her with the day’s problems , but listens attentively to her needs and does his best to take her tiredness away.

3. The Lover: The man who adores his wife & craves for her children to the extent that whenever his wife glances at him, duaa pours for him from the bottom of her heart.

4. The Do-Gooder: The man who has an excellent reputation in society – for being kind, caring & courteous to all. He is good with his neighbours & relatives and never backbites or displays jealousy.

5. The Content: The man who never casts his eyes at material things and is content with whatever little his wife gives him. He is thankful to her for every morsel that she feeds him, every cloth that she gifts him (and irons), including the roof over his head. He is especially attentive to their children and ensures that he appreciates all she does to take care of them. He makes his gratefulness known to her in words & action and thus, soothes his wife’s heart.

6. The Pious: The man who spends much of his day in dhikr, tilaawat al-Quran & Salah and his nights in praying tahajjud & crying to Allah for forgiveness. He encourages his wife to give da'wah in her spare time.

7. The Sweet Smiler: The man who smiles excessively..esp. when his wife is at home. He always talks gently that it seems that pearls are dripping from his mouth. He never raises his voice while talking to his wife. If his wife is angry with him for some reason & shouts at him, he does not answer her back but maintains a dignified silence. When she has calmed down, he offers her cool water & apologizes to her even if he wasn’t at fault.”

#TheIdealMuslimHusband

#don't exist but something to strive towards fo sho