I'm a crazy person who loves relationships from tv to books. Here I just post & repost about how each relationship is precious and special in their own way. Big ol' fan of Reylo!
adam driver loved ben solo so much that he teamed up with steven soderbergh to write a ben solo movie set after tros to the bring him back and complete the character's arc but it was turned down by disney and now that it's long dead he's telling us about it
if you’re wondering why spellcheck and grammar check is worse now, it’s because they replaced it with AI! 🥰
now, instead of maintaining a comprehensive, nuanced, and human-maintained encyclopedia by which to check your document, they have switched to an AI that just compares what you’ve written to what other people write in, say, Google Docs, and use the most commonly used iteration.
ever have it change something like “all intents and purposes” to “all intensive purposes” or “should’ve” to “should of”? that’s why!
people make the same spelling and grammar mistakes so often, AI thinks that’s the way you say it because it is a PATTERN DETECTOR and cannot THINK let alone use language.
name:
meaning of name:
nicknames/titles:
age:
gender:
location:
birthday:
strengths + example where it's shown:
weaknesses + example where it's shown:
how it affects others:
emotional depth
attachment style + how it manifests in the story:
physical fear:
emotional/abstract fear:
happy memory:
sad memory:
object of significance:
philosophical outlook/belief:
what characters are ignorant about themselves:
how confident are they:
goal:
long-term dreams:
what they're embarrassed/ashamed to tell others about:
regrets:
source of pride:
source of misery:
what they admire above all else:
do they believe in fate:
personality
mbti:
enneagram:
big five:
character archetype:
star sign:
who they pretend to be on the outside:
who they actually are/how they feel towards the mask:
mental health conditions:
how it manifests for them:
iq:
eq:
humour:
reputation:
habits
bad habits:
mannerisms when stressed:
mannerisms when content:
mannerisms when scared:
mannerisms normally:
verbal mannerisms/distinctive speaking style:
how do they move across a room:
what do they say and what remains unsaid:
how they express love:
hobbies:
appearance
defining features:
eye shape + colour:
hair texture + colour:
skin texture + tone:
vibe:
height:
build:
clothing:
any bodily disfigurement (scars, etc.):
overall attractiveness:
their opinion on their appearance:
appeals to:
relationships
who they trust most:
what they wish they could do for them:
what's holding them back:
who they hate most:
what they wish they could do to them:
what's holding them back:
relationship with the protagonist:
relationship with the antagonist:
siblings:
relationship with them:
parents/step-parents:
relationship with them:
previous broken relationships:
why did it break:
what others expect of them:
who believes in them:
their mentor character/who they look up to:
political/religious/other affiliations:
what makes them different from every other character:
non-human relationships + why:
romantic "type" + why:
relationship dynamics:
backstory/background
primary emotion towards their past:
primary feelings while in their past:
where did they grow up:
defining incidents:
earliest childhood memory:
saddest memory:
happiest memory:
major accomplishments:
their opinion on it:
notable people in their backstory:
effect on them today:
trauma:
what have they already lost:
financial circumstance:
progression
why are they important (eg. why're they the only one able to do something?):
what do they learn about themselves throughout the story:
what do they learn about the world:
how do they feel towards their newfound knowledge:
character arc (positive, negative, neutral):
how relationships change because of their actions:
what mistakes do they make:
what scene is their character highlighted:
do they get what they want:
why or why not:
what happens to them after the story ends:
Yay! Sophie Baek is finally here and with all of excitement of this casting, I think it’s also important to bring attention to the new intersectionality that comes with the character of Sophie (specifically show Sophie).
Why should you take my words into account? Well, as an Asian woman in society today, I feel that I am qualified to speak on this topic since I’ve experienced all of this.
All of my words come from kind intentions, and I purely just want to communicate to the fandom how to approach Sophie being Asian in a respectful way.
Asia is a gigantic continent filled with various countries that have a multitude of cultures and ethnicities. While on the surface they all seem similar, they each have their own customs and traditions that have meaning within our culture. Do not combine them.
It’s important to remember that not every Asian person is Chinese, Japanese or Korean (East asian).
With Sophie being Korean, please do not generalize when writing about what you think you know about Korean culture.
You like Kpop and Kdrama? Great! BUT that does not define what Korean culture is and you shouldn't use that content as a reference.
When writing, be aware of explicit and unconscious biases you have about Asian people.
Asian stereotypes (Model Minority, Dragon Lady, Lotus blossom, etc) are very harmful and spread false narratives about us. Stereotypes eliminate the dimensions of who we are as Asians (South, South East, East, North, West).
Please, please, please do not fetishize. Especially since Bridgerton is a romance series it's extremely important to be mindful of the scenarios you put in your fics.
This also includes the White Savior Complex we see a lot in media!
If you’re writing about something specific, research it and fully understand the content you are putting into your work. Feel a little iffy about if you should put it in your fic? Probably don’t then. It’s that easy!
It's always great to ask someone who is a part of the community as well to see if what you're writing about is appropriate or potentially offensive in any way.
Describing Sophie is something new as well. Be mindful on how you describe her and other Asian characters.
Let me be clear: descriptions like 'slanted eyes' or 'yellow skin' are harmful
Here are some great resources that go into further detail about specific things! Rather than me paraphrasing their words it's best to link the direct source. Even as a part of this community, these articles were a reminder of how I must keep myself in check as well!
Describing Asian Eyes
Some important tips on making/writing Asian OCs
writing east asian characters
The Depiction of Asian Characters - Book Edition
The Dragon Lady, the Lotus Blossom, and the Robot: Archetypes of Asian Women in Western Media
To wrap this up, I want to be clear that I’m not a professional on this topic, but as someone who has been affected by harmful portrayals in media, I feel compelled to share my perspective. My hope is to spread awareness and encourage others to be mindful of how they approach these subjects, especially if they may not be fully informed. It’s about showing respect, doing the necessary research, and recognizing the impact our words and content can have on real people and cultures. By staying educated and considerate, we can be more aware and thoughtful in our actions.
This part of Nicola’s interview needs to be spread and shown to the masses I’m begging !!
There are so many influences nowadays, whether that be social media specifically or your own social circle, that almost demand people have life figured out right after they graduate high school or University- that if you don’t have the dream job or major aspirations by your early twenties or even before you’re somehow already failing at life and unable to catch up- when that’s NOT. THE. CASE. AT. ALL. There’s no linear timeline to how life works and there’s no linear timeline for goals or aspirations either. Plans change, people change, circumstances change, all of the above can flip on a dime without notice, and that’s okay! There’s no rule book or all mighty guide that shares how you live life and ‘figure it out’ to a T, because everyone’s lives are different and directed towards whatever path they choose to direct it to. It’s okay to have plans and hopes and dreams, and it’s okay also to NOT have any of those things and to just simply exist in the life you’ve been given if you’re content to.
There’s no timeline for personal achievement or age limit for personal achievement, either.
The controversy surrounding the Reylo kiss in TROS is interesting because, in a way, both people who think it came out of nowhere and people who think it made complete sense within the characters narratives are kinda right.
The kiss makes sense when you consider their dynamic in TLJ, how Rey was willing to save Ben, how Ben went against his own master to save Rey, how he wanted her by his side and how despite of their different philosophies they still wanted to engage with one another because they understood each other on a deep level.
But the thing is, TROS goes above and beyond to try and make the audience forget TLJ ever happened. Which meant the movie going back on Rey's character growth and her connection with Kylo that was the starting point of her development in the previous movie. TROS already shoots itself in the foot by sidelining Ben, the most interesting and layered character of the ST, and then it gets worse by having Rey no longer be a character with conflicting feelings towards him. Most of the time their dynamic just looks like a typical hero x villain enmity where she views him as a regular bad guy that keeps getting in her way and that must be defeated.
So of course when the kiss happens, a lot of people including some reylos themselves, feel a bit confused and underwhelmed. Because if TROS had picked up where TLJ left off, the kiss would've been a natural step for their relationship. But no. TROS just ignores everything that happened in TLJ, regress Ben and Rey's dynamic to the hostility of TFA almost as if Rey had her memory of everything she'd been through with Ben in the previous movie wiped out, and then, in the end, have them kiss because they're aware Reylo is the most popular SW ship and they'll try very hard to appease everyone at once, antis and shippers alike. The kiss felt underwhelming even to some reylos because there was no build up in this movie, because most of the time the movie refuses to portray Ben and Rey as characters with romantic feelings for each other in fear of twitter "activists" yelling at them for unapologetically developing a romance between the villain and the heroine. It's good that the kiss happened because it validates Reylo as a romantic pairing in canon, but the circumstances in which it happened, just like everything else in this movie, are very disappointing.
Bras last longer if you let them air dry. Don’t put them in the dryer.
If you have a problem with frizzy hair, don’t dry your hair with a towel. It makes the frizzies worse. (I recently read an article that said to use a t-shirt? I brush mine out and let it air dry.)
Whites wash best in hot water. Everything else can be in cold - save on your electricity bill.
You can kill 99.9% of germs in a sponge by putting it in the dishwasher for a cycle or by microwaving it for 2 min (be sure to make the sponge damp before microwaving and to put a cup half full of water in with it and please DO NOT squeeze the sponge until it has cooled off)
Airing out your room/house and letting sunlight in every so often can decrease the number of household pests like silverfish and ants.
Black underwear is best during your period as stains are less likely to be visible.
To save money, put aside 10% of each paycheck into a savings account. It’ll add up.
Unless your hair has something on/in it (like grease or mud or something), using conditioner first can actually be the better choice. The conditioner holds in the good oils that help you hair look sleek and beautiful, which shampoo would otherwise wash away.
Speaking of shampoo - if you have long hair, washing just the bits that touch your scalp is generally enough. The rest of your hair gets cleaned with just the run off from your scalp.
If you put a tampon in and it’s uncomfortable/you can feel it, you didn’t do it quite right. A properly placed tampon is virtually unnoticeable by the wearer.
Apply deodorant/antiperspirant a couple hours in advance of when you need it. This gives the product the chance to block your sweat glands. Using deodorant just before going somewhere where you’ll sweat (this means walking outside for people in high humidity places) results in your sweat washing the deodorant off and starkly limiting its usefulness.
After running the dryer, use the dryer sheet from that load to brush out the lint catch - it gets everything off in a fraction of the time it’ll take you to get it clean with your bare hands. Paper towels also work well.
Wash your face everyday, or as often as possible. Forget which brand of cleanser is best. Just washing your face everyday will guarantee you clearer skin. And do you best not to pop pimples, as tempting as the urge may be.
Fold laundry asap after taking it from the dryer to avoid wrinkles. This may seem obvious for dress shirts and silly for things like t-shirts, but you’ll notice the difference even then once your shirts stop looking like unfolded paper balls.