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Working in the garden with this dude to keep me company. We named him Hermie. He's the neighbour's new rooster.
PLEASE SHARE THE MESSAGE BELOW ON ALL YOUR SOCIAL MEDIA ACCOUNTS:
How to help Ukraine and/or Ukrainian refugees in neigbouring countries with supplies:
Urgent needed materials for the refugees especially in Poland and Romania:
Sleeping bags
Blankets
Hats/gloves/hand warmers
Vehicles to and from Poland and Romania to pick up refugees
Water
TRANSLATORS
Baby food/milk/bottles/diapers and clothes for all ages
Pet food – mostly cats and dog.
Any and all medicines.
Urgent needed materials for the soldiers and civilians fighting in Ukraine:
Bulletproof vests
Helmets
Thermal imager
Night vision devices
Walkie-talkies
Water
Blankets and warm clothing
Not demanded at this point, yet very welcome given the ongoing attacks;
Bandages and medicine; specifically pain relief and anti-inflammatory as well as medicine for diabetes, epilepsy and heart patients.
Contact your local Red Cross or Ukrainian embassy as to how and where these supplies can be send or dropped off for shipping.
Thank you!
"Yo Russia! Paddle home!“ 😂😂😂
Ukrainian President Volodymyr Zelensky has turned down an offer from the United States of evacuation from the capital city Kyiv, the Ukraine embassy in Britain said Saturday on Twitter.
"The fight is here; I need ammunition, not a ride"
I honestly can't fathom what Putin's big idea looked like in his own head, because in terms of PR alone, Zelensky is a badass for the ages and absolutely mopping the floor.
The amount of respect and administration I have for this man and all Ukrainians is immense. They are the embodiment of courage, resilience and so much more.
The world not only needs way more people like them, they can take bloody notes, too!
YES AND.. Oh my god, I only just learned THIS:
Ukrainian President Volodymyr Zelensky, a comedian who had no experience of politics when elected less than three years ago..
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I knew this :) Regardless though of his experience, or lack there of, the man has what so many world leaders lack; courage and leadership.
Look at this interview SkyNews did with Sergiy Stakhovsky, retired professional tennis player. There are so many ordinary people who are going above and beyond in this tragedy.
I admit my Eastern European political knowledge was pretty patchy until now but wow. The whole of Ukraine is teaching the world lesson in indomitable spirit! Other world leaders better be taking notes on what real courage is right now ✊
This is indeed the kind of standard the world needs. ✊❤️🇺🇦
The Truth About A Man’s Penis.
It’s high time someone, or in this case me, speaks out about penises, specifically about what is considered a ‘beautiful and/or normal penis’.
What I have to say on the matter has got nothing to do with kink, or me being straight. I’d have the exact same opinion if I were to be a dude or a lesbian.
The anonymous confession I got recently seems so have stirred quite a few reactions and questions from various followers of mine. You’d be surprised - I know I am - to discover how many men feel insecure when it comes to their manhood. To say I was shocked upon reading some of the stories my followers shared is an understatement.
And that, in this day and age, is just wrong!
Penises, ladies and gents, come in all shapes and sizes and colours. Some are cut others are not. Some curve to the left when erect others curve to the right. Some are fairly veiny others are not. Some have moles or freckles on them others have not. Some are growers others are showers. Some leak fairly quickly and abundantly other do not. Some have quite an impressive girth others don’t. Some fit in the palm of your hand other do not.
My point is, no two penises are the same. Each penis is as unique as the person they’re attached to.
It blows my freaking mind, and not in the good way, that men are judged and sometimes even rejected as a long term partner because ‘their penis doesn’t look right’.
What does that even say about the person who mocks or rejects a man based on this? That they’re shallow as fuck? Hell yes! That they’re either a fucking bitch or an asshole? You damn right!
Judging or rejecting a man solely based on how their manhood looks is the exact same thing as claiming a woman with a B cup is less of a woman than the women with a DD. It’s the exact same thing as claiming a person with grey eyes is less important or smart than a person with brown eyes. It’s plain stupid and ignorant.
In case you’re unaware of this, on top of a penis the male body is equipped with ten fingers and a tongue.
Further more, all those ‘perfect 9 inch dicks and up’ you see in porn are not an accurate representation of the male population of this planet. There’s camera angles and penis pumps to add the illusion of size.
Not to mention, should it indeed be needed, there a more than enough sex toys that can help with the eventual lack of length or girth. Using a toy is no different than a woman needing a strap-on in order to penetrate and pleasure her partner.
Unless we’re talking about a dude who has no sense of hygiene that you can smell a mile away there is no reason whatsoever to dismiss a man.
Gents, no matter how your little fella looks (no pun intended), he is beautiful. You are beautiful. And you’re all damn well worthy of finding a partner who worships and loves the hell out of you.
I encourage all my followers to go and visit the page @eroticsmallfeatures. It’s a fabulous page that welcomes, embraces and supports all men, and women. You’ll see for yourself that everyone is beautiful just the way they are.
Much love to all,
Dirty
Hi, I was hoping you could help me. A bit ago I met up with consensualpredator3rd and unfortunately I didn't have a great time. I regret meeting him for several reasons but the big ones are 1) He got to the hotel and started the scene immediately without saying anything or verifying he was who he said he was. We never talked about how the scene would start and he grabbed my neck right after walking in the door and started smacking me. 2) He popped my jaw smacking me 3) I shut down and just went along with it and he didn't do a consent check in and make sure I was still good. 4) His safeword system was inconsistent and he got really pissed when I called red to the point where I wanted to leave but I was scared to do so. 5) He got mad when I asked him to delete my pictures because I just didn't want him to have them anymore and he never gave proof of deleting them.
Maybe I'm the only one who had a bad experience with him, but I talked to someone and he said that these were all red flags. All I want is for no one else to get hurt like I did.
May 14, 2021: Friday Morning
Good Morning Anon.
I’m very sorry for your experience, and we appreciate you sharing it with us today. From the final statement in your ask, I can tell that you are shopping around this encounter to get feedback from people so you can get a better understanding of what has happened to you. I’m happy to tell you what I think, based on what you’ve expressed.
1. He got to the hotel and started the scene immediately…
Consent based encounters start with discussion and negotiation. Unless it was agreed upon before hand that the scene would start upon your entrance, (which you say it was not) it’s a fucked up way to start a scene with someone new, and was your first huge red flag of your experience. 🚩
2. started the scene immediately without saying anything or verifying he was who he said he was.
How completely terrifying. There is no way a consent based experience should start this way. Once again, unless this was agreed upon, this is neither dominant or human behavior. Second huge red flag. 🚩🚩
3. and he grabbed my neck right after walking in the door and started smacking me.
No. Without introducing himself? Upon entering? Undiscussed and unnegotiated? Completely fucked up. Red Flag. 🚩🚩🚩
4. He popped my jaw smacking me
So you walked in and he just started whaling on you, and hard enough that he popped your jaw. I’m going to guess there was no check in there, as there seems to be no concern for your comfort or safety anywhere in the encounter you are describing, so another red flag. 🚩🚩🚩🚩
5. I shut down and just went along with it and he didn’t do a consent check in and make sure I was still good.
I understand your response as someone who was actively being abused. Considering the activities you’re describing, it’s inexcusable that you wouldn’t be checked in with many times throughout the encounter, especially as someone new to him. 🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩
6. His safeword system was inconsistent and he got really pissed when I called red to the point where I wanted to leave but I was scared to do so.
An inconsistent safe word system = no safe word system. A safe word is something that must be reacted to strongly and immediately every time it’s uttered. There can be no inconsistency in consent based encounters. Anger in response to a safe word being implemented is not dominant behavior. People who get angry at safe words tend to be abusers, misogynists, and/or narcissists. An inconsistent safe word system is a huge red flag. 🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩
7. He got mad when I asked him to delete my pictures because I just didn’t want him to have them anymore and he never gave proof of deleting them.
When you give someone pictures of yourself you are doing that with consent. You should be able to revoke consent and ask them to delete them without any push back or drama. Anyone who acts pissy or won’t give you the peace of mind of knowing you did what they asked you to do is not a dominant. Definite red flag behavior. 🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩
Here are some final thoughts:
* If you uttered your safeword and it didn’t stop the scene, you were raped.
* A dominant will make you feel safe in a scene, even when it’s an intense or CNC scene. Having an intense BDSM scene is about creating the illusion of fear and danger, not about actually putting you in a state of fear and danger.
* A dominant will have a rock solid view of consent and will be very concerned about that being reflected in every scene they have with you.
* Again, what you describe is a terrifying and traumatizing scene full of red flags and consent violations. I hope you learn and heal from it, and I hope some of what I said helps you to recover from it.
JD
Someone sent me this, and at first I thought it was one of my many haters bleeding out beyond just sending me hate mail and making up fake shit.
However, the more I went over it trying to figure out if there was someone who matched up with the unusual details, I think I know who this person is (90% sure) and if it was them, we did meet so I should address this.
First of all, it saddens me any time someone doesn’t enjoy meeting with me, it’s rare but when you play with dozens of dozens like I have it happens occasionally.
However, this person is being disingenuous by omission and leaving out context.
This person contacted me asking me to take their virginity. We made plans for her to stop and get a room on her way down to college.
Their jaw was popped because they had a previous medical condition and it was prone to do so. They did not share this information with me until after it had happened. Any medical or psychological issues that may come up in a scene always need to be disclosed in advance for exactly this reason.
I’m a consensual non consent player. It is extreme edge play. I am known and sought out for my intensity and aggression. It’s well advertised, and present in many write ups done by people who have done scenes with me. I’m not a daddy dom. She knew all of this.
I texted her from the parking lot as soon as I arrived. I made at least two trips back to my car before we started. I’m not sure how she can construe this as not introducing myself.
I’m also not sure how my safeword system was “inconsistent” but it is true I didn’t use the check in part. I didn’t need to, she stopped the scene extremely frequently. You’ll notice she never claims I did not stop when she called “red”, because I did. Every time, and it was a lot of times. Pretty much every hit and even basic vanilla sex was too much for her.
In my opinion, this person wasn’t physically, mentally, or emotionally ready to have sex. Especially BDSM of any type. I definitely wasn’t the right choice for her, being on the more extreme end of the scale for that type of play.
It was her room, and she could have asked me to leave at any time. I actually offered to leave, once it was clear she couldn’t handle it. She asked me to stay.
We cut the scene short, and she talked to me about her mother, sister, and father. I listened and gave support. I often end up in a makeshift psychologist role, and I feel it’s my duty to provide that aspect of aftercare when people need it.
We went out to pick up calzones, came back to eat and watch Sherlock. We spent upwards of four hours of me listening to her problems and feelings.
And I’m glad. She needed that.
There were lots of opportunities for her to have me leave. She asked me to stay. We sat in her car the next morning after checkout, I don’t remember if we went to breakfast.
I’m not out to invalidate someone’s experience, but I don’t feel I’m being represented fairly in her account. Her jaw being predisposed to popping, insinuating (but stopping short of claiming) that I didn’t respond to safewords, not mentioning that we stopped the scene or any of the aftercare (especially when she got the gold star therapy version) leaves a lot of context out and doesn’t give a complete understanding of the experience.
I always respond to safewords, and I responded and stopped every time she called it.
Ladies and gents,
I apologise for my vicious rant, however, the occasion calls for it. And please, share this post widely - this behavior has to be exposed!
@consensualpredator3rd,
As a longtime dominant, a woman and mother to offspring that still fall into the virgin category, let me be as clear as I can possibly be; FUCK YOU! FUCK YOU you fucking, abusive piece of shit!
I searched your name following Anon’s question and goddamn saying I’m still fuming is an understatement.
Not a single word in your reply makes any of this any better, quite the opposite; you’ve outed yourself as a dangerous predator, a psychopath even.
This person contacted me asking me to take their virginity.
We made plans for her to stop and get a room on her way down to college. …. I’m a consensual non consent player. It is extreme edge play. I am known and sought out for my intensity and aggression. It’s well advertised, and present in many write ups done by people who have done scenes with me. I’m not a daddy dom. She knew all of this.
Do you know the meaning of being a virgin? It means, asshole, they have little to no sexual experience. It also means - and this goes without saying, that even in the most boring, vanilla setting, you - aka the ‘more experienced partner’, you tone it the fuck down!! You take your cues from her!
Unless you’re paid to do so, and even then there are rules, in what fucking world is it okay for you, a so-called experienced man in extreme edge play know for his intensity and aggression, to meet with her in the first place?!? You should have never ever agreed to this! Since you’re capable of writing it means you have some intelligence and thus capable of realising this from the getgo!
Furthermore; meeting up in a hotel room? Are you out of your fucking mind?!? You meet in PUBLIC! In a NEUTRAL and SAFE place first where you proceed to have a strictly vanilla and pg-13 conversation. For your safety as well as theirs.
Their jaw was popped because they had a previous medical condition and it was prone to do so. They did not share this information with me until after it had happened. Any medical or psychological issues that may come up in a scene always need to be disclosed in advance for exactly this reason.
Let’s, for the sake of argument, say she forgot to mention said medical condition; the very second her jaw popped; you, the dominant, and thus the person responsible for her physical and mental safety, it was your goddamn duty, your obligation to shut the scene down right there and then!
This only leads me to the next chapter in this shitshow; In my opinion, this person wasn’t physically, mentally, or emotionally ready to have sex. Especially BDSM of any type. I definitely wasn’t the right choice for her, being on the more extreme end of the scale for that type of play.
Again, I say; THIS IS WHERE YOU STEP UP AND TAKE YOUR RESPONSIBILITY AS A DOMINANT AND PUT YOUR BIG BOY PANTS ON AND END ALL PLAY!! THIS IS WHERE YOU MAKE SURE THEY CALM DOWN AND CALL SOMEONE TO COME AND PICK THEM UP!!
Don’t even get me started on what you wrote next.
I’m also not sure how my safeword system was “inconsistent” but it is true I didn’t use the check in part. I didn’t need to, she stopped the scene extremely frequently. You’ll notice she never claims I did not stop when she called “red”, because I did. Every time, and it was a lot of times. Pretty much every hit and even basic vanilla sex was too much for her.
Listen very carefully, junior; you don’t need to have lots of experience within the community to know the significance of the word ‘red’ as a safeword. And red, asshole, means STOP! WHEN A SUB CALLS ‘RED’ OR USES ANY OTHER AGREED-UPON SAFEWORD YOU SHUT THAT SCENE DOWN, IMMEDIATELY! I don’t give a shit how hard your dick is or how close to cumming you are.
And the reason they’re calling ‘red’ is because we domintants - and in this case YOU - fucked up! You pushed them too far. The very simple fact that you casually mention she called ‘red’ many times, pretty much at every hit and even basic vanilla sex makes my goddamn blood boil!
No submissive, no matter their experience, is capable of carrying on a scene after they safeworded. And even if they begged for it to continue, you shut that shit down, because you ought to know they’re not in the right, and healthy, state of mind.
What you’re writing down is nothing short of a confession to abuse. Nowhere in your reply do you recognise her feelings or her experience. Nothing in your reply represents the very cornerstones of our community; Safe, Sane and Consensual.
Quite the opposite, you blame her for your actions.
You’re nothing more than a boy, a fucking wannabe trying to fit in with the adults, and kid; you’re failing miserably. The only good thing to come out of this is your exposure as an abuser.
You’re a disgrace to all dominants who worship and respect their submissives, who move heaven and earth to keep them safe - at all times.
To all my followers with teenage and/or inexperienced kids, for the love of my sanity talk to them.
To all my young and inexperienced followers, again, for the love of my sanity, trust me when I say vanilla is the way to go for your first time. Kink grows and comes naturally with experience.
Reposting this here as well so no one will forget this piece of shit's inexcusable behaviour.
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😱😱😱 Launch the nukes!!! 😱😱😱
Never looked at it that way truth be told. Personally I'm a sucker for the energy that comes of a live record - especially the drum solo.
Humiliation…
Men are all different. Thus, different things turn them on and different things humiliate them. Here is a list of things that humiliate many men. This list is by no means complete, nor will every man be turned on by everything on the list. It is up to you to discover what works and what doesn’t. Sometimes, only the threat of these things is enough to turn him on. Humiliation can be used as a punishment as well. Find out which ones and You can control his behavior through the threat of it…
Name calling (stupid, worthless, etc.)
Belittling him or his “equipment” (tiny dick, little willy, etc.)
Forced cross-dressing
Wearing women’s clothing (maids outfit?) anywhere
Shopping for lingerie (for you or for him)
Wearing a butt-plug in public
Masturbating in a public restroom
Wearing women’s panties or pantyhose under street clothes
Masturbating for you or a group
Eating his own (or other men’s) cum
Shave his genitals yourself, then make him keep them clean shaven
Sexually servicing several women
Telling others about your lifestyle
Prostate or other type of milking
Being naked around the house
Anal penetration (dildo, strap-on, etc.)
Sex with an inflatable doll
Suck a realistic dildo
Being naked outdoors
Being photographed (or video recorded)
Post photos or videos to the web
Forced bi-sexuality (make him suck another’s cock)
Being cuckolded
Drinking your urine
Doing just about anything sexual to himself while you or others watch
The thing to remember is that You don’t have to make him actually do these things. Just implying that You “might” may be enough of a turn on. It’s up to You to discover what works with Your man and what doesn’t…
M.I.
Humiliation. Why does so much on here has to be about humiliating your boy? I’m a gentle domme. Like many other gentle dommes I don’t humiliate my boy or someone else’s boy. I don’t need to be or act like a freaking bitch to have my boy’s submission.
Let’s coat and modify the above points with a large dose of positive reinforcement shall we. And for those wondering; yes, that’s exactly how it works for my babyboy. Also, I left some points out. Ex, fucking an inflatable doll?! Seriously, I laughed out loud!
Name calling (stupid, worthless, etc.) => Compliment him as often as possible. Call him beautiful, handsome, dashing, hell the list of possibilities is endless. Before you know it you’ll have a boy who’ll not only radiate at your side but who will also start blushing adorably under your words
Praise your boy when he’s doing something good. Tell your boy how proud you are of him.
Belittling him or his “equipment” (tiny dick, little willy, etc.) => Name his “equipment”. Choose a name or endearment that fits either your boy’s personality or the physical aspect of his manhood. Regardless if your boy’s locked up or not. Use the name when you’re referring to his cock.
Forced cross-dressing / Wearing women’s clothing (maids outfit?) anywhere => On the condition you have a similar size, have him wear one of your t-shirts/sweaters/panties/stockings. Don’t be surprised if said t-shirt/sweater now becomes ‘his’ after a while. If you’re not the same size, when you’re out shopping for you, buy him the same t-shirts/sweater in his size. If you’re into feminizing your boy turn him into a high end call girl, not some 5$ cheap whore.
Shopping for lingerie (for you or for him) => YES! Take your time while shopping. Enjoy it! Let your boy point out what he likes as well. (Doesn’t mean you have to take whatever he likes now does it?)
Have him wearing a butt-plug in public => YES! Tease your boy about how ready he’ll be for you when you go home afterwards.
Wearing women’s panties or pantyhose under street clothes => YES! Lord knows my boy looks so freaking gorgeous in them! I have no doubt your boy looks just as stunning.
Masturbating for you or a group => Group or not show your boy off, be proud of how he looks and sounds. You’re the reason he’s a gorgeous ,wanton mess after all.
Eating his own (or other men’s) cum => YES! All good boys clean up their messes.
Shave his genitals yourself, then make him keep them clean shaven => YES! Of course I shave my boy’s genitals. It not only lets him know who owns him, it creates a deep bond with your boy.
Telling others about your lifestyle => Our closest friends know about our lifestyle. Speak proudly about your submissive boy when you do, having his submission is gift.
Prostate or other type of milking => Yes! Your boy’s body belongs to you entirely.
Being naked around the house => Hell yes! There’s no such thing as not appreciating your naked boy.
Anal penetration (dildo, strap-on, etc.) => Yes! You’d be surprised how your boy blooms whenever you’re inside him, how he needs to be taken apart by your girlcock.
Being naked outdoors => Yes! Why do you think I take my boy to nude saunas or naturist beaches? I notice the occasional head turn when we walk on by. Placing my hand on his ass as we pass to let them know he’s mine in that instant? Try it, watch your boy’s reaction. You can thank me later.
Being photographed (or video recorded) => There’s no such thing as taking too many pictures of videos or your boy, ever.
Suck a realistic dildo / Forced bi-sexuality (make him suck another’s cock) => Like so many other women, watching or picturing your boy with another man is a huge turn on. Tell him how gorgeous he would look/looks with another man, no matter who tops or bottoms. Tell him how wet it would make/makes you.
Drinking your urine => In case it’s one of your kinks, turn it into a gift from you to him because that’s exactly what it is.
Doing just about anything sexual to himself while you (or others) watch => Yes! Your boy is there for your pleasure. In case you have other people present, show your boy off. Be proud of him, after all, he belongs to you. Not them.
Whatever you end up doing with your boy, with a positive attitude you can achieve so much more, often surprising your boy for coming to want/need/crave that what you planted in his brain.
Great list… Many are NMK, and some are soft to hard limits. Always remember, just because you may see what other’s do with their submissive, doesn’t mean that you can. It should go without saying, respect his limits, and always have consent.
“Always remember, just because you may see what others do with their submissive, doesn’t mean that you can.”
Well said @subspacedreams!
On Sex Positivity & Male Sexuality...
We ladies need to remember that mainstream porn does as bad of a job representing male sexuality as it does representing female sexuality.
No two men are alike. Just because you see it in porn, or experienced it with another man, doesn’t mean your current partner will be the same. And that’s okay.
We’ve gotta be more aware and respectful of our male partner’s needs and preferences in the bedroom.
For example, if he says he can’t cum from oral, then he can’t cum from oral. Why do we often seek validation from other men about how our partner’s mind and body works? Does it matter what other men do or don’t do? Shouldn’t we be encouraged to trust our partners; respect them; accept them as they are — same way we expect them to be accepting of us?
If a woman can’t cum from oral, we — men and woman — are quick to blame our partner’s technique.
If a man can’t cum from oral, we often blame him — as if there’s something “wrong” with him. We wonder if it’s “normal” or “okay, or whether it “makes sense.” Why do we do this? And isn’t this the same prejudice, ignorance and misogyny that angers us when we are on the receiving end of it?
Aren’t we shoving our partner’s sexuality into a box made from our own expectations when we seek others’ opinions as to whether something about them is normal or not?
Some men cum from oral, some don’t. Some women cum from oral, some don’t. All of the above is acceptable and normal.
If you are concerned about something surrounding your partner’s body, sexuality, or preferences — whether these concerns stem from societal stereotypes, porn, or your own expectations — please talk to the only person who should be consulted on these issues: him.
Those were the days!
Collection of baby animal photos
We all deserve some cuteness in our lives 😍😍
Ooooh!! Absolutely LOVE her hair!!