24/7 Diaper Discipline - Lite edition
We speak with lots of couples or ABDL partners who want to go 24/7 but practically it’s hard and instead they find themselves bouncing around different rules, periods of wearing with lows of feelings of shame and highs where they worry it’s an addiction.
We’re advocates for 24/7 as it normalizes wearing to prevent these highs and lows but I do understand this isn’t always possible. Also trying and failing at 24/7 multiple times isn’t good either.
When 24/7 lite is perfect:
- Your partner currently wears diapers around 50% of the time
- There are times were they currently can’t or don’t feel comfortable wearing diapers (work, friends, family, etc)
- They experience lows where the desire to wear goes away or they feel shame
- You are supportive of them wearing & using diapers more
So what is 24/7 lite:
Your partner will be diapered most of the time and you will normalize it in your relationship. Your involvement can vary but it can’t be none. There will be agreed times they don’t have to wear and flexibility for 1 cheat day a week where they’re not diapered.
Recommended rules:
- Your partners default underwear is now a diaper
- When in diapers, they are your partners toilet, no exceptions
- Allowed exceptions to wear underwear:
- working in an office or with colleagues
- spending time with friends or family
- taking part in sport
- For clarity, these aren’t exceptions:
- Being in public, going to the store, out for dinner
- Travelling by car, train, bus or plane
- Vacations
- Overnight (even if staying with friends / family and you have your own bedroom)
- Cheat Days:
- 1 cheat day is allowed per week
- It resets on Monday each week and doesn’t carry over if unused
- Either partner can invoke the cheat day, this should happen in the morning before they’re diapered for the day.
- A cheat day lasts until the next morning
- Your involvement:
- Changing them into a fresh diaper every morning
- Changing their wet evening diaper into their thick nighttime diaper
- Checking they are diapered when they should be
- Their diapers:
- At home and overnight = thick medical or ABDL diapers
- Traveling and vacations = thiner medical diapers allowed but recommend megamax level of protection where possible
- You can substitute their underwear during exceptions for pull ups, training pants or childish underwear if you wish
Are you ready for this?
24/7 Lite is still a big lifestyle change so you need to ask yourself if you’re ready to help your partner do this and:
- Accept your partner as being primarily a diaper wearer
- Be comfortable with the idea that they’ll be peeing and pooping in their diapers including times when you’re together
- Be willing to provide encouragement to keep them wearing and using their diapers
- You’re happy to deal with the extra work of bringing diaper and changing supplies with you on day trips and vacations
- Ready to make changes to your home life to normalize their diaper wearing
Other changes you should make:
- Have a diaper bag packed and ready at all times, this can be a backpack and include at least 2 diapers, wipes, powder, a changing mat / disposal mat, diaper disposal bags and a change of clothes in case of leaks.
- Stock up on diapers, you should have at least a month of diapers available so around 100
- Setup a dedicated diaper changing area. Ideally this should include an adult changing table, all the supplies you need and a diaper pail.
- Don’t hide their diaper wearing in the house (unless you have guests coming). Their diapers should be visible in the changing area and you should encourage exposed diapers or clothing which doesn’t hide them around the house.
Getting Started
- This change shouldn’t be thought of as being for a few weeks but a long term and potentially permanent decision
- I’d recommend throwing away their underwear so only a few remain for exception times and have a way to secure these to prevent the temptation to cheat (lockbox / safe).
- Set up the changing area, I do feel this is an important step in accepting this as being a reality.
- Make sure you have at least a 1 month diaper supply (120+ diapers)
- Review and agree the rules together and decide a starting date.
- Optionally, start them on Devrom a few days before to reduce the smell of BM’s and lower their embarrassment when getting used to messing their diaper regularly. It may also help you to normalize them being messy around you without accidentally giving a negative reaction.
- When the day comes you should take the lead and diaper them and remind them of the new rules.
- In the first few weeks give as much positive reassurance as possible, telling them they’re good for wearing their diapers, when they wet them, when they’re messy, etc.
When is the time is right to switch to true 24/7
24/7 Lite might be the perfect balance for you but it’s not unlikely that the time might come to switch to true 24/7.
I’d recommend having at least a few months of 24/7 Lite working well before changing things but if you’re now used to seeing them diapered while dry, wet and messy, and diapers changes, wearing in public all feel routine it could be the right moment to increase things.
To do this you can decide to first remove cheat days meaning at home and when together they’ll always be diapered. Then switch to pull ups for exceptions and throw away all their underwear. Finally transition them to thinner diapers around colleagues, friends and family.
Who thinks this would be good for them or their partner?
This is such a fantastic post! The idea of 24/7 Lite is such a great way to play with the idea of wearing 24/7 without making the commitment, which is substantial. Excellent ideas and advice. My gateway into wearing 24/7 was nighttime training. I wore every night for months before diving into the 24/7 pool…that was my 24/7 Lite.
