Low support needs autistics would rather appeal to our abusers than our experiences. and stand for nobody but themselves.
Info About Author; Kaelynn Partlow @kaelynnvp, Autism Advocate and woman with autism showcases the genuine issues with lower support needs autistics showcasing a lack of seeing humanity in 'Deeply autistic' children, even for autistic people who claim understanding of our struggles due to their own neurodivergent experiences. This video tells would-be parents it is *Normal* to not want autistic children. The reasonings here really do showcase the lack of humanity other autistic people see in 'more severe' cases, Reasons will be displayed in a bulleted list.
Her description says 'It’s OK to want to protect your future kids from challenges ❤️🩹' The challenges she lists for autistic children showcases her beliefs about 'deeply' autistic children being burdensome.
Autistic children are Four times more likely to experience sexual abuse. (Kaelynn acts out her not understanding unclothing, she roleplays as a 'deeply' autistic person. Unclothing herself with this statistic on screen.)
50% of autistic children over the age of four will run or wander away from a safe place. (Kaelynn acts out elopement, the roleplaying 'care provider' Grabs into her and attempts to restrain her as she runs away, something notable as it routinely causes severe injuries to autistic people and is NOT RECCOMENDED FOR CAREGIVERS TO DO)
42% of autistic people engage in self injury like bititing, head banging, or scratching (Kaelynn acts out overstimulation self injury. On screen depicting herself injuring her own body, an autistic experience she has never claimed to have)
80% of autistic adults experience not just loneliness but isolation.
85% of autistic adults are unemployed.
She says living with a disability isn't a death sentence, and autistic people can be happy. However, it is okay to not want autistic children.
It is WRONG to use abuses, struggles, and violence we face as reasons parents should NOT have autistic children, or why it is perfectly alright to not wish to ever have autistic children. For anyone who does not know, This is eugenicist. The focus on autistic adult struggle is exculsively how it affects the caregiver, when most caregivers of children are likely to sexually abuse us more than strangers, the focus on not wanting autistic children is first focused on the likelihood our parents will sexually abuse us. Cut in with Kaelynn showcasing undressing. Victim shaming autistic children who get sexually abused.
She said that autistic children are more likely to experience sexual abuse seems to imply the autistic child who doesnt understand undressing boundaries is 'Guilty' of bringing about sexual abuse. Theres a difference in statistics in girls versus boys being sexually abused, but you do not see people saying its okay to not want to have a daughter due to sexual abuse of your child.
Autistic children elope often but the methods she showcases in the video is incredibly dangerous and can lead to bodily injury and her being an autism advocate seemingly centering a clip of a caregiver dragging a child attempting to walk away seems to offer this is a needed part of treating elopement.
Her clip about self injury ignores that it is often a side effect of poor treatment at home or by caretakers who fail to give autistic children proper boundaries and social ability to voice concern or overstimulation. Centering it on the injurious behavior instead of the failure of caregivers once again showcases a misunderstanding of how often 'More severe' autistic people are just poorly treated and respected by advocates or caretakers.
It is not a failure for autistic people to struggle with socializing and working. Workplaces focus mostly on harming the worker overstimulating and underpreparing them for any level of disability care or advocacy needs. I am unable to work because of overstimulation directly imposed by potential employers being a risk to myself and my life. This is the most common reason autistic people remain unemployed. This or the social isolation imposed BY OTHERS because of our behavior leading to emotional outburtsts as it is considered normal to abuse us socially for our struggles in behavior. Not helped by the same ableism that this video showcases.
Mocking autistic struggle through acting it out, including often violent or dangerous outdated care (abuse tatics) used against autistic people showcases that, Sometimes autistic people are not better arbiters for the betterment of our care. internalized ableism is a large issue within the autism community, especially among autistic people who received more socialization within schooling. The belief that autistic caregivers have the true struggle when it comes for caring with disabled people ignores the reality of autism resulting in self injury or harm being often a reflection of the failures our caretakers have in caring for us properly and even our neglect.
if you are lower support needs, do not speak as if autism at its 'worst managed' is a failure of the autistic person, rather than a failure of our care.
