Breaking Free
Here’s a joke I’ve told hundreds of times. It’s very offensive and it always gets a laugh:
“What did the Polack in the police lineup say?”
“That’s her!”
I do not know whether I have told this joke to assault victims, though I’m pretty sure I’ve told it to a few people of Polish ancestry. But, without wallowing in the tedium of explaining why something’s funny, I do want to point out that a key element of this joke’s humor is its insensitivity to the audience. Insisting that comedy should avoid touching wounds, or that it be sensitive to its audience’s vulnerabilities reduces its capacity to make people laugh. Jokes trespass.
Movie stars lead carefully managed lives. The biggest movie stars, the ones who can get movies funded and produced regardless of story quality, the ones with tens of millions of social media followers, the ones prominently featured on billboards in Times Square, employ dozens or even hundreds of people to fine-tune their public image. Every public statement, appearance or performance is meticulously calibrated to win more public adulation, and even though the publicists, stylists, dieticians, personal trainers and dialogue coaches work very hard to trick millions of people into believing they know these actors, only a select few have the charisma and talent to captain this team effort. It is inevitable that movie stars suppress their own impulses, cleansing themselves of outward displays of inner urges, often by substituting relatable foibles for authentic ones. OMG, I loooove to eat a whole pizza all by myself too! But what’s going on beneath the persona? Is the authentic self completely extinguished? Or is it lurking, perpetually seeking outlets of expression?
Most people interested in movies have heard some anecdote about one star or another’s kinky secret life, whether it’s a certain teen idol’s late night cruising for young men to extinguish cigarettes on his bare flesh or a recent America’s Sweetheart who was reputed to allow her husband to sodomize her with a shotgun while she sported a Hitler mustache made out of excrement. Sordid gossip is titillating, and rarely true. But it does reinforce the suggestion that bizarre secret lives are one way that stars can compartmentalize their true selves so they can sell the more marketable version to an increasingly invasive public.
All childhoods involve trauma. I don’t know anything about the childhood trauma of the man who in 1996 became the biggest movie star in the world and continues to command a top-5 salary for delivering top-5 box office performance. One thing I do know is that when this actor appeared in the film adaptation of a Pulitzer-winning play, the producer of that play said he hadn’t seen an actor that professional or well-prepared since Katherine Hepburn. I know this because that producer was my father-in-law. The actor already had a successful music career and starred on a silly, iconic sitcom created by a frequent contributor to the New Yorker.
In 1997, this actor married one of the most beautiful women in the world. They have a son and a daughter, both of whom have successful entertainment careers. While anyone reading this (thank you both!) already knows who we’re talking about here (and why), I will now mention that this actor and his wife are Black. And without farting through a bunch of Sontagian exigencies, I think we can all agree that being Black entails a set of challenges that being a peckerwood does not. So this man, who is arguably the most successful entertainer of all time, has projected an image of Black Excellence for nearly 30 years now. That’s a really hard job and, to say the least, he’s done it really well. And while he would not have attained such Apollonian heights of success without some constraints, a lot of smiling when he wasn’t actually happy, a lot of places he had to be while convincing EVERYONE that he genuinely wanted to be there, somewhere in there is a real person with real feelings, mangled and marred by the obligations that fame demands.
Last night, with about three steps to go along a multi-decade, zillion-step journey to the pinnacle of his profession, Atlas shrugged.










