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[funnier-as-a-feedist]

howdy, feel free to ignore this if its too personal/ramble-y lol. ur blog was wonderful to scroll thru and i hope ur having a lovely day :))

im a 20 yr old dyke and ive known i have a wg kink since i was really little (seeing u acknowledge a similar sitch in your pinned post felt very reassuring, sorry to get sidetracked lol but again, thank u. blogs like urs really help me feel a little less ashamed about who i am). ive never done any sort of dating or relationship stuff at all, zilch zero nada not even a kiss. and while i feel like im probs somewhere on the aroace spectrum or something, i do think part of it is definitely shame around my desires/fear of emotionally hurting a potential partner. when i do feel attraction it is primarily towards folks whom are at least slightly on the bigger side, of which i am very much not. i have close fat friends who have shared stories about being unwillingly fetishized on the internet just for existing/posting art of their sonas and im terrified of accidentally doing something similar to a potential partner (fat people put up with enough bullshit as isss the last thing i want to do is cause more problems for them!!). i made a little personal feedism tumblr blog last year for a bit but trying to talk to people online (and. the shame) made me sooo anxious so i ended up deleting for the moment lol.

i guess i just want to ask- do you have any advice for actually finding and forming a relationship with someone who's interested feedism, or respectfully navigating relationships/desire with fat people who you've not deliberately met through the feedism community? i know magically falling into a perfect feedist relationship first try is pretty damn unlikely, even if im just sticking to online (which. how do people even make friends on hereeeee. i suck at this. i need to get better about dming people. but what if they explode me with their mind...). and im going to college in a big city and i want to take this opportunity try stuff out and have fun in person. but i also dont want to hurt anyone along the way.

if u read this far thank u lol, i dont have anyone to talk to about this. my friends are all fairly sex positive/open to weird shit but because of their negative experiences w creeps on the internet feedism is something they'll make fun of n stuff. which is understandable considering what they've put up with (esp my buddy who's a furry. its gotten so many creepy comments on perfectly normal art of zir sona just cuz they happen to be fat. it suckks) but it does not help the shame to have to laugh along as one of the core facets of my sexuality gets made fun of by people i love :/

no worries if you dont have a good answer to any of these questions. have a good one, keep posting, ur doing the lords work <3

No way I love rambling!! I have a whole tag about dating as a feedist! Come be friends with me and my friends, we'll talk about feedism and related topics and you'll never be judged!

I understand the negative experiences non feedists have gone through at the hands of manipulative people. It's important for ethical feedists to make sure everyone is consenting enthusiastically and have good kink negotiation (and trust, because even after good kink negotiation it's possible for someone to cross their own boundaries to try to please their partner, which only leads to hurt trust down the road). However these abusers don't have a place at the table and don't reflect ethical feedists. I know many people (I was really pleasantly surprised from my survey) in mixed feedist/non-feedist relationships (myself included!). The only thing that would be unethical is trying to deceive someone once they've set a boundary, or trying to coerce someone past a boundary, or ignoring/dismissing a boundary. If feedism is a personal deal breaker for someone, that's fine, but outside of that no one can have any say on what other people should do with their bodies. You might find a few individuals who find that feedism is not for them, but there's nothing inherently traumatic about having kink discussions with someone! You come across to me as a very sympathetic person who wants to make sure that you don't accidentally hurt anyone. Accidents happen; you may hurt someone, (misunderstandings/miscommunications around boundaries happen) but the most important thing is a strong foundation and communication for when that does happen.

Anyway, check out what I've said before (I put it better than I could rn) and let me know if you have any specific questions!

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