Heart of flames

[Semi- Private/highly selective] [Highly selective multiship] [Please read the rules before rping with me] [ temp m!a: none, but accepting] [Tracking fireybookman and corflammarum] [Mun is 22] [Don't steal icons or edits]

[corflammarum]

Happy candle nights I still don't know what to do about this blog byyyeeee

[corflammarum]

I have zero clue what to do about any of this I really don't

[goldnpoc]

It’s literally so annoying hear 15 year olds and younger complain about being virgins and haven’t been kissed. It shows how sexualized society is and how much pressure young teens get for not doing these things. And it’s just so funny to me because you know the people who are mostly forcing them? Grown people. Grown people show it and advertise it in teen shows with actors who are 37 and have these baby teens feeling inadequate about themselves because they aren’t doing what “teenagers should be doing”. And saying things like “you haven’t dated yet?”, “you haven’t kiss yet?”, “you haven’t had sex yet?” to 15 year olds! And I have to say that’s not normal, it’s not normal for a 13-15 year old teenager to feel sad about not having sex. It’s just uncomfortable in my opinion. And I know I have really young followers too, so I’m just gonna tell you, you are not NOT normal for not having sex, not dating, not being kissed, not doing anything intimate at all. You are still so young, don’t feel the pressure from society. Just focus on you and forget about anyone else. And that is hard, but think of it as a “at least it wasn’t me” thing when you see the worse situations happen possible when you see people in relationships. It’s okay.

[latenightcornerstore]

DEAR TEENAGERS AND YOUNG ADULTS BECOMING SEXUALLY ACTIVE FOR THE FIRST TIME:

1. DEMAND condom use 2. Hold your partners accountable for what happens in the bedroom. None of this “baby I can’t control myself around you” or “I just wanted you so bad” bullshit. 3. Coercion is real and it’s very scary and hard to identify in the moment. Establish a dialogue with your partner. Be clear on what you both want. Be clear on what you don’t want. Your boundaries should ALWAYS be respected. 4. Sex can be really emotionally and physically over-stimulating the first few times; don’t be afraid or ashamed to ask your partner to slow down, take a break, or even stop. 5. Focus less on pleasing your partner and more on exploring your partner. Everyone’s body is different and there are no “tricks” to better sex. Chances are, if you psych yourself out worrying over how well you’re “performing” then nobody’s going to have a good time. 6. Ask questions, offer suggestions. Despite what porn has probably taught you, talking during sex isn’t weird or taboo. Your partner isn’t a mind reader. They don’t know what feels good to you. [Pro-tip, a looot of people without clitorises aren’t fully aware of just HOW sensitive a clitoris is. They can be a little rough with them. Tell them to chill!!!!] 7. Your sex life is YOUR business. Don’t ever feel ashamed of how many or how few sexual partners/experiences you’re having. Do what you want, touch the people who want to touch you back, forget the rest. 8. DON’T FAKE YOUR ORGASMS!! Don’t fake your orgasms!! DON’TFAKEYOURORGAMS!! If your partner isn’t getting you there, let them know! Tell them how!! 9. There is more to sex than orgasms. Sex is a really cool way to establish intimacy and trust, to have a fun time, to relieve stress, to explore a person’s body and bring them pleasure. Don’t get me wrong, orgasms are really cool and good, but your sex life is going to be a lot better if it doesn’t revolve around them. 10. LEARN ABOUT YOUR BODY!! This goes for everyone, but ESPECIALLY if you are a person in possession of a vulva, you have been discouraged and even actively kept from vital knowledge about your anatomy! Do some google searches, buy a human sexuality textbook, masturbate. 11. Virginity is a useless concept. It’s completely okay if your virginity is something important to you and I’m not trying to belittle that idea. Just, for the record, in the grand scheme of things it’s not a big deal. Literally nothing about you changes just because you bumped uglies with someone else.

This has been a public service announcement from your friendly internet poet.

[goodbyedearfriends-deactivated2]

WARNING

PORN BOTS ARE NOW GOING AROUND REBLOGGING YOUR SELFIES AND PUTTING LINKS TO CAM GIRLS. THIS PUTS MINORS AT MAJOR RISK AND IT REALLY PISSED ME OFF.

example: https://wkvsjspdoyus.tumblr.com/post/157897052929. They used my series of selfies when I was cosplaying Rhella Targayen to advertise pornography.

If the blog gets deleted here’s my reply to them using my photos for their pornography advertising (which has a lot of cursing be warned because I’m angry)

SO IF THIS SHIT HAPPENS TO YOU REPORT IT.

@staff you better take care of this problem, it has gone too far now.

[cisphobicfrisk]

what “age is just a number” means

it is never too late to find love

it is never too late to start your career

it is never too late to start being true to yourself

what “age is just a number” does NOT mean

it’s okay for this grown ass adult to be in a relationship with a minor (aka a CHILD)

[mirajanestrauss]

DO NOT USE .CO .VU

Please for the love of all that is holy DO NOT USE THIS TO PERSONALIZE YOUR TUMBLR. It’s covered in adware and every single time I click onto someone’s tumblr who has it I have to run my spybot and then it catches a bunch of stuff and in one case one of these addresses downloaded an adware program onto my computer that prevented me from hitting back on my browser and had loud popup ads now and then and annoying blue hyperlinks everywhere. It took several hours of my time to remove the darn thing from my computer completely.

“But I can have a cool personalized name with .co .vu!” Yeah, you know why? Because most people don’t use it so names aren’t taken. Why?

Because it’s covered in adware and spyware.

If you respect your followers AT ALL do not use this. Please.

[amielleon]

This is actually a really fascinating scam.

So, you know how how “co.[country abbreviation]” is commonly used to signify that a site is from some country? For example, “amazon.co.jp” is the Japanese version of Amazon dot com.

The people selling “co.vu” sites want you to think that that’s what’s going on–that you’re getting nice good web addresses from Vanuatu.

But what’s actually happening is that they publish your sites as a subdomain of a site called “co” that is in Vanuatu.

In other words:

In the url “http://amielleon.tumblr.com”, “amielleon” is the subdomain, “tumblr” is the actual site, and “com” tells me that it’s a commercial site and probably from America.

In the url “http://mytrashyotp.co.vu”, “mytrashyotp” is the subdomain, “co” is the actual site, and “vu” indicates it’s from Vanuatu. But they WANT you to think that “mytrashyotp” is the site, and “co.vu” indicates that it’s a commercial site from Vanuatu.

What are they getting out of this? The ability to throw shit on top of your blog (like adware) and also leech off your content for search engine rankings.

(Source: I based this post off of this blog post which is somewhat more technical in nature.)

[jpgtaes]

Guys this is actually true ;;; it’s been happening to me quite a lot and I’ve had so many pop ups and ads everywhere. I get programs that I’ve never installed plus it can cause real harm to your PC. I seriously suggest to not use a co.vu domain for the sake of your mutuals & followers !!!

[a-pool-shaped-moon-deactivated2]

I just want every teenage girl who’s just starting to have sex to know that it’s completely okay to NOT want to replicate porn, to NOT want to do anal, to NOT want to have threesomes and to NOT want to do bdsm. You’re not “boring” or “a prude” or “a kink shamer”, nor do you need to be fixed. You’re not wrong for not wanting to have wild unsafe or degrading sex. Your boundaries are completely okay and there’s nothing wrong with being “vanilla”.

[89584957294589425-deactivated20]

Also it’s okay to not want to give blowjobs and to not want to have penetrative sex. It’s okay to back out of having sex that you previously agreed to. You do not owe anyone any kind of sex for any kind of reason, and if they cared about you they wouldn’t pressure you. It’s okay to not be ready for sex. (And it’s okay to never have sex!)

[actually-mason-deactivated20170]

It’s okay to back out of having sex that you previously agreed to .

You do not owe anyone any kind of sex for any kind of reason .

Guys.

[blackswallowtailbutterfly]

It’s okay to say no to dating a guy even though he’s nice. It’s okay to say no to sex with a guy even though he’s your boyfriend. It’s okay to say no to dating or sex with a guy even though he bought you something/stood up for you/shared his notes/anything really. If it’s okay if you only want to try certain kinds of sexual things, and you are allowed to say and enforce that those are all you’re interested in and the only things you’re going to do. It’s okay to break up with a dude who’s trying to pressure you in any way. It’s okay to report his behaviour to teachers or counselors or authorities or your parents/parental figures. And if an adult tries to downplay aggressive behaviour from a dude, it’s okay for you to report it to someone else until you’re taken seriously.

[azrealini]

On Underage Smut

As a 18+ roleplayer, I should NOT have to consistently remind minors over and over and over again that absolutely under no circumstances will I roleplay smut and anything relating to smut with someone who’s underage. It’s illegal. You’re going to get me trouble with the fucking law. Just because you don’t care doesn’t mean I don’t, and I’m not going to go spend time in jail because you just had to write porn.

“But I had to lie about my age! No one will RP with minors anymore!” 

Well gee fucking willikers! I wonder why that’s a thing? You think it has something to do with the fact that minors don’t care about the well-being of their adult partners and jump through hoops to get in on that saucy, naughty fiction?

Bitch all you want, but there’s a reason 18+ rpers won’t write with minors much these days, and it has everything to do with smut. Now how do you fix this? Just wait the next few years out and, when you’re finally legal, you can start sending in NSFW prompts. But, until then, keep it to yourself.

[phases-of-our-moon]

[natureac]

This blog will make you feel at peace

[neopoint]

since american news sources have been spreading misinformation through racist and speculative headliners, i want to put it out there that the shooter who killed six people praying at a quebec mosque last night was NOT a moroccan muslim man (the moroccan man was later confirmed as a witness). the shooter was terrorist alexandre bissonnette, a known far-right leaning white nationalist, and this was very clearly an anti-muslim hate crime. please make sure you aren’t spreading lies that will hurt others, and keep the quebecois community in your thoughts and prayers during this very difficult time.

[gaywrites]

BREAKING: LGBT rights, civil rights and climate change sections removed from White House website minutes after inauguration

Now what?

For the love of all that is good. 

Minutes after Donald Trump officially became president, the White House website changed. The “Issues” tab of the site used to have sections on LGBT rights, civil rights, and climate change. Those tabs are all gone. 

Here’s what replaced them:

The page that used to house the office of national AIDS policy is gone too.

I don’t know what to do. I can’t believe this is real. Oh my god, this is real. 

[gaywrites]

UPDATE: TechCrunch explained it in more detail. The archived LGBT rights materials from the Obama administration are still available, but clearly marked as archives. I’m speechless. 

[patrickgalantes-archived]

consent through fear is not consent

[r-grimes]

let’s repeat that again:

consent through fear is not consent

[platonic-suggestion]

And while we’re at it:

consent through guilt is not consent either

[davidalleynes]

other blogs: “this blog is a NO ship hate blog!!! I’ll ship anything and if i don’t, i don’t judge people based on their ships!!!” me: “y'all motherfuckers better get that nasty racist, homophobic, abusive, pedo shit away from me before i whip out the holy water and the crucifix and start exorcising the devil out your asses.”

[corflammarum]

someone: *is nice to me and doesn't seem to have any ulterior motives*

me: ....

me: ...

me: who's paying you

[techonlogy]

Me to my wife on our 25th wedding anniversary: so.. We’ve been hanging out a lot the past few years and.. Idk like….. What are we?

[halfagony-halfhope]