I'm not yours... @cola-chan - Tumblr Blog

i PERSONALLY would like to FALL IN LOVE please!!!!!! and have the SAME PERSON fall in love with me BACK!!!!!!! could i get some MUTUAL AFFECTION out here!!!!!!!!!

obnubilant

死神

safeplanetdweller

library date?? coffee shop date??? museum date?? art gallery date?? stargazing date?? napping date?? picnic date??? yes

baprecords

[191027] Yeongdeungpo Fansign © Wonderwall | Do not edit

electricsexdoll

I’m such a “Look at the moon!” person.

livingchristian1

Sometimes God’s gifts to us are the people He puts in our lives!

Thanks for the encouraging words @prattprattpratt. (at Livingchristian.org) https://www.instagram.com/p/B4SCv18HpMZ/?igshid=1b3onbdyvuwrj

mysilentmemory

Mom vs. Dad

RelatableSJ

jddww-deactivated20150211

metaltits

me

wadey-wilson

do u ever realise that you’re gonna be an adult for the rest of your life

glowcrown

The drive home from a concert where you’re tired but you’re so happy to have witnessed something so great so you just sit there engrossed in memories from the show reblog if u agree

polishcostumes

Girls from Złaków Kościelny, Poland, 1932. Łowicz type of costume.

Photography by Henryk Poddębski, source: szukajwarchiwach.gov.pl

chibird

It’s not always a smooth and pretty ride, and that’s normal! We’re going to make it to where we’re meant to be, even with the sadness and struggles. ❤️️

Chibird Store | Patreon | 2020 Calendar

superscanaries

user87262893

The type of the mother I’m trying to be. Not just encourage bodily autonomy, but reward displays of it, even when it might make someone else in the room uncomfortable.

swedepea

I’ve made so many people uncomfortable in supporting my daughter’s personal space. People will try to hug her, she’ll sometimes say “No, thank you” and the adult will look at me to make her do it, but I just say “It’s ok honey, you don’t have to hug anyone you don’t want to.” It makes people irrationally huffy, making me feel even more justified in supporting my daughter’s choices. Creeps.

misharoux

I legit had to mom-voice some random woman with a “she said no!” when she tried to force a hug on Madison. (who was not very good at verbalizing to people she didn’t know/trust at the time)

She replied, “I just want a hug, it won’t hurt her.”

Me: She. Said. No.

There aren’t many things more important than letting my daughter know that I have her back when it comes to something like this.

ineeduhnap

I work with five year olds and I had a very long talk with them about permission and that your body belongs to yourself and no one else. “Even if you want to hug your friend, you need to stop and ask if it’s okay and if they don’t want you to touch them, you should respect that choice and not do it.” they were like “cool” and then every time after that they had no problem asking their friends “can I give you a hug?” Or “can I hold your hand?” Very politely. If their friend said no, they shrugged and went on with their life. They even started asking me if they could hug me or if it was okay to hold my hand when they were sad. And I always ask when they need comfort “do you need or want a hug?” If they say no, I ask “okay, let me know what we can do as a class to help you feel better. Quiet time? Do you want a stuffed animal? Sit on the couch? Do you need some time alone?” They verbalize what they need and they become aware of their own autonomy and their ability and power to say “no.” Just because someone is an adult does NOT give them the right to hug a child who has said “no” or “no thanks.” Teach then that they own their own body, and no one else is in charge of it. Teach them the power of NO.

lazy-polyglot

^^^^^this is so important

jennabookish

A child’s safety is more important than an adult’s discomfort. Full stop. Kids who are taught through forced physical displays of affection that they aren’t allowed to say no to unwanted touching are less likely to understand and verbalize when someone is doing something inappropriate. Teach your kids their bodies are their own.

excuse-me-while-i-cry-deactivat

As a kid (and even now) I hated being touched, even by family. And I was pretty much nonverbal with strangers until I was like 12. So my mom made little signs that were different colors. Green meant ‘it’s okay to hug me’. Yellow meant, ‘ask first’. And red meant ‘don’t touch at all’. So I think it’s important we also find ways for nonverbal kids to get this point across. Because not being able to get the point across that you don’t want to be touched is horrible. So please, please, please find ways for EVERYONE who isn’t comfortable being touched to get their point across. It made my younger years a little more enjoyable because I wasn’t constantly having meltdowns.