Iām popping in from the void to report there is a 3% chance I will run into Best Lawyer at an event in a number of days, so if anyone has super-speedy-glow-up ideas or super-smooth-not-at-all-awkward conversation starters⦠Iām all ears.

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Iām popping in from the void to report there is a 3% chance I will run into Best Lawyer at an event in a number of days, so if anyone has super-speedy-glow-up ideas or super-smooth-not-at-all-awkward conversation starters⦠Iām all ears.
āMr. Palmer had a gentle curiosity that worked like sunlight on me; he asked questions and, beguilingly, listened to the answers. How rare is the man who does that. Perhaps it was a sign of my advancing years that I found such kindness attractive.ā
- A Net for Small Fishes, Lucy Jago
āIf we treated each moment as though it were a permanent condition, a place where we might find ourselves compelled to remain forever, how differently most of us would choose the things that moment contains! [ā¦] ā¦but it requires a great deal of discipline and a degree of puritanical cold-heartedness to live in that way.ā
- Rachel Cusk, Second Place
āSome of the most interesting writers could pass as bank managers, I said, while the wittiest raconteur could become dull once he had recognized the necessity of explaining his anecdotes piece by piece. Some people write simply because they donāt know how to live in the moment, I said, and have to reconstruct it and live in it afterwards.ā
- Rachel Cusk, Second Place
I figured out what one of my issues is with my new work structure.
Itās that the person accusing me of not following rules doesnāt yet know I am (or at least I see myself as) a massive rule-follower, and my struggle is just that the rules have suddenly changed.
Whatās coming across when they try to ask me to do something new is āwhy arenāt you doing this thing (the right way)ā and (maybe?) they mean that as āyouāre better than thisā or with genuine curiosity but I hear it as āyouāre lazyā
Whatās coming across when I try to explain myself is āno one made meā and I mean that as āI will do anything you make me do, that just wasnāt the rule beforeā and they hear it as āI will only do things Iām forced to doā
But are those even different things? All part of the same gooey people-pleasing control-needing marshmallow?
Basically I need to set my own boundaries and be strong in my own perspective and stop obsessing over what someone else does or thinks or says.
Today was hilarious and Iām tempted to start vague-blogging or whatever the tumblr equivalent would beā¦vague-tumbling? I feel like Iām living in an episode of The Office and it is making me alternate between laughing out loud, laughing under my breath, chuckling in my brain, and just wandering around mystified.
āTony has taught me that my habit of wanting to please people by saying that things are better than they are just creates disappointment, mine more than anyone elseās. Itās a form of control, as so much of generosity is.ā
ā Second Place, Rachel Cusk
Fear is a habit like any other, and habits kill what is essential in ourselves.
- Rachel Cusk, Second Place
I think often about how much time and energy we use thinking up things to say that would go over well with a context-collapsed crowdānot to mention checking back on how that crowd is responding. This is its own form of āresearch,ā and when I do it, it feels not only pathetic but like a waste of energy. What if we spent that energy instead on saying the right things to the right people (or person) at the right time? What if we spent less time shouting into the void and being washed over with shouting in returnāand more time talking in rooms to those for whom our words are intended?
- Jenny Odell, How to Do Nothing: Resisting the Attention Economy
Unlike the libertarian blank slate that appeals to outer space, or even the communes that sought to break with historical time, this āother worldā is not a rejection of the one we live in. Rather, it is a perfect image of this world when justice has been realized with and for everyone and everything that is already here. To stand apart is to look at the world (now) from the point of view of the world as it could be (the future), with all of the hope and sorrowful contemplation that this entails.
- Jenny Odell, How to Do Nothing: Resisting the Attention Economy
Iāve already written that the ādoing nothingā I propose is more than a weekend retreat. But that doesnāt mean I propose a permanent retreat either. Understanding the impossibility of a once-and-for-all exitāfor most of us, anywayāsets the stage for a different kind of retreat, or refusal-in-place [ā¦]. Hereās what I want to escape. To me, one of the most troubling ways social media has been used in recent years is to foment waves of hysteria and fear, both by news media and by users themselves. [ā¦] In my opinion, this kind of hyper-accelerated expression on social media is not exactly helpful (not to mention the huge amount of value it produces for Facebook). Itās not a form of communication driven by reflection and reason, but rather a reaction driven by fear and anger. Obviously these feelings are warranted, but their expression on social media so often feels like firecrackers setting off other firecrackers in a very small room that soon gets filled with smoke. [ā¦] In such a context, the need to periodically step away is more obvious than ever. Like the managerial employees who wandered away from their jobs, we absolutely require distance and time to be able to see the mechanisms we thoughtlessly submit to. More than that, as Iāve argued thus far, we need distance and time to be functional enough to do or think anything meaningful at all.
- Jenny Odell, How to Do Nothing: Resisting the Attention Economy
North Country, Mary Oliver//Holly Warburton
He was basically a Care Bear trapped in the body of an underwear model. I was confused by him for months. Why was he so bad at flirting? Why did he do the things he said he was going to? Why was he so damn happy all the time? What was I missing?
ā Fault Lines, Emily Itami
How can we encourage you enough that you will keep quoting from the books you read. Miss your more frequent postings but understand your world today needs more privacy...... Miss YOU.
Awww, sweet anon (from probably 2+ months ago)! I feel extremely encouraged and I am still keeping my list of quotes to post here! Iāll go ahead and add one right NOW.
And eh, arguably my world before needed just as much privacy and I was just less attuned to that need. Itās possible that my world today could even benefit from slightly less privacy. Devilās advocate.
Miss you too, whoever you are!
āFor me, the practice of putting pen to paper creates an alchemy hard to duplicate any other way.ā
- Jen Hatmaker, Fierce, Free, and Full of Fire
That is exactly the kind of Best Lawyer content I come here for. You know how to keep us on the edge of our seats!
Ha, itās my pleasure! That post is already a couple weeks old as Iām replying to this and sadly I have no new updates. But check back in 3-6 months or years and there will probably be at least one encounter between now and then.