I have published several "Daddy tips" articles in the past, most of which have been lost when our blog was banned. If you know where they are or have saved any, please let me know! Here’s a new one I thought would be interesting to you all since I received some questions about the monitor I installed in my little guy’s nursery following a recent post.
I had not really thought of the idea of a monitor when I first started this lifestyle 24/7. First, because I probably wanted to go easy with my little one at the very beginning, and wanted to give him some privacy, and also because I thought I could be in control without the need for a monitor. Silly me!
With time, I realized that babyboys do not get privacy. It’s a fact. He does get alone time in his crib, in his playpen or when I’m at work, but privacy isn’t really a thing for him anymore. I mean, I have been changing his messy Pamps for over two years, why would privacy be needed?
But this is not what encouraged me to buy one. The main trigger was that I very often would find him very excited in his paddings, or even sticky in the morning. (That was before I decided to get him in chastity, but that’s another topic.) He would also sometimes touch his Pamps, spit out his paci, remove his onesie or pajamas, turn off the lullaby player by himself or even get up after bedtime. I was obviously not keeping an eye on him constantly and opening the door of his room every 5 minutes, so had no idea about that until I caught him red (or sticky) handed… It got him in trouble as you can expect, but it also made me reconsider a few things and think of new ideas to go further in the AB/DL concept. Remember we’re talking about a couple years ago, so this was all new for my boy and I.
I then suddenly remembered the existence of monitors which had completely slipped my mind. Did a bit of research: what kind of monitors exist, what options there are, etc and went for quite an expensive one which can also connect to phones but it was a complete game changer and I did not regret it one bit.
I set it up in his nursery, full view on his crib and didn’t tell him the first night. Surprisingly nothing happened, but the rest of week came up and I kept a record of naughty behaviors. Let me tell you his face got very red when he realized that he went from daddy’s little angel to a naughty naughty boy who was about to get a bumbum as red as his blushy cheeks. I gave him a big post-spanking cuddle in my arms and eventually told him about the monitor. He didn’t whine too much about it and actually started playing with it. Talking to me through it, waving or making his plushie kiss me from his crib - extremely cute!!
Since then, he’s been a very good boy after bedtime even though I can sometimes notice a bit of unusual movements under the covers, but a quick warning through the monitor is enough to calm him down, without even needing to get up from the couch or my bed.
It’s also such a joy to see him sleep peacefully, or watching/hearing him make pushies in his Pamps and wait for me or my partner to come change him, sometimes even going back to sleep if that happens in the middle of the night, or early on during naptime and he knows we won’t be coming any time soon. It’s also a great thing if we see that he’s feeling sad, having a nightmare, looking for something, or just needs us. We’re quickly able to notice and come to the rescue. Example a couple weeks ago when his paci had fallen between the mattress of his bed and the protective rail but it was impossible to get it from the inside. He just called us and "ta-dah", the paci was retrieved and back into his mouth a few seconds later!
For any caregiver reading this, truly consider buying a monitor. It is an extremely valuable tool to ensure a smooth regression and eventually a happy little one.
Lesson of the day: Daddy sees, notices and hears anything happening from anywhere. No secrets for little ones, only good behavior and safety from the meanie monsters outside of your crib…
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