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I have been waiting for this post my whole life.

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I was trying to explain this to someone one day and they basically told me I was crazy.

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A Good Submissive

Should be emotionally stable enough to actually participate in a relationship to begin with.

Should be willing to admit when they are wrong.

Have a strong desire to submit in the first place.

Does not manipulate the Dom/Sub or “Top from the bottom”

Is willing to ask for what they need/want

Should not be looking for someone to rescue her from her life and fix everything for her.

A Good Submissive chooses to submit.

I’ve come across far too many people (Doms and subs) who really need to just take a break from seeking a love life and work on themselves first. You know the type I’m talking about. These women (and men) have just gotten over a bad breakup and are more interested in hooking their Prince Charming Dominant as soon as possible. They’re lonely and (sadly) a little desperate (no judging, I’ve been there, rock bottom is hell, even more so when you’re alone for it). But they don’t want to take time between relationships to examine who they are and why the last one didn’t work out. They don’t want to heal and move on, they just want to move on.

There are other cases where someone may not have the mental capacity to be involved in any relationship, let alone one that requires constant review, constant honesty and constant accountability. If a person can not be honest with themselves, they won’t be able to be honest with others and in BDSM honest communication is vital to the success of a scene and ultimately, the relationship as a whole.

Let’s face it, you’re not right all the time. No one enjoys being wrong, but there’s a difference in your mannerisms and behavior when you willingly admit that you’re wrong on something and when you feel trapped and/or forced to admit that you’ve messed up. The decision to willingly admit when you have been wrong tells the other person that you respect them enough to admit when they are right. It helps to grow the relationship as well as solidify the trust there. This goes a long, long, long way in a BDSM relationship, especially in the training phase of a D/s relationship. And since we’re being honest, you know how good it feels when someone says “Okay, you were right, I was wrong.” to you, why would you not want to return the favor and be just as willing to admit when you’re wrong?

This doesn’t mean that you have to be a doormat. In fact, doormats need not apply. The Dominant that is looking for someone to always give in to what they want and never, ever question them or disagree with them is NOT a Good Dom and you don’t want to submit to him in the first place (unless heartache and frustration is your goal….)

It also doesn’t mean that you must submit to everyone who claims to be a Dom/me. It simply means that you have a desire to be submissive in the bedroom, and maybe (for some of us) outside of the bedroom, but only to a certain person (or select few) and how exactly you submit should be discussed (as equals) before you jump into anything.

This one is a little harder to explain, especially to new submissives and especially since so many people tend to have a different view on what exactly “topping from the bottom” entails. In my personal opinion, topping from the bottom means more than just teasingly being sarcastic so you get a fun swat on the ass as you walk by, or saying something you know your Dom/me will chase you around the house for saying (in a fun, loving, adult form of tag.)

Topping from the bottom is manipulation. It is where a submissive purposefully goes out of his or her way to get a specific (and usually negative) reaction from the Dom/me. The most common practice is doing something that goes against your rules simply so that you get punished for it.

A Good Submissive will tell her Dom when she needs extra time with him. She will also understand if he can’t immediately comply. She is willing to be honest about why she’s being extra bratty (sometimes it takes us a little while to figure out what we’re lacking, sometimes the Dom may have figured it out first, but usually the submissive just needs to spend a few minutes reflecting and trying to figure out what’s going on in her own head before she can put it into words for her Dom.) One way to help combat this is journaling. Many of the Doms I have met have had their submissive keep a daily blog/journal/diary to help both of them be able to communicate better.

Dominants are not mind readers. They can not possibly know every single want/desire/wish/need that you have. They can cover a wide range of them, but they’ll never know them all. Asking for what you want is always better than assuming he will know what you want and magically provide it for you.

This is real life. This is not fantasy. This is not Disney. If you take away all of your problems, all of your stress, and take money out of the equation, would you still be willing to submit to someone else? If your answer is no, then you are not ready for a BDSM relationship, nor are you ready to be submissive to someone else.

It’s really that simple. On top of everything else he or she is, she chooses to submit and trust you and that it is a daily (sometimes minute by minute) choice. How you act/react, what you say when you’re angry, and whether or not you follow the rules you’ve agreed to are all things you choose. No one forces you to do anything (though sometimes it might feel like it, ultimately you know that the choice is yours to make).

If you constantly feel as though you’re being forced to do crap you don’t want to do, then maybe it’s time to end that relationship or at the very least, re-negotiate the rules. As with any relationship, there should be some give and some take. Even in BDSM no one person does all of the giving, and no one person does all of the taking. That’s yet another reason why it’s important to take time to negotiate what BDSM means to each person involved in your relationship and figure out what you’re both willing and unwilling to do (or have done to you).

Use common sense when trying to apply any of these things to your own relationships. Your relationship will be as unique as the people involved in it. There isn’t some cookie cutter, one size fits all brand of BDSM out there. Sure, there are similarities, but what defines us are our differences and we should rejoice in the fact that there are so many different ways to approach and explore BDSM.

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Leash Training

Leash training is a staple activity of pet play. It is also a misunderstood one; many find the concept of leash training confusing or awkward. With practice, leash training can become an intimate, bonding activity that reinforces the d/s power dynamic beautifully.

Protocol

While not mandatory, many dominants choose to incorporate the ‘two steps behind’ rule into their leash training. In this protocol, the submissive remains two steps’ length behind and one to the side of the dominant. This enables the submissive to keep up with the dominant while walking, but still remain visually ‘in their place’. When performed without a leash, this technique also becomes an effective way to maintain the d/s dynamic in public.

Leash commands

Unlike leash training a dog, tugging and jerking of the leash in human leash training are encouraged. Hand signals can also be incorporated into the training. These commands, taken from Idaho BDSM, are basic techniques:

Firm pressure applied downward on the leash indicates the command, “down” or “kneel”.

Firm pressure applied upward on the leash indicated the command “up”.

A quick commanding jerk towards the dominant on the leash indicates the command "come”.

Several slight jerks to the front indicate that the dominant wishes the submissive to take the lead or precede him or her, such as when going through a door.

Raising the hand with the leash in it, with the palm open and facing front, indicates the command “stop”.

Lowering the hand with the leash in it, palm aimed at the floor, indicates the command “stay”.

Lowering the hand with the leash in it, with two fingers pointing to the ground, indicates the command “heel”.

Public play considerations

Leash training in public is a popular activity; however, it is also very controversial. Despite its legality, many BDSM practitioners are against public leash play, as it may reinforce negative stereotypes about BDSM practitioners being socially unadjusted. Additionally, many feel that public play forces nonconsenting passerby into becoming part of a sexual scene.

There are several ways of subtly taking leash training into the public sphere. Two examples are the ‘invisileash’, in which the dominant enforces the ‘two steps behind’ rule or sets a predetermined ‘leash allowance’ (a length in which the sub is allowed to travel freely, such as three feet), and a ‘wrist leash’, which is a very short leash that extends from the dominant’s hand to the submissive’s wrist and attaches to a cuff. This alternative is best suited for walks in open areas with few people, such as in nature.

Leash training requires privacy and at least some open space, so those who live with others may find it difficult to practice due to the amount of room that is needed to comfortably move around and practice positions. While leash training is a unique and rewarding activity, it is not necessary in order to have a fulfilling owner/pet relationship. Establishing protocol and expectations, such as the ‘two steps behind’ rule, is key to reinforcing the dynamic.

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i hate being mentally ill because the first thought i have now when someone gets even remotely romantically close to me is “how will they ever like me when i’m so fucked up” followed by “they don’t deserve to be with someone this fucked up”

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I`m not available. I have a daddy and we`re very happy together so don`t try to ask me to be yours. I am not interested in a new caregiver so please stop. I`ll block anyone who askes

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The way it should be

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I love it when my kitten squirts for her Daddy.

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I never share

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My daddy has been really sad lately. What could i do to make it better?

Just love him, lay with him, give him space if that’s what he needs, make him a cute little card or something and tell him how much you love him, kisses are a must, ask him over to have pizza and watch Netflix 👌, if you can cook make him his favorite dessert or meal or something, hold him us littles arent the only ones that need to be held sometimes, let him lay his head on your chest/lap and play with his hair if he likes it. Dunno, just a few I might would do. But it just depends on what you think your man would like.