Our Coffee Bean Transmasc Experience

[coffeebean-transmasc-experience]

𝙸𝚗𝚝𝚛𝚘𝚍𝚞𝚌𝚝𝚒𝚘𝚗:

Hey there and welcome to the coffee bean transmasc blog! This is a safe place for transmasc people with atypical experiences to share their stories and thoughts, or just hang out.

𝙰𝚋𝚘𝚞𝚝 𝚝𝚑𝚒𝚜 𝚋𝚕𝚘𝚐:

This blog is completely supportive of the "contradictory" and "controversial" labels, honeybee transfems, coffee bean transmascs, lesboys, gaybians, cistrans, etc., as long as the labels are used in good faith.

All the geeks, freaks, and weirdos are welcome here too! :D Alterhumans, nonhumans, furries, punks, neurodivergent, disabled, neopronoun users, xenogender, plurals/systems (of any kind), detransitioners, and anyone and anything inbetween. If you'd ever like me to use tone tags when answering an ask, just let me know in the ask, and I'll do my best to.

Every kind of transmasc is welcome here! And even if you're not coffee bean transmasc or you're questioning, you're still welcome here.

I'm Geo, and I use any pronouns (ae/aer are my fav rn <3)

If you have any questions or just things to say about your experiences, feel free to drop them in the ask box.

This blog is inspired by @our-honeybee-transfem-experience, as well as some similar blogs.

𝚃𝚊𝚐𝚜, 𝚊𝚜𝚔𝚜, 𝚊𝚗𝚍 𝚒𝚗𝚏𝚘:

Reblogs have is specific tags to find them with, so if there's something you like on here, make sure to save it on your own blog so you don't lose it, since you might not be able to find it again otherwise. All asks will be tagged with "ask", and some common tags you might see on this blog include "agabpunk" "anti agab" "contradictory labels" and similar on their respective posts.

While I'm on the topic of tags, if you have any of the basic questions about coffee bean transmascs like what they are or why someone might use the label, then search the tag "#what it means to be coffee bean transmasc" in the little search bar on this blog, and it'll take you to the info post all about it.

For organization and practicality's sake, I won't answer any asks that ask me those questions, since I already spent a lot of time writing out the answers in that post, and it's just unnecessary to keep answering the same thing over and over.

Credits: dividers by @saradika-graphics

[donniehaspronouns]

“what if kids identify with something and it ends up just being a phase-?” good. stop teaching and expecting kids (and adults honestly) to formulate permanent traits and ideas of themselves. everything in life is a phase. that doesn’t make it any less legitimate while you experience it. let people explore themselves and know it’s okay if what you think about yourself changes.

[donniehaspronouns]

it actually pisses me off so much when conservatives try to claim that leftists are forcing kids to get gender reassignment surgery.

the only children being forced to get any kind of gender reassignment surgery are intersex kids with visible genitalia that don’t fit into a strict gender binary.

cis people are the ones forcing gender reassignment surgery onto children to enforce a gender binary, not the other way around.

[the-prophesied-disco-gay]

In a truck stop bathroom washing my hands today and 2 boys, looked about 5 and 9, came in with their little sister who looked maybe 2. The following whispered conversation made my entire day

"We have to wait, there's a lady in here!"

"That's not a lady, he has a mustache! We can be in here!"

"Some ladies have mustaches! And she has boobs!"

"Well some guys have boobs! Like Uncle Jake!"

"Uncle Jake is fat!"

At this point I could not contain a chuckle and both whirled around with identical looks of panic on their faces. I smiled and said "it's alright for you guys to be in here so your sister has help, don't worry. And I'm both! That's why I have boobs and a mustache. Some folks are just built that way"

(In unison) "Ooooooh!"

(older boy) "So do you use Sir or Ma'am or both?"

"Both, but I prefer Sir"

"Cool! Well thanks Sir! We have to help our sister now!"

This was in a small town country truck stop and both boys had "Murica" type stuff on and neither of them had any issue at all with these concepts. Their mom approached me while I was in line about 10 minutes later and apologized for them bothering me in the bathroom (they had told her about the interaction) and she and I had a lovely little chat too. I got to introduce her to the term "intersex" and her reply was "I think I've heard of that before! I didn't know that was the word for it. Amazing how many different ways God can make people!"

Sometimes the world is good. More often than you might think, if you give it a chance. It's not all bad loves <3

[dad-fucker666]

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[coffeebean-transmasc-experience]

not sure if this blog is currently still active but i was wondering.. can you be a coffeebean transmasc if you’re perisex and you were CAFAB?

i’m bigender and i identify myself as both transfem and transmasc, simultaneously and equally. but since i’m bigender, my transmasc experience is atypical, even if not quite as atypical as my transfem experience. i’m questioning if i’d identify as a honeybee transfem, but i think i’d feel weird using a label that sort of brands my transfemininity as atypical while pretending my transmasculinity isn’t also atypical. not that i think honeybees and coffeebeans aren’t equal to any other transfem or transmasc, but it would feel like going from a level experience of both to putting more weight on one side. that clashes with the way i experience my gender so, like, idk. i sent a lengthier ask to the honeybee experience blog with a similar URL to yours but i thought that if i want to dip my toes in both communities, i’d be better off asking a coffeebean transmasc this question rather than a honeybee transfem. i guess i don’t exactly understand the definition of honeybee and coffeebean enough to determine for myself if i can be both, but i guess i don’t really want to be just one if i can’t be both. i’d love to hear your thoughts!

You can absolutely be both, my friend. You can do literally whatever you want with labels. If the question is "can ___ be coffee bean transmasc?" my answer will always be "yes". You know your experiences better than anyone, and if being both coffee bean transmasc and honeybee transfem is what works, that's what works :DDD

[coffeebean-transmasc-experience]

What's a coffee bean transmasc? :0

Read my post about it and you will know :DD

Post by @coffeebean-transmasc-experience

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[coffeebean-transmasc-experience]

So, I'm I believe coffee bean transmasc, but I'm not sure? My mom wanted a daughter after my older brother was born, so she raised me/treated me like the daughter she never had, so I grew up feeling more like a very dysphoric girl, rather than anything else. And so even now, even after I'm an adult and out of that situation, I feel so tied to being a girl, rather than a boy, and I also feel like I'm genderqueer in some regard so that doesn't help at all, so I'm just struggling. But I feel invalid because I'm like . amab . so I'm not sure what to do with that

- 🍃

You can absolutely use the label if you want! You're welcome here no matter what you choose. Feel free to hang around and question about your labels as much as you need to <3

Just remember labels aren't everything, and if you can't find something that feels right, that's okay too!

If it's being "allowed" to use the label you're worried about, I'm pretty sure you're the exact kind of person people had in mind when making this term aha. Also you don't have to have permission to use this label. Even if I or anyone else said you "couldn't", you still could ;)

[coffeebean-transmasc-experience]

hi coffeebeans!! ily -honeybee transfem

We love u too! <3 ur all the coolest

[coffeebean-transmasc-experience]

conversation between me and my headmate about being coffee bean transmasc:

A: "so you're, like ?tM instead of FtM?"

B: "yeah basically I guess"

A: "can I be ?tM too?"

B: "yeah you can do whatever you want"

<3

[coffeebean-transmasc-experience]

my coffee bean transmasc experience is what do you mean you don't like coffee I love coffee I love my label being named after my favorite beverage (or, I suppose tied with chocolate almond milk) that I definitely don't have a caffeine addiction about

(No hate to those who dislike coffee though more for me)

<3

[coffeebean-transmasc-experience]

Can't remember if I already asked this but is there a transxenine version of coffee bean transmasc and honeybee transfem?

Not sure! I haven't heard of anything, but you can check comments and reblogs of this post to see if anyone else has

If anyone knows of a label like this, feel free to talk about it!

[coffeebean-transmasc-experience]

My coffee bean tmasc experience is seeing "in an ideal world coffee bean tmasc and honeybee tfem wouldn't exist and they could just be AMAB tmasc and AFAB tfem" and going my guy you are excluding me still!! I don't have an AGAB!! I want acceptance for AMAB tboys and AFAB tgirls, but also for me, a coffee bean tmasc!!

!!

[coffeebean-transmasc-experience]

My coffeebean transmasc + lemonwave cismasc experience is influenced by delusions and I wish more people would consider that being the reason why someone identifies as trans or cis. [For context, I have delusions about being a fictional character who happens to be a cismasc cis man, and that transferred to me cause I think I am the character. However, I am already cisgenderless (partially delusion based, due to alterhumanity) so that translates to being trans.]

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[coffeebean-transmasc-experience]

Please stop with "inventing" new AGABs. We have been harmed by the concept of assigned sex, especially intersex people, and you're erasing the oppression we face.

Xeno or neo agabs aren't just made up, they're terms people use to describe experiences they have the same way "normal" agabs are used. In addition, we're not saying the oppression anyone faces from assigned sexes or genders are invalid, we're saying that the people who forced the arbitrary labels on people are the ones in the wrong, and that you can reclaim gender and agab into something that is meaningful to you, and reject the things forced on you in a way that's liberating and healing.

Intersex people are very important in this community, and if something we do is ignorant of your experiences, we can change to be more respectful.

The main point I would like to get across is, neo agab aren't made to erase or trivialize experiences regarding assigned genders, but help people reclaim it, heal from the trauma it's caused, or express themselves how they couldn't otherwise

Thank you for presenting your concerns, if you have anything else to say the askbox is always open

[lgbtqiatext]

[coffeebean-transmasc-experience]

Agab does not define you.