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Why are teachers at all levels surprised when you take them at their word?

I just remembered a time when I was in middle school when I ran the mile while I had a cold and nearly collapsed and the coach asked me why I didn’t tell her and I was like “You said you wouldn’t take excuses without a note and I forgot to ask my dad for a note today” and she was surprised for some reason?

Also whenever I was doing bad in high school and college and the teacher or professor pulled me aside and asked me about some missed test or something I’d bring up that I was sick or had a panic attack or just forgot. And they’d ask me why I didn’t ask for an extension or to reschedule and then I’d say “Uh, you said in the syllabus that you didn’t do that.” and every time they seemed surprised that I was following the rules and taking their threats seriously.

Like why does everyone set rules and then become super surprised when students take them seriously? Was I never supposed to follow the rules? Why then did people spend so much time telling me I should follow the rules if they’re just a rough guideline?

I’ve always been a rule follower by nature and for some reason everyone has always been shocked by that. I’ll follow rules to my own detriment. I’m not a trail blazer. I’m not someone that naturally questions authority. I had to be taught how to do that and I’m still not good at it. Why should it be expected of me to bend rules just so I can get by? Why does anyone assume that everyone knows when to bend the rules and when not to? I know I’m not an idiot. So why do people look at me like I am when I don’t read their mind and know when they’ll make an exception?

snowflakesincalifornia

For some mysterious reason /s, Tumblr removed these reblogs, so I took screenshots of them from the notes to pass them on.

mordcore

thank you for adding the screenshots! i feel like ableism might also play a role, the last example made me think about how kids with adhd would probably also automatically be "bad" kids

moonmitski

[ID: two sets of reblogs. the first is by @kiragecko and reads:

As far as I can tell (as an inveterate teacher's pet), the rules seem to be in place so that they can be applied to the "bad" kids.

"Good" kids are expected to ask for, and be granted, exceptions. "Normal" kids ask for exceptions, are given a lecture on being responsible, and then are expected to feel grateful and relieved that they're allowed the reprieve. "Bad" kids are expected to not bother asking, and can then be given "consequences for their behaviour." And if they do ask, their reasons might not be considered good enough.

It sounds like OP was a pleasant student, one that teachers would get a good feeling for making exceptions for. It was probably disappointing to the teachers that they were denied that chance. The surprise may have been that OP thought the rule applied to them, or that the clever trap for other students had caught someone unexpected.

I've never had much respect for this type of teacher. All my best teachers started by emphasizing that anyone who needed extra support could ask for it, and then kept bringing it up throughout the year. They usually brought up example "good reasons" for extra support - like needing to work, or having mental health struggles, or needing to help a family member - to convince vulnerable students (frequently considered "bad") that the option of support was available even to them.

the second is from @buggyeyes and reads,

I can't speak for OP, but this made me remember becoming aware on some level of my white privilege as a very young kid and I feel it ties into this phenomenon for some of us.

When I was in grade school, I was very socially awkward and anxious. I was terrified of breaking the rules, so when the teacher said no one was allowed to leave class to go to the bathroom during lessons, I silently panicked. Eventually during the school year, this problem caught up with me and I desperately had to pee during a lesson, so I raised my hand and incredibly quietly and nervously asked if I could please be excused. The teacher asked to speak to me in the hall. She said "of course you can go to the bathroom, why are you so nervous?" And I explained how she said no one was allowed to leave class during a lesson. She said "oh that's just so kids don't try to leave all the time and be disruptive by saying they have to go when they just wanna leave class, that's not about you, you're an honest student, don't worry." And my tiny child brain was still worried because how did she know? How did she know I was telling the truth and didn't want to disrupt class? Was it something different about me as opposed to my classmates?

I was in a school and classroom where white kids were not the majority. The teacher was (intentionally or not) being racist and seeing my tiny anxious white self as more trustworthy and good than my nonwhite peers. She subconsciously EXPECTED me to grok that since I am white, the rules she unspokenly put there for students of color did not apply to me, because we live in a society that does that shit on a larger scale all the time.

So yeah, I feel racism plays a role in the whole "wait what do you mean you followed the impossible rules I laid out for "everyone" like clearly I didn't mean you" shit a lot of the time. Pay attention to this shit if you're white and ask why the rules are different for you. Make it known you expect everyone else to be given the same treatment you are given.

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emptydragonseverywhere

Racist, classist, ableist

Racist bc kids of color, and especially black kids, are seen as "bad" more readily and are more likely to be disciplined than white kids who did the same thing(s)

Classist bc kids in poverty are more likely to act out/not do well for a variety of reasons

Ableist not only bc kids with ADHD, autism, and mental health issues are more likely to be seen as "bad"...

... but also bc chronically ill kids are more likely to need repeated absences and aids that they largely may not get, causing claims of truancy and a feeling of not being cared for, which can result in behavioral issues and/or school resistance.

Just help your fucking students holy shit

lily-leaves

I may need this later, for cosplay reasons...

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chaandajaan-moved

Ok but love is just *friend texts me to ask if I wore her hijab, becuse it's smells like my perfume* " I like when you wear yellow, you look like the sun" *little sister rubbing my head when I can't sleep* *the girl in my 9th grade economics class writing me a poem 'autumn girl'* *my partner sketching pictures of me I will never get to see* *the cat that walked me to school for 3 months* *my uncle telling me I don't eat enough, when everyone else tells me I could loose a few* *me and my sister racing to get dressed for school in 2008 so we had extra time to hold our baby sister*

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rivendellrose

Anthropology major answer: “There absolutely was such a time! Modern humans and our ancestors shared territory numerous times over prehistory with cousin species like homo neanderthalensis, homo floresiensis, and many, many others!”

Folklore student answer: “Also, almost all cultures have something like djinn, faeries, hulder, fox spirits, and other similar creatures who can appear at least human and are very, very dangerous to humans!”

Both of these things are true, and may be connected both to the above and to each other. :D

et-regina

Biology majors: it’s dead bodies guys. Corpses.

luidilovins

Listen I hate this take on the uncanny valley so fucking much because many subpsecies of homonids lived in the same areas but some of them got along well enough to coexist and neandertals had enough desirable genetic traits to the point where human women (see here for a blanket on female vs male choosiness) would often pass up incel homosepian for the chad neandertal.

Genetics aside, various hominid species didn’t start visually looking all that different until 50,000 years ago, while under the skin changes began as early as 89,000 years ago (ie the development of the Y chromosome but I might be oversimplifying at this point) Point being, even our non-human cousins didn’t. look. that. different. from. us. Especially comparing the diversifying of humans themselves crossing trans continental as it was. And even then neandertals still had advantagious traits for living in the Eurasian hemisphere.

Also I digress, regardless of it being intentional, and with few perserved records from that chapter in our species’ history, I don’t like the implication that the uncanny valley effect stems from humans being inherently racist (for lack of a word for hatred of non-human intelligences). I know that sounds off the wall but prejudice and sense of superiority by birthright is vastly different than othering by means of the sucess of social groups and the need to compete for territory or resources. Racism is entirely a Eurpean fabrication and it’s been proven time and time again to be a cultural outlier and purposfully designed to further the agenda of corroded theocratical religious divinity (here, here, here) and the financial benifits of the exploitation of colonism that otherwise has not been replicated by other cultures to the same degree. (this is the only example off the top of my head but I’m know there’s more.)

You know what’s older than racism?

You know what’s more flesh crawling than neandertals?

fucking rabies

You know what LOOKS like a human but doesn’t ACT human ENOUGH? Do you know what might bite you and get you sick or turn you into something that also moves about in a non human way? Brain parasites that give you painful headaches and intensifies agression and confusion.

Say you’re a monkey and one member of your troop gets bitten by something. Later he starts twitching and swaying about. He keeps stumbling out of trees but barely feels anything when he hits the ground. He won’t eat sleep or drink. He makes guttural noises that keep alerting predators and he’s in obvious writhing agony. Suddenly he’s not your friend anymore. He doesn’t recognize you and he attempts to bite and claw at anything that moves.

Up until preventitive oral medications and vaccines were developed in the 1970s there was NOTHING stopping rabies and it still prevails today and kills hundreds of thousands of people in third world countries with limited medical resources a year. There’s no cure for rabies once youve got it and the only reliable diagnostic is a brain autopsy.

Rabies. TB. Leoprosy. Syphilis. Meningitis. Toxoplasmosis. Anthrax. Mercury Poisoning. Prion disease. These are all bad and in different varying degrees can cause limps, sores, agression, confusion or dazed trances, ambled pacing, convulsions or uncharacteristic behavior in humans.

Basically everything that people are terrified of when it comes to zombies. Vampires bite. Werewolves rip people apart. Demonic possesion? Easy. Changlings take the place of your loved ones.

Also I don’t think that it’s a conicidence that the things we find uncomfortable with the uncanny valley also just happen to line up with predatory behavior, smiling too wide or staring you down, blinking too slowly or moving towards you with a slow steady speed. It’s just a danger signal to keep other monkeys in a troop from getting bitten by an infected monkey. Simple as that.

After all what’s scarier? A dead body, or moving body that will MAKE you dead?

I’m not going to be a hypocrite by pointing out racism being excused as a stemmed human behavior without claiming that the deep seated primal fear of disease doesn’t make a good excuse for ableism as well. I mean we use othering to discern friend from foe, and then at some point decided that was a good enough excuse for racism. Theres legitimate proof that ancient homonids could and would be hospitible to the disabled out of compassion. The point of having these initial fears is to guage saftey measures first, but once someone or something is proven to be harmless that normally should be the end of it. I mean if an adult wild silverback gorrilla can look at a spycam and decide it’s chill after a moment of inspection then there’s really no excuse for any of us.

Healthy othering =/= newly invented racism.

healthy fear of infectious diseases =/= excuse to hate disabled people.

But yeah rabies is more likely the reason for the uncanny valley effect thanks for coming to my goddamn ted talk.

quasisnipr1048

Reblogging this version bc of sources and I personally think this makes for much more interesting (and terrifying) lore than any other post in this thread.

sinfulnoodle

Holy shit. I never thought of the “zombie virus” to be this take. It makes total fuckin sense. Shit

gallusrostromegalus

May I ask for some advice about companion planting for tomatoes? I'm getting one of those fabric garden bed things (it has 8 compartments) for my very small backyard and want to grow tomatoes but I'm getting some mixed messages about which plants are good to grow with tomatoes or not? one site says don't plant peppers near them the other says they're a good match. I'd like to grow some peppers too and some herbs.

OK so the tomatoes-and-peppers thing is that Peppers are basically spicy tomatoes. Or tomatoes are really bland peppers. They are extremely closely related and therefore have exactly the same nurtitional needs: i.e. They both need a shitload of calcium. The difference of opinion on whether they go together or not is if you're planning on doing any midseason fertlilzing. If you're not, don't, because they'll compete for the calcium. if you are, go right ahead because they take the same fertilizer.

For a segmented garden bed, it's not as much dirt per plant, so you'll need to do midseason fertilizing anyway, so go ahead and plant them, just maybe on opposite sides of the bed so the leaves don't crowd each other as they mature (also make sure they aren't shading each other out). When you plant them, grind up an eggshell real fine (I just put some in a ziploc and hit them with a can of creamed corn a few times until they were a powder) and sprinkle it at the bottom of the hole before putting the tomato and pepper plants in. Also, those 8-segment beds are REALLY small, so I'm gonna suggest 1 tomato and 2 very small peppers or 1 regular-size pepper at most, becuase those plants EXPAND and really need thier space.

As for companion-planting around them, they take the same companion plants: Root Buddies: carrots/beets/parsnip/radishes, Aromatics: basil/parsley/rosemary/sage/thyme, and Bulbs: Onion, shallot and Fall Garlic. I'd suggest something like this:

I'm assuming these are like 18 x 18 in squares, if it's more like 12 x12 put only carrot or onion in the square with the basil or whatever.

chiribomb-deactivated20220820

You’re gonna keep running out of calcium, and at some point, even putting it into the ground isn’t gonna get it to the fruits fast enough to prevent blossom end rot, which is when you have fruits that start to grow but before they can ripen they just kind of…dissolve. Calcium is important for maintaining the cellular integrity of the fruits, and once they start to go, you can’t fix it (but, if they’re otherwise ripe, it’s safe to pick them and just cut off the bad part).

The best thing to do if you start to get this problem is to buy a commercial calcium spray, or make your own, and spray it directly on the fruits as they grow, and you may have to keep doing this. Once the plants are big, any calcium you add to the soil, especially in the presence of abundant nitrogen, will just get taken up by the leaves. You can make your own with antacids, milk, or eggshells, but eggshells don’t dissolve well in water and may clog up your sprayer, and milk + hot sun isn’t necessarily a mix you want. Spraying calcium directly on the fruit will stop this problem, but you have to keep doing it. If you can plan ahead it’s easiest in the long run to plant them in their own beds/containers. It’s not really about how physically close the plants are so much as it’s about whether they share soil. In a small garden, you can still plant them in a pot right next to your bed or even a hanging basket for compact varieties. We have several full-sized tomato plants growing in 5-10gal (10-15” diameter) nursery pots that are actually doing better than the ones in the raised beds, because in the raised beds they’re competing with squash, on which I’ve been battling blossom end rot on all season. Ah, hubris.

(Even so, you can get blossom end rot if your plant grows too fast or the watering is irregular, even if calcium levels in the soil are fine, because it’s a matter of the calcium getting to the fruits, but of course plants that take up a lot of calcium will end up competing with each other).

Good companion plants for tomatoes are borage, calendula, marigolds, and basil.

biggest-gaudiest-poltergeist

I find it just marvelous that cats make little cat noises. exquisite design choice on nature’s part, I highly approve

biggest-gaudiest-poltergeist

aaaaaand my cat has now been meowing for 25 minutes straight I rescind my endorsement I rescind it

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bunjywunjy

Could i please get a small mammal cursed bio fact if u have one

the grasshopper mouse of the southwestern United States looks like a standard house mouse but is almost entirely carnivorous and is known to kill and consume everything from less homicidal mice to goddamn rattlesnakes, which they kill by jumping onto the snake’s back and gnawing through its spine

bunjywunjy

behold…. a Bastard

blessphemy

How could U fail to mention that this fool marks territory by howling? Yunno. Like a wolf

animal-welfare-not-animal-rights

Oh. Oh I am in love with this bastard wolf mouse.

notallmensheviks

where's the director's cut

arinewman7

Illustrations/Collages by Eric Carle

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bright-goals-deactivated2022103

I‘m so angry and disgusted right now. I read about my home country, East Turkistan. (China calls it Xinjiang.) for a while, I stopped reading reports because I was suffering. But now I can’t ignore this any longer. I am heart broken and can’t comprehend what I’ve read. words cannot describe how I am feeling, how hurt I am and how angry I am. Therefore, I feel like I need to share this. I know a lot is going on right now but please pay attention to this as well.

I will not post everything but you can Read more here.

biggest-gaudiest-poltergeist

if you can't have pets but would still like a bit of the routine they offer, I really do recommend getting a house plant & giving it a name & sticking on googly eyes and a Tiny Little Hat

biggest-gaudiest-poltergeist

in the past i have killed many plants, and it turns out the key is to form emotional attachments to them. give them weird names and bowties and a backstory; it will be much easier to remember to water them.

my coral cactus is absolutely thriving ever since i decided it is a fugitive from justice in 3 states including texas

ghibligif

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lavenderamadea

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Man, Im tired today has been hell so far.

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derinthescarletpescatarian

Every time I see this I think “why would this duck want to feed fish?” and then I remember that I also occasionally want to feed fish so why wouldn’t the duck?

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