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Dating Someone With Borderline Personality Disorder
by Darian Rehder (someone who has BPD)Β Things to Understand:Β 1. TheirΒ moods change a lot. This is not your fault most of the time. They just feel a lot, and when theyβreΒ attached to someone it can make their feelings stronger. It doesnβt mean that they feel all those things about you all the time.Β
2. TheyΒ probably think youβre going to leave them about every day, sometimes more often. If they ask you if you still like them, itβs because they honestly donβt know if you still do. They need to hear it often.
3. If they get randomly angry in the middle of something that you donβt think needs that kind of response, it is usually because something has triggered them. Learn what triggers the person youβre with, so you can both work to prevent it.Β
4. Because they feel intense emotions, they also feel love and happiness at large proportions. This is great, because it means they really appreciate their relationships!Β
5. TheirΒ minds are often on the most emotionally simulating things in their lives, because emotions this strong are hard to ignore. This means youβre probably on their mind a lot.Β
6. TheyΒ do not want to hurt you, if they truly love you. Sometimes when they get angry or depressed or anxious they feel like they need to hurt you or run away or that they donβt love you. This isnβt true, and they often regret or donβt stand by their emotional breakdowns after awhile. Sometimes immediately.Β
Things You Can Do:
1. Validate their emotions. Never call them too emotional, needy, dramatic, intense, etc. even if they call themselves that.Β
2. Donβt make promises you canβt keep. Chances are, they really do hold onto your words.Β
3. If you are uncomfortable or need a break from them, which is okay, explain it in a way that makes them sure you arenβt going to leave and that you still love them or care about them.Β
4. Do something that makes them feel loved and cared for.
5. If theyβreΒ in the midst of some negative emotion, donβt say anything judgmental, donβt tell them what to do, and donβt fight with them. This would be a good time to say something reassuring and kind with no judgmental or controlling undertones. If this doesnβt work and it seems to be going in a loop, refer to number three or continue to tell them how important they are to you.Β
6. Remember that there are truths to everyone. Your person might feel like something is very sad, and it may not affect you at all. It doesnβt mean either of you are wrong to feel that way.Β
7. Spend lots of time with them! Spending time and using your actions is a good way to reassure someone of your love.Β
8. Learn what they love and learn what really upsets them. Itβs always good to know someone and work to avoid hurting them. They can do this for you too!Β
9. Donβt take things to heart. I know this is hard, but when someone with BPD has a breakdown, they often say things that they donβt truly stand by in the end. When they apologize, they often mean it with their whole heart.Β
10. NEVER ignore them, unless you absolutely have to. If you canβt talk or donβt want to talk, explain this to them instead of ignoring their messages. When you ignore them, they assume you are going to leave them or that something is wrong.Β
Reasons Why Being with Someone Who Has BPD is NOT Bad
1. Their intense emotions are biological, in most cases. Itβs the same thing as having less emotions. It is not a bad thing to feel deeply.Β
2. They, most likely, love you with all their heart. BPD people have the biggest hearts and really will work to do nice things for you and make you feel loved.Β
3. They are most likely loyal as hell, and will put a lot of time and energy into you.Β
4. Like any mental illness, BPD is something people do not want to have. This fact will help you remember that they are not deliberately trying to hurt you in any way and really do wish they didnβt have BPD. This is why they ARE NOT ABUSIVEΒ
5. All relationships need work. Communicating and working together can actually strengthen the bond you two have.Β
6. It can be helpful for someone with BPD to have a relationship so they can practice ways to manage their emotions and actions. Chances are, the longer youβre with them, the more comfortable they will be with you.Β
7. Theyβre always there for you too! All people with BPD that I know, including myself, are very good at talking about issues and helping others with problems. If you want to talk, you can count on them to give you all of their effort to help.Β
8. Imagine dating someone with no emotions. Thatβd be probably a lot harder! Appreciate the deepness of your personβs feelings. It can make life a lot easier!Β
9. If they are in a relationship with you, itβs probably because they want to be with you. Keep this in mind when they start feeling negatively.Β
10. Itβs a relationship! Thatβs always fun. It will have challenges like all relationships, but remembering that you are with someone you love will always make it easier.Β
-DarianΒ
reassurance isnβt the same when you have to ask for it.
βI hope you find someone who knows how to love you when you are sad.β
β Nikita Gill (via deceptivelips)
Falling back into a destructive mindset after being okay for a while is exhausting and upsetting.
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Same Mamrie, same
βI hope you find someone who knows how to love you when you are sad.β
β Nikita Gill (via deceptivelips)