this is top speed

HEY, IT'S YOU!!! 

[genderkoolaid]

i very much agree that chikfila is a harmful company we shouldn't support but i've gotta say. some people do think it tastes good, even really good. some people don't feel like copycat recipes taste as good as their food. we should still boycott chikfila. a company that makes the best food you've ever tasted, that truly has no equal outside of their stores, who also donates to orgs that want queer people dead, should still be boycotted.

its not Bad or anything to shit talk their food or share copycat recipes. but like 1. we don't need to act like we've never enjoyed something now labeled harmful, as if saying you always hated That Thing makes you morally superior. we need to be more comfortable saying "i like this product, but now i don't support its creator anymore so i wont engage with it on principle" and 2. the quality or uniqueness of the product is completely irrelevant to the boycott. people do this with celebrities/creators who are called out too & it annoys me cause you do not get bonus Morality Points for acting like harmful people are incapable of making genuinely good, enjoyable things. it does not promote healthy relationships with art or any kind of product to act like quality is tied with morality even if you don't mean too.

[naamahdarling]

"Well X band/author/influencer/actor was ALWAYS shit!" Okay sure, maybe the person saying that really did think so. Or maybe they're trying to distance themselves from something they were neutral about or did actually like.

"X band has always been awful!" Actually, they put out some really, REALLY good songs, that doesn't negate what the singer said or whatever. You can disagree, sure, but you not liking a thing doesn't make it poor-quality, and someone being a trash person doesn't make their output poor-quality, either.

As someone who has loved many problematic things only to watch "always sucked" rhetoric gain legs ONLY when the thing is declared Wrong To Like, it's frustrating. People aren't wrong for enjoying things that you don't like.

It makes people who did like the thing feel really defensive and annoyed, and they aren't wrong to feel that way. It's fine to be annoyed when someone is being a dick, even if they are right.

IDK, thus just makes me really mad. Maybe because I lived with someone who for years made fun of my tastes until I stood up to them. I don't like seeing people get made fun of and shamed for what they like. It doesn't help anything. Ever. Literally. Give it up. Adjust your angle of attack. Criticize the person's actions, comment on the content of their work and not the quality.

And while we're at it, stop making fun of how people look.

[kienava]

"nothing matters so do what you love and be kind" is the single most viscerally impactful message i have ever gleaned from consuming media and i'm going to live every day with that kind of hopepunk nihilism for the rest of my life

[depsidase]

[leviathan-the-boy]

it says the actual flavour right here :/

[paper--machete]

gonna dump 2 litres of this stuff into my humidifier and see what happens

[paper--machete]

Hospital

[enchantedbook]

The Fairy Prince by Adolf Munzer, 1925

[pixalry]

The Black Monarch’s Ghost - Created by Ben Turner

Here is the original box cover, for nostalgia’s sake.

[writhe]

this is actually maybe my favorite compusure of any drawing i’ve seen ever

[glasspostings]

while you were attending therapy i was studying the blade

[glasspostings]

what do you mean i need better coping mechanisms

[dancinbutterfly]

>a wild therapist has entered the chat you need an additional coping mechanism studying the blade is a DBT principle called Building Mastery - wherein you engage in anything that is practical during which you gain skill and can actively see yourself progress - which is resilience building technique by which you shore yourself against vulnerability factors that make it harder to regulate emotions and manage activities of daily life and interpersonal interactions effectively. if you continue to study the blade while engaging in therapy, it will in fact make your therapeutic session more effective because having a skill that you pursue builds self-esteem and is a foundation upon which other coping skills can be built. so not better coping skills, blademaster, additional ones. you are already heading in the right direction and you have proven you have the tenacity to apply yourself to one discipline. now show us what you can do when applying yourself to your healing.

[raevenlywrites]

[jaubaius]

Switching Pendulums

[how2forgive]

this ask polly comment..

[asterkid-deactivated20150106]

tomorrow……… is august„„„„,?????

its augu…….st?? tomorrW???????????

8th monTH???????? 4 ,more mont hs of 2013?????????????

what??????????????????????????????………………………..

[kedreeva]

When I was a kid, maybe 14 or so (which is, you know, 20+ years ago), I belonged to a Yahoo! mailing list for an anime called Gundam Wing. It was mostly populated by other teens, of varying ages, as it was started by a teen and her friends. Eventually it migrated, when Yahoo! groups started as forums, and even branched off into non-GW related stuff in a second forum.

One of the things I remember the most clearly is the oldest person in the group. Her name was Steelsong. She was a 40-something Dom with a sub whose name we knew even though we knew nothing else. She ran her own fanfic archive because the web was still handmade HTML and navigated in webrings and I’m pretty sure Google didn’t exist or was only barely, barely launched and not well known. She was kind and patient and we loved her. She treated everyone on the group with the respect given any adult, even though most of the rest of the world was still treating us like we were children. Not teenagers even, but children. She never once condescended to any of us, never made our youth a barrier to her respect, never treated us like we were incapable of being full people or like we were less than her because we were young.

I remember that she hosted our fanfiction, as absolutely terrible as it was (and I still have some of it, I am WELL aware of how cringingly terrible it is, just absolute nonsense garbage), right there alongside of other fic that was soul-achingly beautiful. Not a separate section for her friends or for kids, just right there like we were good enough to feature alongside other authors. I never once received crit from her that I didn’t ask for, only support. Only love. I am still writing today partly because Steel was so kind about our fic, fanfic and original.

I remember that when I started doing clay sculpture, she commissioned a tiny pair of dragons from me, to support me doing artwork. She sent a check my mom cashed for me, and my mom helped me mail it when it was finished. It broke in transit, and Steel assured me that she mended it and that it was still beautiful. It was a small gold dragon curled up with a small silver dragon.

I remember that her patience knew no bounds. I remember that she was there for us, regardless of reason. When we wanted to know silly things like what to do with a single AA battery, she answered. When we had serious questions about sex, she answered.  When we had questions about writing, she taught us. When one of our group members, a young gay teen in Australia, ended up in the hospital and then stopped making posts, and we all knew what had happened, she let us talk to her about it because we couldn’t go to our own parents, even though we had just lost a friend.

She was not a replacement to my parents, but she was an extra parent, in some ways. A friend, certainly, but someone that had been through more life than we had and was willing to pass on knowledge if we asked for it. Someone older that we trusted with things that were too uncomfortable to go to our parents or teachers or whatever about, because we already knew she wasn’t going to judge us or something, and that we would get an honest answer.

I don’t know why I’m remembering this so hard tonight, and I’m not sure if there’s a point to sharing this, except that I know she’s gone now. She was ill the last time we spoke, and her site went down a long time ago, and I miss her. She was a huge influence on my life, then and now. She was hope, for me, that life as an adult didn’t have to be boring, it wouldn’t have to mean giving up the things I loved and Becoming Only Responsible With No Fun. Her presence meant I had hope I could still write and play with friends even when I wasn’t ‘a kid’ anymore. And she’s gone, and I miss her, and I wanted to share her from the perspective of youth, and the perspective over twenty years later has provided me.

And I think of her, when people go off about older folks being in fandom with younger folks. I’m an older folks now, or at least middle aged folks because there are certainly folks older than me still, but I wasn’t always. I’ve been here since i was a younger folks, and I know how much Steel’s presence and support meant to me, how much she helped not just me but everyone on that group. And I think of the people saying older folks don’t belong in fandom, and that they shouldn’t interact with younger folks at all, and I just think… I can’t agree. I needed that kind of solid presence in my life back then and even at the age I am now, I need the folks older than me to stay. I want them here.

So I guess, like, if you’re here and you’re 40 or 50 or 60 or 70 or 80 or whatever, I want you here in fandom with me, still. Your presence here is a comfort. It is hope. It is a reminder that life will continue to be fun, even as I get older, myself. And if you’re younger and you have this sort of elder in your groups, I hope that they are like Steel. I hope they are kind and patient and supportive, and that knowing them gives you hope for your own future. I hope in twenty years you look back and remember them fondly.

[undeadcorvid]

Others have said it better and more eloquently, but the LGBT community has a massive fear and disgust of masculinity it needs to reckon with in order to be whole. Bears, transmascs, masculine enbies, AMAB enbies, butch lesbians, masc intersex folk, drag kings, and those who find themselves in some fluid space between them or are masc in ways I’ve left out - they all need support from the LGBT community, they all have the same traumas from being queer, and all of them  that I’ve met have some horror story about hitting the ‘must be this femme to ride’ bar.

You can be gnc and masculine. This needs to be embraced.

Masculine people are not the enemy. The community needs to be as ready to embrace its brothers as it is its sisters. We are all queer.

[twice-as-many-stars]

Extremely good post, op.

I’d like to emphasize, if I may, that this is something trans women and transfem people are extremely affected by as well, especially the “must be this fem to ride” bar. Things we’d consider feminine to neutral in cis women are considered masculine in trans women.

And it goes double and thricefold for people of color, who are often considered much less feminine by completely arbitrary and racist standards.

[ukulelekatie]

me and my mutuals spending years obsessing over Carmilla the webseries only to become obsessed with yet another late 19th century vampire story adapted for a modern-day media format

[milfsisyphus]

lord the women you put on earth to enjoy media are being forced to log in to outlook and microsoft teams

[wellwaterhysteria]

no little german boy don’t go into that amateur beatboxing competition!

[wellwaterhysteria]

oh mein gott this room is full of bootzenkatzen

[amandalanzone]

[memewhore]

[mono-red-menace]

ohhh haha you're a dragon? *twirls hair on finger* you look so strong.. haha how much can you lift?? 35 tonnes?? ohh haha that's so cool.. you can breathe fire too huh? ooh,, Lightning huh?? haha.. could you show me?~ *is immediately vaporised*