This is gonna be a rant because I need a new tag for this shit
I hate how enforced relationship ārulesā are
As someone whoās cluster B and on the spectrum I donāt get social cues, and my relationship is between my boyfriend and I, no one else. Weāre 50/50 not 49/49 waiting for some dork to give their 2 cents.
I trust my boyfriend and I know he trusts me because weāve been together going 3 years, thereās no secrets or anything hidden. weāre still growing as people and changing to keep what we have, weāre both freshly 18
So to have social rules implemented like āyou canāt wear short skirts or tank topsā or āyou canāt go out without meā is so stupid to me. I trust my boyfriend, he can wear and go where he wants because clothes donāt make you cheat, going outside doesnāt make you cheat and the social pushing of that is just people being insecure and pushing it onto and ruining relationships.
Iām autistic so I try to lean to social cues and rules but itās really just ended up hurting my boyfriend and myself.
Cause guess what, love isnāt obsessing over my partners past or obsessing over who he hangs out with because if he didnāt want me heād be gone. If I wanted to hate myself so badly Iād go on EDTWT not a corny ass TikTok .
Love is us showing up for eachother and staying at our best and worst and trusting eachother
TLDR ; pushing social media and its dumbass rules into your own relationship will ruin it, love isnāt as complicated as tiktok or whatever app makes it seem.
