"Get on your knees" — A Comprehensive How-to Guide: Writing about Sucking Someone Off
Disclaimer: I only have experience in giving BJs and don't have experience with cooch (even though I wish I did), soooo, here we are. A lot of this is based on my own experience so I'll just leave it at that and get us started.
So, to set the scene: your characters are getting into the mood. They're getting frisky; they're kissing, they're touching, hands wandering wherever they please, soft noises falling from their mouths.
They're so excited, mind a faint buzz; bodies and minds anticipating what's to come next.
Maybe they're still fully clothed, maybe they're stripping each other off slowly, enjoying the slow teasing — or maybe they're already fully naked having practically ripped each other's clothes off in a desperate attempt to have that skin to skin contact quicker. Or maybe only one of them is clothed, while the other is partially/fully unclothed. This part, of course, depends on where this happens — or what the mood is.
If it's in the shower, then it can be assumed they're both fully naked already (unless they like stripping wet clothes off each other, then have at it. Go crazy, go wild).
If it's in the bedroom (or anywhere else, who are we to judge?) it can go both ways.
The atmosphere and the environment is so important, as it really adds to the mood.
Is it in the shower, under a showerhead with warm water cascading down on them?
Is it in the bedroom or elsewhere, candles lit, a very specific ambiance in the room to set the mood?
Is there AC blasting cool air, or is it mild temperatures - or does it feel hot and heavy?
Is it on the floor, is it on the bed, is it on a couch - where is this happening in that room?
What sounds can they hear? The pitter patter of water falling onto tiled flooring? The soft and controlled or loud and uncontained noises coming from either one of them? The moans, the gasps, the sighs, the whines... the desperate plea for more, more, more because the other person is such a fucking tease, God damn it. Or is it them trying to keep it down... key word here being trying.
What are the smells? Natural bodily fluids, bodily smells, sweat, faint scent of some type of perfume or cologne. Or maybe it's different scented soap and shampoo? Maybe it's scented candles?
What can they feel? Knees pressed against hard tiled flooring; back pressed against the cold pane of the shower. Or knees against soft sheets and fingers gripping onto the silk-like material? Or is it finger tips on soft/coarse patches of skin... or over the prickles of freshly growing hair... or over smooth skin.
What position are they getting themselves into?
Is one of them kneeling while the other is standing?
Are they in the 69 position?
Is one of them sitting up while the other is lying on their stomach?
Maybe the receiver is standing up, hovering over the giver's face who's lying down on their back?
Perhaps the giver is kneeling down and bent over while the receiver is lying down on the couch?
As long as no limbs are broken and they're flexible, there are so many positions they can test. The sky is the limit as long as no one ends up in the hospital (but hey, shit like that sometimes does happen so if you wanna make it realistic but also funny in a way, go right ahead!)
Your characters may or may not be comfortable with the position, and that can come with trying new things. Try and make them both as comfortable as possible and know their limitations, otherwise it's not gonna be fun for either party. Or you could make things uncomfortable for them if you wanna be a bit sadistic.
That is up for you to decide.
Now, onto the spicy shit (I know you came here for that, you lil' curious demon).
They're comfortable, they're settled, they're in the mood — so into each other. One of them is aching to have a mouth wrapped around them; the other is drooling to have something throbbing in their mouth, reminding them that life is maybe worth living after all.
What are they doing to each other?
What are they saying to each other?
What is the giver doing to the receiver, and vice versa?
Is the giver experienced or are they not used to doing this, perhaps because it’s their first time or they just never learned the right techniques (there’re more than one — just as with incorrect techniques).
Is the receiver running their hands through the giver’s hair.. gently, muffled sounds of pleasure leaving their kiss-bitten lips? Hips thrusting involuntarily into the giver’s mouth, compliments leaving their lips in faint whispers.
Or are they gripping onto tufts of hair, face-fucking them relentlessly, demanding for the giver to look them in their eyes? Hips thrusting rhythmically, taking pacing control into their own hands.
Is the giver looking up at them, demanding for the eye contact, or do they seem to be enjoying the dominance coming from the receiver?
The giver could be bobbing their head, teasingly, taking them in slowly, then quicker, then slowly again.. adjusting their pace to tease and frustrate the receiver — or their eyes could be watering, drool pooling at the corners of their mouth and dribbling down their chin.
The pacing matters, and consistency matters in bringing someone to the edge (at least in my experience)… but that can also be done in patterns. It doesn’t have to stay at one pace because that can be tiring.
That doesn’t mean “Let’s do it at an inconsistent pace where I go extremely fast and then boom, I’ve slowed down to a snail’s pace in one second”. That means doing changing speed in a calculated way to tease them.
Is the giver giving the compliments in between as they tease the receiver in other ways to keep them turned on (and to ensure the moment lasts just a little longer — plus to tease them)? Letting their fingers brush against their nipples more than just multiple times, kissing them all over their body; their chest, their inner-thighs, their neck; wrapping their hands around the area which can’t fit in their mouth because perhaps the receiver has a lot of length to offer.
Or are they licking stripes up their partner’s cock; letting their tongue swipe against the slit on the tip of the cock; sucking on the head of their cock like a lollipop of some sort, tantalisingly good at their teasing?
Is the receiver the one giving the compliments, telling the giver how pretty they look with their mouth wrapped around them like this, how good they’re taking them, how they’re driving them crazy?
Or, if they like degradation.. you can go that route as well. Your drafts are a safe space for you to explore.
What sounds is the receiver making? Are they silent… or are they letting soft moans leave their lips? Or are they loud with that? Is the giver taking in those sounds and using that as a queue with their playful teasing?
Are there other people in the house? That’s gonna be something to think about.
Are the characters aware of that? Do they care if they are? Are they gonna restrain themselves or are they just not gonna give a flying shit about other people’s sanity?
And with the experience thing.. Again, how experienced is the giver? Is this their first time? Or are they just not good at this and need a bit more practice? Be aware though, experience doesn’t mean much in some cases if they aren’t listening to their partner or being receptive to feedback! Experience can only do so much, but it’s being receptive which takes things to a whole new level.
And just a tip (no pun intended): are they using teeth? If so, that’s a no go. Find some way to have their lips wrap around their teeth — you don’t want to be scraping at your partner’s cock, as that area is hella sensitive. It can be painful and using your teeth will not make things better (and can make it worse).
Close to heaven’s gates or whatever they call it.
Does the giver let the receiver come.. or are they gonna be a shit and edge them?
And when they do come, where is it gonna happen?
In the mouth (and is the giver gonna swallow or spit)? On the face?
Will the giver choke last second as the receiver comes because they thrusted their hips a bit too hard and now the giver and the receiver are both laughing, but the receiver continues to orgasm because they’re just so turned on? (Yes, that can happen, and I’m adding this specific example in because I had to deal with that and it’s still something my ex is very proud about).
Or is the receiver gonna ask to get down and dirty because they don’t want this to end here yet, so they can come elsewhere? That elsewhere can be left up to your own interpretation.
What signs will the receiver give that lets the giver know they’re coming? Will they make noises, will they say words… Or is it just gonna happen because they couldn’t warn the giver in time and it happens without warning?
And once this is all done and both have exhausted themselves, will they do something else (maybe the giver becomes the receiver, and vice versa), or maybe they’ll cuddle and fall asleep under the covers.
And they wait for the next time this happens again… maybe in the next 30 minutes, or maybe in a few hours… Either way.
It’s a done deal, and both are satisfied (or they aren’t — sometimes sexual acts don’t go as intended, aka Results May Vary).
As a final tip (going for anything that has to do with intimacy and sex) — moments like these can be filled with awkwardness and nervousness if it’s their first time.
It can take time to learn your partner’s body, their queues, what they like, what they dislike, the way their body responds to certain things — it can take some experimentation.
It can also be filled with laughter and humour and jokes — it doesn’t always just have to be sexy, sweaty and heavy breathing. Sometimes other emotions makes it even hotter and more memorable too.
Have fun writing! (Or practicing them in real life if you so please.)
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