Hello ! Can you tell me your advice on a trine pluto-lilith aspect on a synastry chart? The orb is at 2a, so do you think it is a tough one? (pluto is in scorpio and lilith is in cancer in this case)
Pluto/ Lilith Aspects in Synastry
Lilith is about our sexual power, where our feminine power lies [for a female]. Pluto is our deep subconscious. The dark parts of it. When this planet and this hypothetical point come together there is a deep subconscious sexual trigger that’s ignited. There will be themes of deep sexual transformation, obsession, sexual possessiveness, and profound spiritual/tantric realizations.
People with these two connecting in synastry will have a potent sexual attraction to each other. It can even be addictive. The sexual expression is extremely hard to conceal. The reason why is Lilith is wild and untamed and Pluto is scarier, darker, and the more sexual and obsessive part of us that runs in the background. Our hidden depths. The Pluto person will trigger this in Lilith and vice versa. However, often I’ve observed the Planet person be spellbound by Lilith. There will be power struggles though because Pluto is about control but remember in the folklore, Lilith refuses to submit. For men, Lilith in their chart is the woman they want but are afraid of. The one they lust agonizingly over but find forbidden for whatever reason.
Think Claude Frollo and Esmeralda in Victor Hugo’s Hunchback of Notre Dame.
This is the person that they have a strong attraction to but there is something scary about this woman. He wants to subdue and tame the Lilith partner but will struggle to do so. He fears the power and confidence. They want to own it. Break it. but some things just refuse to be broken. Most of the time when we see Lilith themes it can be traced back to the natal chart of one or both of the individuals involved [regardless of gender]. This aspect can keep people hooked to each other for a very long time even if the bond borders on the more unhealthier traits. There is just too much investment in each other. Pluto can see into Lilith's depths and Lilith is snug and comfortable with Pluto’s shadow. I mean, she’s a demon. His darkness is like drinking her favorite full-bodied glass of wine. The sex here can make the two downright drunk off each other. They will have an almost psychic link that allows them to know the others’ deepest and depraved thoughts without fear or inhibition. They have to physically be near each other. They have to be touching each other. If they aren’t able to fuck “merge”, they can even feel as though they’re experiencing symptoms of withdrawal. That is the addiction two powerhouses like Pluto and Lilith coming into contact will do to people. You’ll see this with the trine and sextile and conjunctions [you’ll need the sextile to go both ways to really feel it] and more dramatically but a dash of keying the car and fistfights with romantic rivals with the oppositions, Squares, sesquiquadrate's, etc.
1. In Water sign aspect
More emotional displays, things can get hysterical.
2. In Fire Sign Aspect
Passionate with ego and rage involved.
3. In Earth sign Aspect
Sensuous but deep issues of greed over each other and possessiveness over material things.
4. Air signs
Mental and logical faculties will be used to mentally invade each other, control each other, or torment each other. Lilith can bring these dark impulses out of Pluto in a way that makes Pluto feel safe. As safe as one can feel with Lilith anyway... With the harder aspects, obsession, over-analyzation, emotional manipulation, and jealousy can be triggered here to a more exorbitant degree. The two may not be able to let go. If they do, it can be difficult for them to remain on friendly terms because of the passion that existed. Breaking this tie almost never ends without a struggle. Let me give you another example. You remember that scene in Mr. and Mrs. Smith? Where Angelina Jolie’s character and Brad Pitt’s character go from duking it out with grenades in Guns, [smack dab in the middle of Suburbia no less], to having animalistic sex in the middle of their obliterated Foryer? Classic Pluto Lilith dynamic. Intense and hot aspect for sure, just make sure you have the emotional, mental, and physical stamina to keep up with it. Not for the faint.
