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can lesbians be attracted to nb people?

YES AND THEY DO

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butch disaster anon - it was very gay! she wasn't toying with me! i'm very much in love! thank you for answering :')

Of course! I hope youre very happy togeter

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butch disaster anon - she doesn't want a relationship atm so i can't ask her out, but do you think she might maybe like me??? also i'm going round her house in a month or so and we're going to a theme park together is any of that,, g a y i really can't tell

It’s gay. If she doesnt want a relationship though, you should be careful that she’s not just toying with you ... ask her if theres any possibility of this becoming something in the future

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so uhhhh. i really like this (also wlw) girl and idk if she likes me back?? she calls me cute and attractive a lot and like. touches my face even though she said she doesn't like being touched,,, also she talks to me for hours about anything and pretty much forgets the rest of our friends lmao but like,, idk ?? we're going out for coffee at some point but i don't know if it's all just a friend thing yknow - a butch disaster

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I went abroad, and met an amazing girl. Unfortunately, she lives in another country from me. While I was there, we got intimate quickly (for both me and her). I know she had feelings for me then. It was a connection that I haven't felt in a long time. That was about a month ago. We text every day, ft every week, flirt sometimes and have talked about meeting half way in a few months. But its unclear if as friends or more. Idt she wants a LDR. I don't know how to ask "what are we" ADVICE PLEASE.

Ask her!! Another option is to present the situation as being together but not being exclusive, if that’s sometthing that youre both okay with. It’s sort of an in between situation between dating and not dating xx

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Hi. So I met a girl through my colleges incoming freshmam Facebook. And I really like her and I know she is bi. We have FaceTimed and have plans to go on pinics, go to spooky places and bookstores. I'm such a useless lesbian but I might ask her on a date to a café. But I'm afraid when i ask her it will come off that I want to go as friends.On another note I am making her jam and I'm going to give it to her when we finally hang out.

Say something like “i was wondering if you wanted to get coffee with me sometime ... ;)))” it sounds like you know what youre doing and that she’s into you though. Best of luck, love

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hello! i’ve heard many times the trope that we fall for our straight friends, but is it common to find a woman more attractive after the knowledge that she’s gay?

YES!!!!!!! Knowing that a woman is gay makes her like a thousand times more attractive in my opinion ... gay women have style and taste that’s kind of impossible to resist

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I think I’m lesbian because I’m only attracted to women but I don’t mind having intercourse with men as long as they don’t talk and I don’t have to look at them while it’s happening and i don’t know if that makes me bi or not

Youre a lesbian !! 💕

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I'm in love with my straight friend. Every time I see her I just get gayer and gayer. I've tried to distance myself from her but it seems impossible because we work together and she's so friendly and fun and how could I say no to going out together after work with that pretty face of hers? See my struggle! I don't know what to do anymore And to make it even worse I'm closeted lesbian since i come from a anti lgbtq+ community:) I need help. Serious help. *sobs*

Establish some boundaries with her and with yourself. Figure out how to take some real distance from her so you can heal and move on. I promise there is a gal out there for you! As for the closeted part, im super sorry youre in that community and i hope eventually you can find a group of people who will embrace who you are and who you love 💕

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I’ve decided that I want to come out to my friends this week (they are super supportive of the community and 2 of them are bi) but I’m a really private person so I don’t really talk about crushes and stuff to my friends (probably because i don’t like guys) and it feels super awkward just thinking about coming out to them. What do I do?

You can tell them casually, and if the the thought of telling them in person is too much then you can incorporate into a texting conversation. I personally came out to my mom by writing it on a sticky note, plain and simple, but you dont have to be so clear cut. Just be like “oh i think [insert random person here] is super cute and i would date her” or mention a past crush of yours or your future with a wife/partner. Dont overthink it and best of luck !! Im so proud of you xx

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I met this girl at a party and she’s bi and really cute and I got her snap and number, I want to ask her to the movies but idk how 😆 help plz idk how to start the conversation

“What are you doing this weekend?” “What kind of movies do you like?” “Would you wanna see a movie with me sometime soon?”

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tips on how to overcome the sense of loneliness as a lesbian woc?

Make lesbian friends, friends of color !! Join a club !! Reach out !! Take care of ur mental health !! Rest and relax !! Learn self care !! Xx

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i just met a girl on tinder, feeling instantly drawn to her. we had a good conversation, flirty but also got to know each other. today i saw that she had either unmatched me or deleted tinder. there was nothing in our conversation that would’ve or should’ve led to that so i am quite confused should i message on her facebook (we have a couple of mutual friends) and try again there or just leave it? i’ve never felt so drawn to someone without meeting them before! but don’t want to come off clingy

People delete dating apps for all sorts of reasons — mental health, they found another partner, they just werent into meeting people online anymore, etc. If you think you can find a way to talk to her respectfully and without being too pushy, esp if she has another s/o then go for it but be mindful!! Xx

[crabfemme]

At least you'll have a place to live. Till then get a hold of your relationship , make your partner realize that you are serious about them and willing to put efforts in this relationship. They'll understand. Firstly become independent then visit them. It may take some time , but it'll be worth it. Until then send them some gifts or video call , hell even gd mrng texts can be fine. Just try keeping the spark in your relationship. Spark is the key to long distance and long term gurl. ✨😊 [2]

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ldr gf advice Heyy , my situation is kinda same so I know under how much stress you are rn. I'll say don't rush into things. I have been wanting to came out to my parents so long cause it's the most important thing ever happened to me and I want them to support me. But wait , firstly try building a life for yourself. At least get a place to live and a source of income and then came out to them so even if they decide to disown you ( idk about you but my parents will definitely 😂😂 ) [1]

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2/2 ... 2. i am not out to my parents n they r very homophobic so coming out itself will be hard and then on top of that having to tell them its long distance. Like i cant just fuck off from this country to visit her i’ll need to tell them. She is so worth it but idk what to do :(( advice is really appreciated thank u <3 :(

If you are in danger of being harmed, i never advise coming out to your parents. However, i realize that seeing your gf is a top priority, and im not sure what to tell you. If anyone else has an opinion, mark it “ldr gf advice.” I think primarily your safety has to be the priority. If you can somehow put on hold ur relationship, maybe that would be wise. Im sorry though and this is truly a heartbreaking situation