Chelsea Shock

chartreuse-haired bombshell host of @sysoterica

[chelshoq]

jujutsu kaisen got me kicking me feet giggling with excitement

[chelshoq]

why does my heartburn come with severe death anxiety

[vulturevanity]

I think we need to kill the sentiment that people lose their right to personhood once they do something bad enough

[vulturevanity]

I don't know who needs to hear this but you need to stop dehumanising people even if those people are "abusers" or "creeps" because you need to understand that you are not immune to doing something equally as bad

Abusers and creeps are not some species of especially heinous animal or alien or monster wearing the face of a human. They're people. And you NEED to drill it into your head that they are people because you NEED to remember that people are capable of doingn heinous shit. And you are a person. And your loved ones are people.

By emotionally classifying people who have done heinous things as subhuman filth incapable of thinking and feeling and acting just like you and me, and by using that emotional dehumanization as a reason to deny those people any compassion or support on a systemic level, you risk becoming blind to abuse/violence perpetrated by someone close to you or even yourself. Because if "abusers don't deserve rights", then you won't ever want to admit or accept that you or a loved one is perpetrating abuse, and that makes stopping the abuse or preventing further abuse much harder. This is how you end up excuaing abusive behaviour on the grounds that, since you don't see someone as a disgusting subhuman pile of garbage therefore they can't possibly be An Abuser, Trademark

[vulturevanity]

And here'a the even harder pill to swallow: since the world isn't split into "abusers" and "good people", in the same way you or someone you love can inflict abuse/violence on others, the people who HAVE inflicted abuse/violence on others can, in fact, change and become better people

There is no bottomless chasm of moral uncleanliness that someone can run off and fall into and get stuck in forever. People can do better. Yes, even those people. You HAVE to accept this. Otherwise not only is there no motivation for anyone to try and do better (which is when people become stuck in a cycle of violence and abuse they don't want to escape), but your idea of a perfect justice system doesn't look any different from Literal Christian Hell. And I HOPE you understand that Literal Christian Hell is, to put it very lightly, not a good justice system.

[chelshoq]

i wish i could reblog this multiple times... not only are abusers often also victims of abuse, but as soon as you create a binary moral system you potentially put certain demographics at risk.

let's do a thought experiment

Big Green takes over the world and declares that there are two kinds of people in the world. Those who LOVE the color green, and those who DESPISE it.

Perhaps initially neutrality on the issue is somewhat understood, if not accepted by most. But soon enough, the more puritanical of the green-lovers begin to conflate feelings of neutrality with feelings of hatred. Soon, the prevailing belief among green-lovers is that if you don't absolutely love the color green, you must secretly hate it.

this analogy might suck because i'm not an academic but my main point is that the world isn't black and white. there are better ways of trying to make sense of the world.

the people who hurt others are usually not any more fundamentally evil than you are. of course there are some real monsters out there, but we're all a lot closer to them than we are to the ideals we set for ourselves.

and if you can't see the humanity in someone who does something heinous, then you'll never be able to live with yourself should you ever make a mistake so large.

in my eyes, one's humanity is not up for debate.

[ozth]

[chelshoq]

i wanted to name this blog "bombchel" but it was taken. so was "chelshock" so i just gave in and made it quirky and niche

[chelshoq]

tbh i just wanted a blog where i could post whatever i wanted without any pressure to keep up appearances

[chelshoq]

it's lowkey so fucked up that i'm supposed to eat three meals a day when my tummy can barely even hold one at a time