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[collegegirldiariess]

The bad texter

4/20 (4/19 but it’s past midnight so)

I have to write up an update on the bad texter/really confusing guy from previous posts.

So, about two weeks ago, he reached out and we made plans to go to a show (Manic Focus). We literally did not talk for a week since we made the plans..it got to a point where I wasn’t even sure if it was still happening or not (we had tickets though..). I know it’s the norm for some people to make plans for a date and not message in between, but I’m REALLY not used to that AT ALL. Buuut he did confirm the night before (last Friday). We decided we’d meet up earlier before the show.

On Saturday, he texted and asked if I wanted to go to the Dogwood festival (a local art/music/cultural festival). I was already going to be there with a friend earlier, so I told him we can meet there. Our long night started here.

We met up at around 6pm. We grabbed drinks and walked all around Piedmont park and through the festival (it was a lot of walking). Honestly, I wasn’t really feeling a connection during this. I think I was salty from his previous behavior/his not making it clear if he was into me, so I was fed up. But either the alcohol kicked in or I changed my mind as the night went on.

We walked on the Beltline to Ponce City Market (non-ATL people: a trail to a shopping/restaurant building). We actually went to a really cool bar across from Ponce before going there and had drinks/dinner there then went to Ponce and had more drinks before heading to the concert.

The concert was pretty cool. I was a bit nervous beforehand because the music wasn’t really my normal taste, but I actually ended up enjoying it. It was at Variety Playhouse and it was my first time going there so that was cool. But let’s get to the juicy stuff.

At some point during the show, he was about to go to the restroom and right before he went, he kissed me! I was caught so off guard! It was super adorable haha. He literally did it right before he walked away, so it left me in shock. 

We made out more throughout the night, and then after the show, we sat outside for a while to wait for surge prices to go down and drunk me brought up how confused I’ve been with him. He made it clear that he was interested lmao. This whole part of the night is a bit hard to explain/is fuzzy, but he really seemed genuinely into me. Again, we had been drinking for hours at this point so who really knows. He really seemed like he just wasn’t that experienced (even though he had a girlfriend before?) and just was different. I already had these vibes before, but it keeps getting confirmed.

We ended up getting an Uber pool together. He (drunkingly) wanted to grab food after, but I was tired and just wanted to get home to my dog. When we got to his place, he kissed me one last time as he got out and it was super cute haha. 

But yeah, the next morning was a bit rough. I texted him first even though I jokingly told him that if I didn’t hear from him the next day then I’ll know he ain’t into me..cause he never texted the day after a date before (he made it clear that he wasn’t a big texter and that he didn’t realize that he needed to...still not 100% sure if I believe this..but I also sorta do). Our convo literally lasted like FOUR messages TOTAL. Ugh. I was pretty annoyed at this. At least TRY to talk more because I explicitly told you that’s what I wanted.

(I’ll put a note here that I don’t need a guy to text 24/7 or anything, but ending convos in the middle of the convo and not hearing from when you’d expect to are not things I can deal with...)

So that happened then I was back in he loop of “fuck him”. Then we texted yesterday for a good bit of messages (wow!) which, again, ended out of nowhere. 

So that’s where we stand now. I was saying I’d give him one last chance before this previous date, but since that was very alcohol-driven, I will try this again one more time (if that happens). Just wanted to get this story on the books. I’ve been slowing down (aka not going on any new dates) lately because I’ve been a) lazy b) trying to see where this goes. There is some small stuff that has happened outside of this in the last few weeks, but it’s nothing I want to write about/care too much about.

[collegegirldiariess]

The Guy That Changed My Light Bulb

Going back in time a little bit here, but this is a story worth writing up.

Monday, March 11

At some point either Sunday night or Monday during the day, I responded back to this one guy I matched with on Tinder a while back. It had been like a month or more since he messaged me, but he was someone I knew I couldn’t have a relationship with (religion and all) but I was like fuck it, let’s just have some fun (not everything has to be about a relationship).

He asked to hang out that same day, and I agreed because I was free. We decided to get bubble tea, and since the best places are a little outside of the city, he picked me up. I told two of my friends about him, and they actually knew him. One of them went on a date with him a few years back and I found out he’s really good friends with a lot of people I know (and also cousins with someone I hate). If I had known all this before, I wouldn’t have talked to him but it was too late now.

We went to the bubble tea place and had a good chat. He was really nice and cool. I was weary about how he’d be because of what my friends said, so that was a pleasant surprise. He wanted to meet my dog, so he ended up coming in afterwards. I mentioned in passing that the lights in my room didn’t work (It hadn’t been working for two weeks and it was a STRUGGLE. I couldn’t reach the light, so I couldn’t fix it on my own.), and he immediately said he’d fix it. I was a little shocked because I had JUST met him, and I didn’t want him to have to be fixing stuff for me haha, but he was persistent so I was like sure. We walked to a local CVS and got a replacement light bulb then he worked his magic (it was more complicated than I thought it’d be) and MY LIGHT IS NOW FIXED. I know it sounds so silly, but I was so happy about this. I don’t have an actual window in my room that gives much light, so it had been a struggle the last few weeks. He even offered to fix anything else I needed.

But yeah, he deserved what came after (yeah, I know that could’ve been his intention, but let’s not forget I messaged him for fun too). He was actually really adorable and asked if he could kiss me and made sure I was comfortable and whatnot. He asked if we could hang out again this week, but I haven’t heard from him yet so we shall see. He texted hi later that week and then never responded after... he was in Chicago for St. Patty’s weekend, so I didn’t expect to hear from him during the weekend, but we’ll see if I do later this week. I honestly don’t care either way. 

But yeah, I’ll be forever appreciative of him changing my light bulb. 

[collegegirldiariess]

St. Patty’s Weekend

Friday, March 15

The weekend started off by catching up with two of my good friends at a Hookah spot. This entire week, I was looking forward to R3hab (an EDM artist), BUT lo and behold, the show was cancelled. Luckily, I had tickets to another show, GTA, that night too (got these on the whim, wanted to see R3hab instead, got refunded for the first show because they made it free), so the night was still on.

I was going to go solo (because solo shows = I can do whatever the fuck I want and can meet new people). I was casually checking out some of the Atlanta EDM chats I was in and ended up talking to some people that were also going, so I ended up making plans to meet up with them. Side-note: Remember that guy from the last post? Yeah, he never reached out to me about today. I have officially been ghosted for the first time, so that’s cool.

After pregaming, I headed to the venue and actually waited for one of the girls I was going to meet up with. She was super nice and fun! I met some other people throughout the night too (including a college friend), but we both stuck together the whole night. The night took a COMPLETELY unexpected turn...without going into too much detail, me and the girl totally ended up making out. Turns out she’s lesbian, and she was totally into me. This feels so weird typing this out because I haven’t told anyone. It was fun though. The group of guys we were dancing with totally got a fun show hah. All in all, it was a crazy night for me. I had a ton of fun dancing and hanging out with the group I was with. Fun fact: One of the guys in our group added me on Facebook after, and we found out we went to the same high school (he was a year older) and we have a TON of mutual friends. No one from my high school would expect me to be the person I am now haha. 

Saturday, March 16

I woke up and decided I needed to go out and get some nature after last night’s events, so my dog and I went on a nice hike. I didn’t really have any plans for today, so it was very much a go-with-the-flow type of day. I had been talking to this girl from the Atlanta ladies group I’m in since the day before. She had actually just moved from Ireland. We ended up making plans and just like that, I was in for another fun (and long) night. 

We met up at a bar (Cypress Street) with another girl who had moved from the Netherlands a few months ago. It was all of our first times meeting each other, but we got along really well! They were so much fun! After Cypress, we headed to Fado’s which is an Irish pub, so they had a big celebration going on for St. Patty’s. We were there for a pretty long time and definitely had a little too much to drink (but it was fun!). We met all sorts of people (including a group of my college friends) and got our dance on. Somehow, we ended up at Havana (a nightclub), and continued the mess of a night. That part is honestly a blur, but it was still fun (from what I remember). All in all, I had a blast hanging out with these new friends!

Sunday, March 17

Like the day before, I needed to get more fresh air to recover from the prior night. While everyone else was in bed all day recovering, I went on another hike. My dog and I went to Sweetwater Creek which was a beautiful hike and saved me from wasting the day away. 

I had told a guy I met the night before that I’d hang out with him today. I honestly didn’t feel like it because I knew I wasn’t too into him (he was super nice and cute, but not my type), but my new friend from yesterday convinced me to just go. We had froyo then went to Park Tavern (a restaurant/bar) to catch the end of the Atlanta United game. It was a chill evening and I’m glad I went, but I don’t think I’ll be seeing him again.

So overall, I had an incredibly fun weekend. Definitely one for the books that needed to be documented! 

[collegegirldiariess]

Boys Are Confusing (Mainly This One)

Alright so everyone says girls are confusing...while that is totally true sometimes, boys can be JUST AS if not MORE confusing. Let me break down the situation for you.

Last Tuesday, I had a date. A dinner date. I usually don’t like doing dinners on the first date because it feels too formal. You’re committed for a long time, and I just have an weird appetite/eating habits so I don’t like letting that be known so early.

However, I broke this rule for this guy (Nick). I don’t even know why. It’s not like we’d been having great convo over text before or anything. I hardly even knew how he looked! He had very few pictures on his Tinder profile (only one where I thought he looked cute). Turns out (after some Facebook stalking), the other pictures were really old. As a matter in fact, he didn’t have any recent pictures anywhere and didn’t seem to use social media much at all. That’s fine, but I just had no idea what to really expect. After my handful of failed dates prior to this, all I wished for is that he was somewhat cute and didn’t have an accent.

Well, my wish was granted. I met Nick at his place (heh) so we could Lyft to the restaurant together. I briefly got to meet his dog before we left (bonus points for having a dog). The Lyft ride was interesting to say the least. Our driver was hilarious. He started talking about his e-commerce business at one point, so I asked what he sold. Sex toys. So the conversation starts heading that way and 50 Shades of Gray and whatnot all come into the picture. Me and my date (Nick) are nervous laughing but still going with the conversation. Honestly, it didn’t bother me at all, but I didn’t want to come off a certain way as a first impression. The driver must have noticed something because eventually he asked if this was our first time meeting. It was. He started the date with quite the icebreaker. Probably was the highlight of my night (besides the food).

Anyways, we get to the restaurant--Poor Calvin’s (which, by the way, is more on the higher $$ end than I’m used to for dates in general). We had some of the most delicious food I’ve ever had. I had the salmon pad Thai and he had something that came inside half a pineapple. We also shared an appetizer that I don’t remember the name of but it was delicious! We also had two beers each which helped with the nerves. I usually don’t get too nervous after the initial meetup but this time I did because he actually seemed like a cool guy, so I wanted him to like me too. Overall, we had a good conversation but it was hard to hear sometimes because the place was actually pretty loud (mainly due to the group next to us). He even said he was going to ask if I wanted to go to a comedy show afterwards, but dinner ended up lasting pretty long (it was almost 10:30 by the end) and we were tired from the food so there was a rain-check for that.

I saw his dog one more time before I left (I went in for like 5 minutes). He walked me to my car after and hugged me goodbye and said something about seeing me soon. Overall, I thought the night went really well for a first date. Him? I DON’T HAVE A CLUE.

If a girlfriend told me all that, I would have no reason to believe the guy wasn’t interest. However, the next day comes and I don’t get a text from him. Okay, that’s fine. It’s just been one day.

Well, two days pass and I still don’t get a text. This is the first guy I’ve ever actually wanted to text me after our first date (well first guy in recent times).

Alright, so maybe he’s playing the three day game? Honestly, he didn’t seem like the type of guy to play games (which is a total turn off by the way!). I really wanted to hear from him. I know guys shouldn’t be obligated to text the girl and that the girl can too...but I also know that guys will make it known that they’re interested if they are. There were a million possibilities on why he hadn’t texted.

Was he just not interested? Fair enough.

Did he think I wasn’t interested? I don’t know...but I could MAYBE see that a tiny bit. He thought I went to school in Illinois then got flustered and felt bad when I said no. It seemed like he mixed me up with another girl (which is totally fine! I assume everyone is talking to multiple people if they’re on dating apps), but way later in the night he brought it up again and was like “I think I said that because I think I met someone at the dog park yesterday that went there”. I don’t know if that really happened or not, but I really didn’t care either way.

Was he just busy? Texting doesn’t take long--especially not three days.

Was he interested in someone else? This could be it.

Maybe he’s more old school? I do get that vibe from him a bit. I gathered that he may not be a big texter because even when we were texting a few weeks before meeting, there would be big gaps (not like multi-day though if I remember correctly--I honestly didn’t care back then).

The possibilities go on.

I decided to take matters into my own hands and just text him myself so I could at least move on without being as confused as I was. I said this: “Hey, sorry for texting late, but just wanted to say thanks for Tuesday. Hope you have a good weekend!”. I left it at this because it put it on him to bring up a future date if he wanted, but if he didn’t then he could easily just say “nice meeting you” and we’d both call it a day. It also showed that I was interested because I flippin’ texted him three days after the fact (in case he thought I wasn’t interested for some reason?).

His response: “Hey! I’m glad we finally got to meet! Next time let’s go somewhere a little quieter though haha”

That was probably the best thing I could’ve heard! He used not one, but two exclamation marks (tone matters) and he brought up a “next time”. Now, before ya’ll start thinking the wrong way, he said somewhere a little quieter because the restaurant was pretty loud (like I mentioned earlier).

I’ll go ahead and type of the rest of the convo...note the time ranges.

Me <Fri, 5:46>: Haha, I definitely agree. Maybe sometime next week? Nick <Fri, 9:11>: Yeah! When will you be free next week? Me <Sat, 9:02>: Honestly free any day so whatever works best for you Nick <Sat, 4:42> I’ll figure something out! Me <Sat, 4:47> Lol okay

Not sure if others would agree but the large text gaps and the “I’ll figure something out” annoyed me! I know I was bad Friday night, but that was at night and I was busy. I would’ve understood that in his case too. I don’t know, looking back at this now makes me feel silly that I cared so much about the time gaps, but I think me having to wait forever on a little crush to respond was just getting to me.

Part of me didn’t think hangout #2 would happen. Even more things were going through my head...is he just hanging out with me because I texted him and he feels bad? Would he have ever texted me after our first date at all? I want answers!

I did hear from him yesterday (Monday) though. He asked if I wanted to go on a hike. I love hikes so of course I was down. The weather was perfect today, and my dog would get to come too.

He picked me and my dog up and off we were. All in all, I didn’t think it went badly. Conversation was fine, but the dogs (especially mine who did off-leash for the first time today) kept us pretty preoccupied as well. There were so many times where he (or I...) could’ve made a move (not even talking about a kiss--just like arm touching or SOMETHING that would imply interest) but absolutely nothing happened. There were times where I struggled to jump across spots where it could’ve been SO EASY for him to lend a hand, but nope. I hate to sound like such a “boys need to make a move and girls don’t” type of person right now, but hey I texted him first 🤷!

We got to the trail sort of late because of traffic, so we couldn’t hike for an extremely long time because of sunset but it was a good hike overall. We found ourselves off the trail and in some random areas, so that was a fun little adventure. The dogs definitely made everything more fun. I was so proud of my little Pom for not running (too far) away from me and (usually) coming when I called for him!

We contemplated eating somewhere on the way back, but that sort of fizzled out and I honestly just wanted to get home and shower/give my dog a bath. Once we got to my place, he offered to help me grab my stuff (he seemed like he was going to get out of the car) [note: we weren’t in a parking spot otherwise I would’ve invited him in], but I really didn’t need any help (all I had was a drawstring and a small dog) so he stayed. I think I may have messed up here (if he really was going to get out of the car) because that could have potentially led to AT LEAST a hug. BUT, all I got was an awkward bye and I’ll let you know about Friday from him (I told him he’s welcome to come to an EDM show I’m going to with me). At least he said that, right?

Honestly, today felt a little underwhelming. I don’t know what’s going on. I’m more confused than ever. I know I personally could’ve done some things differently or even could have just have bluntly asked what’s up but I didn’t. Now I’m in the “will he ever text me” state all over again like I was after the first date.

I’ve just never felt this confused! Usually it’s easier to tell--especially with technology these days. We don’t have each other on any social media, and we don’t casually text so I really don’t know what to think. This could just be how he is--he definitely is more reserved but didn’t seem super shy or anything. Whatever. I told myself whatever happens next, happens (if anything).

I’ll definitely write updates to this if there are any to share. I really am getting the feeling I’m not going to hear from him again though. 🙁

[collegegirldiariess]

7 Days of Doing Stuff: Part 7 + Reflection

Day 7: Sunday, March 3

Throughout the entire week, I was saving Sunday for me rest/recovery/do nothing day. However, things didn’t quite end up that way. The cute Bumble dude (from day 4-5) tried to hang out on Saturday which didn’t work out, so Sunday it was. 

I spent a little too long getting ready. I knew this guy was pretty much already taken, but I wasn’t going to not put in effort for a cute, tall, Duke boy. 

The spark died almost immediately. I’m pretty sure I’ve mentioned in a past post that I’m not into Indian accents...and he ended up having one. Oh well, the hangout still went fine. I even asked him about the girl he’s talking to, and he told me all about her and how they met and whatnot. I definitely made a new friend today.

I’ll go ahead and write up my reflection here. 

- Doing something social every day is exhausting (mentally and physically) especially when half the interactions are with new people.

- This really made me work on not slacking. Most of my spare time was dedicated to my dog or doing chores. I couldn’t just nap when I felt like it. 

- A part of me would dread each social interaction before. It usually started at work where I’d be wishing I could just go home and take a nap. Then I’d get a little anxious right before the interaction (for the interactions with new people). 

- More often than not, I ended up enjoying something about each and every night. I feel like I learned a lot about myself and learned more about what I like and don’t like in guys. I got to meet a crazy number of new people, and even though I probably won’t see many of them again, it was still a great expanding my social circle and meeting people that I otherwise wouldn’t have.

- I don’t think I could do this again--at least not 7 days back to back. I’ll probably keep it limited to 2-4 days a week because it’s important to take a step back and have time for yourself. 

- I will definitely keep putting myself out there and keep saying YES to more things. In terms of dating, you can’t just sit at home thinking that you’ll never find someone when you don’t put yourself out there. Yes, there will be many unsuccessful dates before there is a successful one, but at least you put yourself out there. Usually, you’ll learn a thing or two or meet a new friend or get to check out some spots you’ve been wanting to. This applies for friendships too. Once you start participating in things, it’ll come naturally. 

[collegegirldiariess]

7 Days of Doing Stuff: Part 6

Day 6: Saturday, March 2

Half of my day today involved recovering from the Friday night festivities, but that didn’t stop me from continuing the streak. It had become a challenge for myself. This was actually one of my favorite nights of the week, but I don’t have a crazy amount to write because nothing too interesting happened.

Me and a girl (Catherine) I met during that one night out with the girls from the Facebook group had been texting since then, and we had loosely made plans to do something on Saturday. Originally we were going to get other girls from the group to come, but we didn’t really make the effort to get a group together. It all worked out though because one of my close friends was having a pregame at his place with a bunch of our college friends. 

Catherine and I went to the pregame which was a lot of fun. We hit up the Buckhead bars which is only fun with a good crew these days (it’s full of rowdy/fratty college kids), but I had a blast. It’d been a while since I’d gone out there, it felt like college all over again with the crew we had. One of my best friends (the one I had wine Wednesday with) also met us out with her friend from high school, so we ended up having a really fun group. The night actually involved us ending up back at the pregame spot where even more friends met up. After more catching up, Mario Kart, and sobering up, I finally made it home at almost 5AM.

Spoiler alert: Yep, I slept in SUPER late again. It was necessary.

[collegegirldiariess]

7 Days of Doing Stuff: Part 5

Day 5: Friday, March 1

It’s Fridayyyyyyyyy! I’m writing this the following Sunday and am wishing it was Friday already.

Today was a packed day. I had to drive almost an hour away for this work event in the morning. Afterwards, we had a team lunch (with margs!). It was a lot of fun hanging out with everyone outside of work.

Once I got home, I took a MUCH needed nap which wasn’t long enough. I had a hair appointment that evening at 5:15 that I desperately just wanted to cancel so I could have some more free time before I went out for the night, but it was a struggle to even get the appointment in the first place so I just went. I always forget how long hair coloring takes..I thought I’d be out by 7 tops but it ended up being closer to 8:30.

I had a ticket to Keys and Krates (an EDM group) tonight and the guy from day 1 did as well, so we were figuring out plans. A part of me wanted to just stay in, but the other part wanted to go because it’d been a while since I went to a show--plus my hair was going to look great that night so I couldn’t waste it!

The Bumble guy (from the trivia night) actually texted me! I was pretty giddy...but that went away pretty quick. So, we texted back and forth a little but then he hits me with the bomb. He met a girl he really likes and he was probably going to delete his Bumble account. Mister, why’d you have to text me in the first place then 🙄. He said he still likes meeting new people, so he’d be down to meet up. Take that as you will. I was bedazzled by his looks, so I was like sure why not. More about that in part 7.

Anyways, I got home from the long appointment (what better place to be on a Friday night amiright) then ate, chilled with my dog, got ready, pregamed, and I was off to the concert at around 12:30 (headliners usually come on after 1). I met up with the guy from day 1. I went in knowing I didn’t want anything to happen between us and nothing did. We did have a lot of fun though. I definitely drank past my limit with his help... but made it home safe (aside from some mysterious cuts on my hand...) so that was good 😅. 

Spoiler: I definitely didn’t sleep in until 2pm the next day or anything. Nope, not me.

[collegegirldiariess]

7 Days of Doing Stuff: Part 4

Day 4: Thursday, Feb 28

So a little bit of background first. After things went downhill with my love life earlier this year, I decided I couldn’t just stay home and mourn. I had/have very few friends that live in the city (like IN the city), so more often than not, I’d end up being the girl whose social life mostly revolved around whoever I was dating. I’d been wanting to branch out and meet new friends for a while, but past relationships would take up pretty much all my free time so I never really delved too deep into it. Now was the time.

At some point after moving, I had joined this Facebook group for girls in Atlanta. It’s a group for pretty much anything and everything--restaurant suggestions, advice on things, making plans, etc. I never participated in the group until way later, but drunk, post-heartbreak me posted one night and a lot of girls reached out to me and invited me to hang out. I ended up going out with a pretty big group of girls the next night, and it was a ton of fun. I REALLY had to push myself to go (going into things alone is scary!), but I’m glad I did. I met some cool girls and kept in touch with some which is how I ended up going to trivia night.

This event was actually organized by the group’s creators. They rented out a part of a popular restaurant and made it this whole big thing. I originally wasn’t going to go (literally the story of my life this week--getting out of my comfort zone), but knowing there would be at least one person I knew made it better. I already had a ticket (it actually sold out), so figured I’d just go despite me being absolutely worn out from the previous three days. All in all, it was a fun night (even though we didn’t win) and I didn’t regret going! 

At one point, a girl sitting next to me was on Bumble swiping for her friend (who was also there), and a couple of us were helping her out. This really cute boy came up, so she swiped on my behalf and matched immediately. She sent him a message explaining the situation and give him my number. This story will make a revival soon. 

[collegegirldiariess]

7 Days of Doing Stuff: Part 3

Day 3: Wednesday, Feb 27

As I’ve mentioned before, this week isn’t just about dates. It’s about friends as well. I was looking forward to this day the most because it didn’t require me leaving my home or having to look pretty after work. Doing something after work early in the week was usually not the norm for me. I'm much more of a "do something 2--maybe 3--days a week type of person", so this week was already way out of my comfort zone.

One of my best friends is in med school. We used to be able to hang out all the time--we get along so well because we both are always down to do random things together. I'm sure more of those stories will come up in the future. She had a week off school, so I took advantage of that to hang out. She came over for a wine night and we spent hours catching up and talking about boys (including my last two dates) and life. It was a lot of fun. 

One piece of fun we'd been having this week was fucking with one of her classmates. It was this guy she had met in college and had been on dates with on and off. He was the type of guy who would hit her up when he felt like it, but when they hung out, they (at least she) had a lot of fun. He kept playing this long con game with her for a long time. He'd text her then wouldn't respond for days or would make plans and end up cancelling. Girls, if a guy is doing this to you then know that you're probably a side-hoe or just part of his rotation. She realized this but still went with it sometimes (I mean, if you know it probably won't lead anywhere but still want to have fun sometimes then why not).

Last I had heard about him (a couple months ago) was that he was secretly dating another one of my friend's classmates (which he didn't tell my friend…she heard through the grapevine then would see them together often). So when I saw him on Tinder a few days ago (maybe Monday?), I immediately sent her a screenshot. We decided to see what would happen because, according to my friend, he definitely knew I was her friend (she had mentioned me multiple times and we have a BUNCH of pictures on social media together) and it definitely looked like he was still dating that girl. He had super-liked me, so I easily matched with him.

Since I'm typing all this out days later and this post was going to be pretty short, I'll go ahead and write up the updates thus far. Nothing is too crazy except for the fact that he's pretty dumb to think I haven't told my friend anything.

He flirted with me (starting with a multi-part, long af riddle) and I kept up with it. Eventually we switched to text (note: I'd respond maybe 2-3 times a day--the whole point of this was to see if he'd connect the dots). I brought up the fact that I know some people at his school and of course I mentioned my best friend's name. He pretty much swept it to the side…I'll just post the screenshot here. Note the time/dates between each message.

What is going on in this boy's head?? Does he think his name didn't come up at all when I hung out with someone who I know he knows? Does he know but not care? Does he know what we're up to?

My friend sees him in a SUIT yesterday (3/6), and he tells her he's going to a Boy Scouts dinner…a friend had seen him with his secret girl just moments before. Maybe he was really going to a Boy Scouts dinner (on a Monday? While he's in med school?), but it seemed more likely he was going to a fancy date. After the previous text messages, I had stopped responding to him. We thought he'd connect the dots and not text me again after I mentioned my friend MULTIPLE times, but that didn't work.

Today, he texts me again. A double text after I didn't respond to his last ones. He texted my friend earlier today too…looks like I made it into his rotation. My friend didn't respond, but I did. We go back and forth a tiny bit then he asked me to hang out this weekend. I didn't respond after and don't plan on it unless its to call him out (once we have solid evidence).

SO many things wrong with this. If my friend didn't know him, I'd have gone on this date cause he SEEMED pretty cool. But, because of my friend, I have the inside source on how he's been for years with her PLUS the fact that he MOST LIKELY is dating someone.

I'll post updates in the future if anything else happens.

[collegegirldiariess]

7 Days of Doing Stuff: Part 2

Day 2 - Tuesday, Feb 26

Okay, so let me preface this by saying I do stupid shit sometimes. For example, when you’re meeting someone for the first time, meet them directly at a public location...don’t meet at their place first because a) they could be a murderer b) you can’t leave early.

The plan for today was to grab drinks at a bar near his place (not far from mine). I live about 10 minutes from most places in Atlanta while others tend to live in more central locations (when talking about bars), so I have to drive and pay for parking (and go through the hassle of finding parking in the first place) or take an Uber/Lyft. Well, this guy said I could just park at his place and we could go from there. Fine enough. Less hassle for me. 

Well, I get to his apartment complex and we get on the phone so he can tell me directions on where to park. Immediately, I notice he has a thick Indian accent. Now, don’t be too quick to judge me for that being a turn off. Let’s take a moment to discuss this. I know many other American born Indians feel the same way. I’m simply just not attracted to Indian accents. I’ll gladly be friends with anyone with any type of accent, but romantically, I am not into it. 

At this point, I had two choices. Whip the car back around and GHOST or just go through with the date and maybe it’ll go well (or at least I’ll get a story out of it). I’m definitely not one to stand someone up, so of course I went with option B. 

I park my car and wait for him to come down. He was hard to miss. He was wearing baggy jeans AND a chunky jean jacket. It was not a good look. Jean on jean is making a comeback...but you’ve GOT to do it right to pull it off. At this point, I knew this was going to be a memorable night. 

We get in his car and head to the bar. There was absolutely no chemistry and he seemed to be trying to act “cool”. I was trying to be nice, but I wanted to do nothing else more but leave. I remained friendly regardless. 

He parks in a lot behind some restaurants (this comes into play later), and we walk across the street to the bar. I needed some liquid courage to help me loosen up for sure. We order some Moscow Mules and start talking. I’ll be honest, once the drinks started hitting me and I mentally accepted that I’ll just get through the night, it got easier. We talked about travel a lot. He had done a lot of it. All in all, the bar portion of the night wasn’t the worst and I was like okay, this isn’t all bad. 

Anyways, we eventually head back to his car only to find it booted. Great, my night is even more extended, and now he’s out a lot of money on a first date with someone who is not interested in him. I felt bad. Luckily, the booting person came somewhat quickly and we made it back to his place not too long after. 

He invited me in, and I had to use the restroom really badly at this point, so I said yes. I went to the restroom, and he put on a comedy special on Netflix. (Side note: he had QUITE the collection of expensive shoes...we’re talking Balenciaga and Gucci). We watched and talked for a little while...then he puts his arm around me. OH NO. I move away, but I’m a stupid bitch who is too nice to say anything so I left it that. Thankfully, he moved it so it was on the couch and not on me. I don’t know why I cared about not being mean so much that I STILL STAYED. Not for much longer, but still. I looked at my phone at my dog’s camera notifications and faked that it seemed like he needed to go out, so I had to leave. And that was it. He tried to make a move, but I noped out and drove home laughing at myself because of ALL THE THINGS I did wrong tonight. Don’t be stupid like me. No promises that I learned my lesson and listened to my advice going further though (heh). (Regardless of if you end up at a stranger’s home or not, do always share your location and text a friend updates. At least I always do this.)

So that was it. Date #2 for the week is in the books. 

[collegegirldiariess]

7 Days of Doing Stuff: Part 1

So, I plan on making a blog elsewhere, but I still wanted to write all of this out before I got around to actually finding the right platform for that. It’s been a little while since I’ve graduated from college (UGA), and now I’m living in Atlanta. Of course a lot of UGA grads end up in Atlanta (like me), but unfortunately, most of my closer friends are not in the city (like IN the city…more about that in future posts). Regardless, I’ve been staying busy since I’ve moved here (more about that in future posts as well), but lately (last week), I’ve REALLY decided to start making a life for myself here.

How did I do that? Well, I really put myself out there. This blog is going to be about my journey of making new friends, going on dates, and experiencing new things.

So, to get to the point of this post. Over the last few weeks, I’ve casually been using dating apps. I went through some rough breakups (again, more about that later), and I actually decided that I’d prefer to just meet someone in person next. Forget the dating apps. However…I did meet 2/3 of the guys I’ve dated in the last few years through dating apps, so I was never the person to be completely against them like some people. So, with that in mind, drunk (or bored) me would get back on the apps and inevitably match with people. In the past, I never spent a crazy amount of time on the dating apps (weird considering 2/3 of my past boyfriends were from there…), but I still decided that I’m not going to deal with keeping a pen pal on them. Pen pal = texting/messaging a guy forever before meeting them (if ever). That’s just sounded like a waste of time to me–especially now that I live alone and have the freedom to do pretty much whatever I want. Nothing is more boring than casually texting multiple (or even one) guy(s) and it not leading anywhere. I have to meet them before knowing if its worth investing my time in them.

Now that that bit is out of the way, you can see where this is going. Within two or so weeks of starting the apps back up, I was talking to a handful of guys. I’ll write more about dealing with my exes and why I started getting out there sooner than later in the future, but let’s skip over that part for now. Let’s get into the 7 days of doing stuff. Spoiler alert: no, all 7 days were not dates (making new friends is also a big part of this journey!).

Day 1: Monday, Feb 25th

I met this guy on Hinge. He seemed pretty cute, and he liked EDM (big plus for me). We had been texting and been getting along pretty darn well over text (bad texting experiences = lower interest). We found out we had some mutual friends. One of them is one of my somewhat closer friends, so I asked her about him and she got super excited which, of course, got me more excited.

We met for drinks at a popular neighborhood bar. Honestly, I was not attracted to him when I first saw him. I feel like this is always a worry everyone has when it comes to dating apps. Everyone posts their best pictures…or the pictures that keep you guessing. This is especially more prevalent for the specific subset of guys I’ve been looking for on the apps (in a nutshell: Indian). Regardless, despite me feeling awkward at first (this was one of my first few times meeting someone on an app), things got better as the drinks started pouring (as they tend to do). He was great to talk to and seemed like he’d be a good friend. All in all, we had a good night. We actually had made somewhat of plans to go see an EDM concert the upcoming Friday before meeting…it was more like I had a ticket and told him at some point during our texting that he should come, so he got his ticket right then. During this date, I wasn’t too sure if I still wanted to go to it (it was sort of implied it’d be together), but as the night went, I warmed up to the idea even if it was just platonic. I feel like both of us were on the same page, but writing this now…I feel sort of silly for assuming this. Regardless, it was a pretty fun night and I was glad I did end up meeting him even though a couple hours prior to that, I just wanted to stay home and do nothing (like every. single. other. day. this week). More about Friday in a later post.

Somehow I thought I would be able to type up all 7 days in this one session, but it is 11:30 on the following Monday night (after another date…) and that is definitely not happening. Stay tuned for part 2 of many more.

[collegegirldiariess]

SO ANNOYED

UGH who knew SHIRTS could be so complicated????????

I’m President of my sorority. I’ve also always been the one to do most of our graphics for everything. This summer, I’ve been recruited by nationals to help with the shirt design for recruitment. Meanwhile, my chapter exec has been blabbering about shirt designs all summer as well.

All the chapters technically should use the nationals shirt, but historically they haven’t looked the best so my chapter has usually not gotten them. However, since I was in control of it this year, it made sense to see what I came up with along with nationals before jumping ahead and coming up with designs for our own shirts (I created designs based on ideas nationals gave then worked together to create a final design). In short, they did not understand that!! Multiple times during my design period, they would just post pictures of new designs or color ideas and stuff...and like who was going to design all this???? ME! And now, we just finalized the final design for nationals and of course my exec doesn’t really like it much and well this is turning out to be SO DAMN FRUSTRATING. I just want to leave the groupme!!

There have been many points thus far that I have regretted my decision to run for president. That is NOT GOOD--I know that! My own exec board has been on my nerves quite often this summer! I HOPE that all my feelings towards all this changes when the school year starts, but right now I’m actually dreading it! I’ll probably rant more about this in here btw. 

Maybe I’ll write some cute stories about my boyfriend a little later to easy my anger (this shirt business is one of those petty things I’d probably complain to him about..but he’s all the way in Greece right now so Tumblr it is!). 

Meanwhile, I’m going to hit the gym and physically get work our my feelings. 

[collegegirldiariess]

I just read a bunch of these old posts

and it was great. Pat on my back to my old self for writing these. I just sent a bunch of snippets to my boyfriend (obviously just the stuff related to him and other random funny stuff I wrote). I’m sure he’ll enjoy reading the transitions in our relationship since it, well, wasn’t even a relationship (I sure did).

I have seriously been slacking on writing. I literally haven’t written anything about my sorority (except that I joined one) or anything recent about my boyfriend or any of the other awesome (and not so awesome) things I’ve done in college. 

Mini update: I still have embarrassing drunk stories. I also still have a WONDERFUL boyfriend. He’s the best. You’ll hear more about him. I am now a senior in college. WHAT? I started this blog when I was a senior in high school! Not trying to be cliche...but time goes HELLA fast. 

[collegegirldiariess]

My boyfriend.

I haven’t written in here in a long time (what’s new?)..but I wanted to gush about my boyfriend somewhere. My friends already know how awesome he is..I don’t like always bringing him up in convo because I don’t want to be that girl. But damn, I really have the most amazing boyfriend a girl could ever have. 

I’ve been living in Charlotte for the past few weeks for an internship. I’ll be here for the rest of summer. My boyfriend came here to visit for a little over a week! He just left the past Wednesday. That was the longest continuous time I’ve ever spent with him..and it was freaking awesome. Ahh I’ve missed him so much since he left! So much that it physically hurts. But those 8 days were amazing. We explored the city and ate at so many different places..it was great. Every day was amazing--just knowing that I got to come home to him after work every day was awesome. 

His birthday was the day after he left, so I surprised him with a gift the Friday before (I couldn’t wait until the end of his trip..). I had been asking and looking up ideas on what to get him/what to do for his birthday for a really long time with NO luck. He kept telling me he didn’t want anything except for my love..which is great and all but I wasn’t going to not do anything for him. So after a really long time of browsing Micheal’s and going through several ideas in my head, I finally ended up painting two lock boxes for him (glossed and everything). I got some pictures of us printed in 4x4 squares and wrote the date and something about the memory on the backs. I also wrote 51 reasons why I loved him on different note cards. Finally, I filled the two boxes with these things along with his favorite candy and some other small items for him. I hid it all in a drawer with a note to him. That Friday, I texted him to look in that particular drawer while I was at work. He LOVED it. It made me feel amazing. 

Little did I know that I would be getting a surprise myself soon. He left this past Wednesday while I was at work. That evening when I got home, I was shocked to see that he left a pile of various snacks and water for me with the cutest note. (Side note: He knows that I don’t really feed myself well/won’t eat much or buy food if I’m by myself.) Not only this but he completely cleaned the place and washed my bedding and towel and everything. I couldn’t help tearing up. I wanted to hug him so badly!! I talked to him on the phone afterwards and he asked if I had checked the fridge yet..I completely missed over that sentence in the note. I checked the fridge and there was even more food! Annnd my favorite ice cream was in the freezer!! How much more amazing can my boyfriend get?!?! I told my coworker about this the next day, and she was like wow like no boyfriends do this.

I feel so lucky to have him. I can’t even put it into words. He knows everything about me..my favorite everything, my moods, my quirks, everything. Just from noticing too..he remembers the smallest things! (for example, he remembered that I mentioned that I don’t really like Kraft mac & cheese so he got me a different brand..I wasn’t even talking to him when I said this!) There is just so much more that I don’t even want to write because no one would be able to understand unless they have someone like this..I feel so blessed (I really can’t think of a better word..) and lucky to have him. I can’t wait for the day where I can see him every day. <3

[collegegirldiariess]

some bragging

I wanted to brag on my boyfriend somewhere, and I know how annoying that one friend who always talks about her boyfriend is..so this is my outlet.

He came over this past Saturday night and stayed until Monday. On Saturday, we hung out with my roommates and watched Harry Potter 1 (drinking game version)..then on Sunday I woke up feeling really sick. My immune system is the worst thing ever..the amount of times I've gotten sick this year is way too high. And no, it wasn't a hangover cause we didn't really drink too much, and I never get hangovers. I had a fever and my head hurt a whole lot. It sucked (I still haven't recovered). Anyways, I spent most of the day in bed and he was right there with me. He took care of me so well..brought me water or meds or anything else I needed. He snuggled with me the entire time and kept me warm (I am always cold--but felt extra cold during my cold flashes). He was just the most perfect human being.

To think that I almost lost him is really scary.. I didn't write about this, but I actually don't even want to because I just want to get past it. In short, I recently did something and was really conflicted about staying with him or not. Weirdly, before the past few weeks, I had been feeling really confused about how I felt about him and that almost led me to break things off. Sadly, I made a huge mistake in in the midst of this (albit a drunken one), but honestly, as bad as it sounds, now I realize how much I do like him. Especially after this weekend. He didn't care one bit that we just spent most of his time here in bed. He was just happy to be with me which says wonders to me.

[collegegirldiariess]

Random compliment..

"Your hair looks hot. It has has that post sex look to it."

Lol, how does one react to that?

On a side note, less than a week until I get to see my boyfriend! Counting down the days. Just gotta get through four finals first. I hate being sick during finals..it always happens too. I would think that it is because of lack of sleep and lots of stress, but honestly, I slept less and was just as stressed during some parts of pledging. It's just the finals gods that hate me. -.-

[collegegirldiariess]

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