caregiver help and advice

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[caregiveracademy]

I'm a momma to a sweet little boy. He is so sweet when he wants to be, but he's wild. He thinks he has ADHD or ADD, and I agree. We're both underage and his parents don't care about him all that much. When he's in little space he either gets sleepy or he's wild, there's no in between. Is there any tips?

well maybe you could find something that calms him down and relaxes him. perhaps some sort of stim, or a comfort item. maybe have him lay down and watch a movie when he’s small for a while, or do something with his hands like color or write or paint. you could try doing some quiet activities with him, like whispering stories, reading a story to him, rocking him, playing with blocks, toys or stuffies, blowing bubbles, playing games outside. you could do something really fun like dancing, running/jogging, or something super energetic and wild to get some energy out as well, and then start to calm him down. maybe take him on a peaceful nature walk so that he’s not necessarily sleepy, but he’s also not going wild for a while. teach him about the nature and keep him interested but relaxed. and before you diagnose him with anything make sure you do lots of research and comparing symptoms + situations. i hope this helps sweetie, good luck to you and your little boy!

[caregiveracademy]

I'm the daddy with the abuse situation. One night they cane and raised heck and we ended up calling the police. We didn't really go about things legally besides a restraining order. My baby is so emotionally exhausted though. She's been acting different and regressing more often, which I don't mind. I just can tell both in and out of little space. I love her and I know all I can do is love her. It will evenrtuslly get better

we’re so proud of you two, please keep being there for her and just staying strong, everything will change very soon i can feel it. i’m just really proud of you guys!!

[caregiveracademy]

What are things I should know before asking someone to be my little?

-Be patient. They might already have a caregiver, not want/need one, etc… don’t spam them or harass them about it.

-Be gentle, and don’t come across as creepy. It could be likely that the person you’re asking has dealt with creepy caregivers breathing down their neck in some instance, and could mistake you for bad intentions too. Be kind and understanding and don’t be creepy.

-Develop a friendship/bond first. Don’t just ask someone to be your little just because. Connect with them, be close to them, take time to understand them for who they are and what you both want, need, and expect from a caregiver/little relationship.

-Prepare for rejection. Not everyone wants/needs a caregiver, or they might not be ready for one. Sometimes this depends on your relationship with this person already, but it’s likely that if you’re just asking randomly, they’ll probably say no.

-If they reject, be kind. Don’t bully them or yell at them for saying no, this makes you seem like just an awful person and this is called manipulation and guilt tripping. Don’t do it.

-If they say yes, then take time to communicate needs, wants, expectations, etc. way further so you can know what kind of relationship you are pursuing and developing.

Extra tips:-Listen to their feelings -Take time, don’t rush -Be sweet and understanding -Be a loving caregiver -Explain why you want to, in depth, and what you have to offer and how you can truly help them and make a difference in their life -Don’t pursue unwanted attention-Be true, honest, faithful

Hope some of this helps, sweetie!!

[itty-bitty-emi-deactivated20180]

Rules: Why Giving a Little Rules is NOT Comandeering (in most cases)

Hello, littles, caregivers, and the like! This post is being made especially for new caregivers who think that by giving their littles rules they are being too comandeering, bossy, disrespectful, etc…

You aren’t.

In fact, many littles need rules to help induce regression and boost their security and comfort levels with you. If your little mentions wanting rules in a conversation, don’t be put off by it or feel like your regular activities aren’t enough to satisfy their little needs. When life gets extraordinarily hard or stressful, we get antsy. We don’t regress as easily or when we do we don’t feel “good” or like we make you proud and that can take a lot out of us.

Some of the benefits of having and enforcing rules:

· Support; When we follow the rules and do well and receive praise, we feel like we actually earned the praise and feel happy to make you proud.

· Structure; We feel like we aren’t losing control in life, we have something to adhere to.

· Self-Care; The more rules we have pertaining to self-care, the happier and healthier we will be, which in turn will boost our confidence and ability to regress.

That being said, rules aren’t always easy to just create so I will list some below as examples. Please please please make sure to discuss rules with your little, add more or take away some over time, don’t enforce something they aren’t comfortable with and be patient.

If your little is breaking rules there could be more to it than simple disobedience. At times, littles may break rules when they are struggling with mental health or when they are feeling unstable and questioning whether or not you will actually enforce them. If they get upset when you do try to enforce them, it is likely the first option. In this scenario, slow down and please take care of them first. Comfort them, find the problem, and remind them that you love them regardless of their acting out and that you are proud of them. This can be crucial in having a happy little. However, if they don’t become agitated or emotional after you enforce a rule, then they were likely testing your reactions. Still, make sure to ask them why they acted out and make sure there isnt an underlying problem.

Examples of rules that may be beneficial to you and your little:

· Bedtimes (keep in mind their current sleep schedule and wean them into a new one if it is necessary. Be patient)

· Language use (potty mouths arent always acceptable, but if your little swears a lot in big space please be lenient!)

· Manners (Please, thank you, nice words, food manners, etc…)

· Tasks (If you know you will be busy, give your little something to acconplish for when you come back; i.e, color a picture, draw, write, clean something up, etc. Put it in a nice way like “Maybe while (daddy/mommy/other title) is out you can (task)? I would really like to see it.”)

· Confidence Boosting (no self-depreciation, insults, neglect, or harm. Remind them that when they are mean to themselves it makes daddy/mommy/title sad)

Discuss goals with your little and make rules gradually based off of those goals. Sometimes the base rules I listed above are not sufficient or beneficial for each individual case.

Rule Enforcement:

When enforcing rules please utilize a warning system. Don’t immediately jump to punishments or discipline, ESPECIALLY when you are trying to train your little away from a habit or self-hate. This can lead to more harm than good and cause your little to lose trust in you. Remind them of their rules, warn them, and then discipline.

Good SFW Punishments/Discipline:

· Writing lines (“I will not…” 25 times)

· Corner time (gradually increase time if they act up multiple times)

· Chores/Not fun tasks (discuss this first for sure)

· Take away screen time (No video games or TV until they apologize or complete a task)

The main point is to think as if you were disciplining an actual child. Never take away comfort items such as stuffies, blankies, pacis, and the like as that can again just cause harm and instability.

Don’t discipline out of anger, or snap at your little. They will not learn and will feel unsafe.

I know this was a bit of a longer post but I hope it helped!

Much love and happy regressing!!!

[caregiveracademy]

Good timing, I'm on. We did smash her phone. I'm going to get her a new one but I have to wait for my check to come in. She's been sleeping for a long time. My door has stayed locked and her parents have texted and called me. I finally blocked them. Tuesday I think we are going to police. I haven't thought about what your cg said, so I'll look into it

dude A++++. i’m so so proud of you guys. i’m literally so proud. please keep going and do your best. all i can say is you’re doing amazing and don’t give up!!!!

[itsybitseybaby]

🍼How to fix your sad baby 🍼

♡ Step one ♡

Being warm and cozy cheers anyone up! Pick your little one up and place in a comfy soft area.

♡ Step two ♡

Pacis always sooth and calm down little babies. Grab your littles favorite paci and give it to them.

♡ Step three ♡

Stuffies are super comfort items, bring your baby their favorite stuffie to cuddle.🐻

♡ Step four ♡

Cuddles from stuffies are great but cuddles from daddy/ mommy are magic.✨ Cuddle and hug your little and softly rub their back or pet their head.

♡ Step five ♡

A caregivers voice feels so safe and comforting, relaxing any sad baby. Softly say comforting things to your little such as “shh shh” “daddy/ mommys here” “its okay” “daddy/mommys gotcha”💕

♡ Step six ♡

Now that your baby had calmed down and is in a better mood, distract them.

Saying anything to change the subject and take the focus away from being sad will help your little get back to being happy and little again!

Ex. “How about I go make you a snack while you start on a coloring page?”

“How about we watch *insert favorite little show*”

“So you want to go to the park baby?”

💕I hope this helped and all babies stay feeling happy and small💕

[itsybitseybaby]

🍼✨PSA ✨🍼

I am actually a baby.

Treat me as such.

If I am sad/cranky/crying.

I am either hungry, tired or need attention.

To keep me happy forever I just need to be taken care of.

That is all.

[caregiveracademy]

You all told me to keep updating so I hope I'm nkt a bother, but I took her home kinda late last night. I walked her in and out her to bed. She was okay but she was scared what would happen when I left. We talked a lot, but didn't get much out of it. She doesn't legally want to do anything because they will find her. Yeah, she can stay with me and I don't mind at all, but the parents know where I live because of the phone tracker. I'm in the middle of getting a new apartment anyways but stressfu

(cont.) With this being sad, if we go about this legally and I get a new apartment, we may be safe for a little while. I know they will find her, they always do. There’s no purpose for hurting her anymore. I know they won’t end up in jail, I don’t even want to legally bring it up. I just want her with me and something simple like a restraining order. If she’s with me we will be fine. It’s when she’s not that is the problem.

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whew! i actually talked this over with my own caregiver. sorry i’m getting back so late, it took a while to come up with an answer to this. first of all… you should be pursuing legal action. if there’s physical proof somehow of what’s been going on, that’s all you need. regardless she’s 18. my advice? smash the phone. they can’t track it anymore if it’s broken. take her with you and since you’re moving out of that apartment anyways, take her when you’ve moved and they won’t know your new address. they can’t legally do anything, she is a legal adult. you having the mindset of “we’ll only be safe for a little while” isn’t going to help her or you in any capacity. in this situation you’ve gotta try to be as strong and positive-minded as possible. and whether they find you or not legally they cannot take her out of her household even if they are her parents, she is her own individual now under the eyes of the law. a restraining order would be a great way to pursue legal action. with physical proof of any kind, images, and psychological damage as proof to a judge would grant you that restraining order more than likely. my cg suggested you guys go to protective services if that’s an option. they often times get people away from situations like these and even sometimes provide funds for housing and vehicles. they can even change identities to help separate away from people. bottom line is she cannot continue living there and without your help i don’t believe she’d take any steps in getting out. you need to get in there, take her when it’s a good time like when you get your new apartment and her parents won’t know, smash that phone being tracked and start a new life. get those restraining orders asap. both of you are adults, you are in control of your lives. her parents are manipulating her because they own the roof over her head. but they don’t own her. she doesn’t have to live there anymore and they won’t track her down if you actually pursue legal action and put an end to this horrific situation so your poor little one can finally get help and be in peace. this is what she needs for the greater good of her health. i’d say it’s about time something gets truly done about this since she has so many options as a legal adult. if she was a minor this would be different, but she’s not. please please think about these things and let’s make a goal of putting an end to this as soon as we can and as easiest as we can. however sometimes in these situations you’ve got to fight. you’ve got to be prepared for either scenario but either way things have to change. all our best wishes go to you two. i’m truly sorry this even has to be done in the first place. but things will get better soon. just hang in there and make some changes.

[caregiveracademy]

If I message will you all answer or is your mailbox full?

if you privately message we are likely to answer a lot faster, but we will be clearing our ask box asap!!!

[caregiveracademy]

Is this active I need help

hello! we are active we’ve just been a tad busy this past few days! but we’re here!

[caregiveracademy]

My little is coming over after I pick her up. (Can't drive, parents won't let her. Doesn't even have permit.) I'm going to discuss it with her but she literally shuts down when we talk about it or bring it up. She starts to scream and as a daddy I literally don't know what to do besides hold her. She physically can't hear it. Is there anything I can do to get her to calm down and talk to me?

it’s really really hard for someone going through something that awful to keep their composure. i totally understand. but as hard as it is she has to talk about it or at least come up with a solution so her life can change for the better. when she’s breaking down just hold her, quietly calm her. tell her “daddy’s here for you baby. it’s going to be okay. daddy’s gonna help you fix this.” snuggle her and explain to her that you’re going to help her out of this and get her to safety and with as scary as it is that she’ll be okay and she will be so so much happier once she can just leave this environment. tell her she’s old enough to get out of there and you’re gonna be with her every step. just offer your love and support and i mean.. i know how awful this is i just don’t know what else to say but she’s gotta get out of there. i really wish both of you so much luck.

[caregiveracademy]

Some people talk about getting into a caregiver mind space. I didn't even know that was a thing. I'm knew to this??

Well it’s not something all cgs experience. But some could describe their caring mindset as a caregiver headspace. What they mean is like similar to a regression headspace, your mind changes and you become a caregiver. So you would now have a headspace where you’re focused on caring for your little one, but it could mean lots of things to different people. Your caregiver headspace could make you strong, wise, more understanding, give you a nurturing touch, a parental type instinct possibly, and more. It’s kinda like a mental shift like “oh, my baby is small- so now I’m gonna take care of them.” So you’d have that mental shift of how to treat them like a little kiddo. Not everyone experiences this, I’m assuming those who do aren’t always in that headspace where they’re ready to care for someone. Some caregivers stay the same and don’t have any specific headspace when it comes to caring for little ones. Actually a lot of people who are littles and caregivers would experience this the most. Because just like they’d have a little space, their regression headspace, they’d have a caregiver space, their caring headspace. In their regression they’d be small and tiny and in their caregiver headspace they’d be wanting to care for a little one, more adult like and mature, that kind of thing. I hope I explained this well enough! I don’t describe myself that way as a caregiver because I’m always in the same mindset. And welcome to the community! 🌟

[caregiveracademy]

My little is 18. I'm 19. Her parents are very strict. Like when I am with her at their house, doors are open. They know where she is every second because her phone is tracked. She ran away once and it got bad when she first got back in the home. She's not only abused but there's way more to it, if you get what I am implying. She can't do anything. She wants to put a restraining order on them but they are rich which means a good lawyer. We haven't talked about it in a whiled because she shutsdown

that’s awful. i’m so sorry. but it’s a good thing that she’s 18 because there are some things she could do. she is a legal adult so legally she can leave them. if she is comfortable with it you two should go to the police and tell them what’s going on during a time where she wouldn’t get in trouble. tell her parents you’re seeing a movie or something if possible. if she doesn’t want to do that, legally she could still leave them. can she stay with you? do you have a safe place for her to live?? she could leave her phone behind and go somewhere with you if that’s an option, to gather thoughts about what to do next. what they’re doing is not okay, she should get out of there sooner than later and get medical help. if she’s afraid to get help you need to tell her that she’ll be okay. they won’t be able to hurt her anymore if someone intervenes. this situation is dangerous and not good for anyone to live in. i don’t want to encourage you to go against her comfort but if she’s not willing to get out of there you might have to report it to the police on your own. she is not safe there but i promise after getting help things will be okay, she’s been abused by them her whole life so she’s probably terrified they’ll find her again but they won’t. if you have any proof of what’s going on it would help as well. please try talking to her about how serious this is. if she can live with you please take her out of there. good luck again… update us when you can. we’re seriously worried over here.

[caregiveracademy]

🎀 You don’t have to be emotionless to be a strong caregiver

🎀 You don’t have to be strong to be a caregiver

🎀 You don’t have to be perfect

🎀 You don’t have to be tall

🎀 You don’t have to be masculine

🎀 You don’t have to be an adult

🎀 You don’t have to be wise

🎀 You don’t have to be experienced

🎀 You don’t have to know everything

🎀 You’re allowed to be a little too, if you are

🎀 You don’t have to be comfortable with other littles addressing you as their caregiver

🎀 You don’t have to want more than one little

🎀 You don’t have to want just one little

🎀 You can be soft

🎀 You can be hurt too

🎀 You don’t have to fit into any boxes or standards

All you have to do is be yourself and take care of your little one(s) in a way that’s great for you and them.

You are amazing 💕✨

[littlekawaiiusagi]

My dream date list with Daddy💕

🐋🐠Aquarium

🐚⛱Beach

🐻🦄Build-A-Bear

🏕⛺Camping

💫🍯Disneyland

🛍🎀Disney store

🗻🌄Hike

🍦🍨Ice cream

📺📼Movies

🎼🎹Music lesson

🔭🌟Planetarium

🎬🌐Universal Studios

💻🎮Video Games

👟🕶Walk

🦁🐾Zoo

[daddywillprotectyou]

All Littles Are Valid!

🌟Transgender littles are valid🌟

🌟Cis male littles are valid🌟

🌟Cis female littles are valid🌟

🌟Nonbinary littles are valid🌟

🌟Asexual littles are valid🌟

🌟Goth littles are valid🌟

🌟Adult littles are valid🌟

🌟Single littles are valid🌟

🌟Sad littles are valid🌟

🌟Happy littles are valid🌟

🌟Mentally ill littles are valid🌟

[caregiveracademy]

What are some ways I can put my little one to bed? Thank you.

🌟 Brush their hair 🌟 Give them a bath/shower 🌟 Snack and/or bottle 🌟 Have them brush their teeth 🌟 Get them their paci and/or favorite stuffies 🌟 Tuck them in 🌟 Read them a story 🌟 Rock them to sleep or rub their back if they like that 🌟 Goodnight kisses and cuddles🌟 Nightlight if needed

Hope this helps!! It’s a basic little bedtime schedule! Sweet dreams!! 🌙💤💤