giiirl! I need to step up my dating game because I’m seen too desperate and needy when I’m interested in someone. Please share more of the vanilla rules you follow!
Here’s my rules for vanilla dating ( or POT dates) that I have used and stood by for the past few years.
1) Never text a man first, never initiate plans or hangouts, I let him run things. When a guy first texts me, I don’t respond for at least three hours and always end the conversation first, saying I’m busy or in a rush. When men ignore your messages and calls, they often do it to see how the woman responds, so if you act clingy or desperate for a response, that ruins everything. Vice versa, imagine a man doing the same if you ignored their messages and calls? And they act clingy and desperate for a response? You would be put off immediately or call the man creepy! Think first before you call or text a man. Always be classy and aloof. Long story straight, NEVER TEXT A MAN FIRST. LET HIM COME TO YOU. SHOW HIM THAT YOU HAVE A LIFE TO LIVE THAT IS EXCITING AND FULFILLING AND IT DOESN’T MATTER IF HE’S IN IT OR NOT.
2) Never accept a date after Wednesday. If a guy really likes you, he will reserve plans on the weekend to take you out so you can spend more time together. Which is why most men will ask early on in the week if you’re free Friday or Saturday. So, if he texts you on Thursday to hang out on Friday, its because he’s got no plans, bored, or wants sex. If you have any sense or self respect you would say HELL NO. It’s too last minute and screams you’re a last minute resort. DON’T EVER LET A MAN MAKE YOU HIS LAST MINUTE CHICK. It means you aren’t their first choice and was only asked because he knows you are readily available, into him, and desperate for his attention. Even if you have ZERO plans and REALLY into the guy, TURN HIM DOWN GENTLY, and make him wonder who’s taking YOU OUT when mention you already have plans. If he’s really into you, he’ll be sure to plan accordingly next time.
3) Don’t text any men during the weekend. As soon as it’s Friday, its blackout until Monday afternoon. This is allow you to avoid any last minute texts to meet up, hook up, or make a giant mistake. I notice men get very curious and end up texting me more as I ignore them on the weekend. Be exactly like that bad bitch in Drake’s “Hotline Bling” that got him confused and curious.
4) Don’t friend him on Facebook, Snapchat or IG. If you already did, don’t like or comment on anything he posts. EVER. Don’t even look at his feed or stories. He’s gonna start creeping on yours and wondering why you aren’t complimenting him like the other girls are. Girls that constantly are on social media stalking men are pitiful and sad; it’s also hella toxic.
5) Just be a goddamn mystery. Keep things fun, outgoing, but distant at times. When you go on the first date, don’t spend more than two hours together. Make the guy want more with everything you do. Don’t kiss too long, don’t hug too long, don’t give too much attention. All this is building up to make the guy fall for you as quickly as he can. When you put everything on the table and show too much interest, it makes things too easy and boring for the males. Even if the guy is meek, shy, or awkward, men are all hunters. Anything you start in this world, you got to keep it going, relationships included. Which is why men, even if you chase them down, give them bomb ass pussy, treat them good, they will always go after the women that don’t give them the time of day or attention because they ENJOY the chase more so that the “pick me” chick that is so readily available to them.
