BDSM Questions Tag
So, I thought I’d start with a post that allowed you to get to know me a bit more! These questions were chosen as the top 10 from a long list (approximately 80!) created by Phoen and me. If you chose to answer these questions yourself on either a blog or video I’d love to check it out!
Questions:
1. Are you a dom or a sub? I am a full fledged submissive! Tried my hand at domming once and it was the least comfortable I’ve ever felt, sub life forever! 2. How long have you known that you were kinky? Approximately 5-6 years! 3. How did you get into BDSM? I discovered BDSM through reading, specifically a book called ‘My Nerdy Valentine’. Probably not the most appropriate book for a preteen to be reading. But it did help me discover that I was very much into a less vanilla life! 4. How has BDSM changed your life? I feel like it’s given me more confidence, both sexually and just in my general life. And without the kink community I wouldn’t have met several of my current close friends who have helped me in their own ways! 5. Have you ever been to a BDSM event (like a munch or a dungeon)? Nope! Partially because a lot of dungeons and events like it are 21 up, but also because I don’t know anyone in the community in my area and have yet to work up the courage to go to a munch or such alone. 6. Has anyone ever guessed that you were kinky before they knew you? One time at a grocery store a woman called out to me from a few few away, walked up, gently touched my collar and said “that’s cool” with this smirk, and then walked away. 7. Have you ever ‘come out’ about being kinky to friends or family? One time I was having a conversation with my older sister and accidentally mentioned my fetlife account, but she didn’t seem phased by it at all and just kept the conversation going. 8. What do you wish the public knew about BDSM? That it’s completely consensual and there is nothing inherently wrong with someone for being into or enjoying such activities. And personally BDSM doesn’t always equal sex. It is trust, and respect and openness and understanding and does not need to include sex for it to be BDSM. 9. What common mistakes have you seen BDSM beginners make? Acting as one dynamics rules apply to all. Or thinking that just because someone is a sub, that they have to please any Dom who wants them to. Or rushing into everything, trying to understand and know everything there is to know immediately, just to name a few! 10. What advice would you give to someone who is new to BDSM? Be patient, don’t be afraid to seek out advice and mentor-ship from those willing to give it. There is no ‘right’ way to be kinky! And you will never stop learning more in the BDSM community, there is so much to take in and learn.
