crispoet.

expecting mother. 6.10.2015 ♥ i am in everything, and everything is in me. i prefer to stumble with bare feet. learning discipline one day at a time.  

[crispoet]

I'm so glad that I've helped you, I feel like I was posting those things for a purpose now :) It's actually really sad how many guys are abusive, I've been in two abusive relationships but they were both very different one was physical and the most recent was emotional. I hope that you feel better now :) I know it can be hard, I still miss my abusive ex but I remember all the nasty things he did to me and it makes me so angry that people can get away with behaviour like that. I wish you the best

Thank you so much mama, I only followed like three blogs when I was following you and seeing those posts- something tells me it was someone looking out for me! leaving him is the hardest, and i miss parts of him too, but you're right- the one time i gave in and spoke to him since leaving, he reminded me all-too-well of what a hateful, cruel person he can be. at least i'm now able to recognize that my feelings are coming from a place of misdirection, and i can let them go. it's hard, but it is amazing the support that can be gotten from people like you!

i hope you and your babe are happy and healthy, i love following you.

[crispoet]

For the pacifiers

...you lost me. i'm sorry!

[crispoet]

Hugs*. I have no advice but you're not weak. It sounds like you've gone through a lot yet you still came out a kind and a caring person. I think that's strength. :) Take care!

Goodness, little messages like this can sometimes be that extra motivation I need in the morning.

Much love, anonfriend.

[crispoet]

Hey, it's the girl with the gang bf from fym... My boyfriend doesn't have that problem with the nightmares. He actually doesn't have them when he's with me. My mother went into a deep psychological explanation of why that's normal so I'm not worried he's lying or anything. Did your ex manage to get out or...? Any advice? I'm just always scared for him.

No. He didn't. And he never will. If he suffers from PTSD, I can't imagine your presence would make a difference during his sleep. I wish you the best, but I also am not sure if you're aware of the gravity of your situation, and you AND him should not be thinking of each other or your own problems anymore- YOU may decide you can live with your man being in a gang, and your man may decide he can live with it, but your baby is not choosing that life. Baby comes first, time to start making tough calls.

Just please be careful, be wise, and remember that it is easy to become dulled to these things- but that doesn't make them any less dangerous or risky than they really are. Is that a risk you're willing to take with your child?

[thedigimomsx]

Closest formulas to breast milk...? Levi won't latch, so we can't rely on breast feeding, and he's eating me out of house and home with pumping. I was previously getting anywhere from 5-7oz at a time and he was only eating 1-2oz every 2-3 hrs. Now he's eating 2-3oz every 2-3hrs and I'm only pumping 4-5oz per session. I'm barely having time for my supply to replenish and I'm getting less and less every pumping session because I'm doing it so often. In afraid switching to formula may be imminent.

CALLING ALL FORMULA MOMMIES!!!

I believe it’s not really the one closest to breast milk… but the one that your baby is going to react to best. I know some babies have sensitive tummies and take to certain formulas much better than others. So it may be trial and error until you find the best one for him.

-B

[crispoet]

I would love to know the best formulas, in case BF doesnt work out for me, too!

[inspiringfeed]

[thedigimomsx]

I'd like to go to aquanatal classes, but I'm really worried that everyone there is going to judge me. I'm 20 but I tend to look younger than that and I also have some pretty bad (2+ years old) self harming scars on my legs. Any advice?

I don’t have much experience on this one, so the best advice I can give you is to just go in with confidence and don’t let yourself worry what anyone else thinks. Focus on the class so you get the most out of it for yourself.

Any advice for this mama?

-E

[crispoet]

Hey mama! Im 20, look young, and have wicked gnarly scars on my legs from self harm- really, you can see them from a mile away.

Getting over it is really a matter of forgiving yourself, which sometimes isnt easy. I just decided i was sick of giving a shit, anyone who judges me for it isnt worth my time and saved me the effort, and accepted that they are a part of my body just like wrinkles and moles.

It is an armor! You survived. Thats amazing, dont think any less.

My long term plan is to get tattoos around or incorporating them, with a theme of strength, or faith.

For the short term, im not so sure. Most of mine are on my thighs, so i would say maybe a swim skirt! If they are below the knee, i am just not sure but ill try to think on it!

[crispoet]

I remembered something i like about myself again! I really like the way i look in red lipstick. I stopped wearing it for a long time, and now i am remembering how confident it makes me feel. I highly recommend trying it.

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[d-issolve]

If i got a dollar for every time i thought about you, i would start thinking about you

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Find Peace

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I’ll fix it

[thedigimomsx]

Is Baby Orajel (nighttime strength) safe for my 1 year old?

From what I can gather on Google, the night strength one is not suitable. This snippet below is from an older article but the information is still relevant - 

The FDA warned doctors, patients, and parents about the potential for a rare but deadly blood disorder associated with benzocaine.  Benzocaine is a drug found in many popular over the counter anesthetics and a drug that can result in a blood disorder known as methemoglobinemia.

While anyone can develop methemoglobinemia babies under age 2 have an elevated risk of developing the condition.  Benzocaine is found in popular teething remedies such as Baby Orajel and Anbesol.  The FDA is now warning that Orajel and Anbesol should not be used on children under age 2 unless directed by a physician.

Please consult your GP or healthcare provider for other options that will be suitable for your little one.

Mamas, what relief did you use for your little ones around the 1 year old age?

- C

[crispoet]

Omg! This is the stuff i need to be more informed about! Shit!

Does anyone know of a complete list of bad products, or a master list of good products, or both for this category?? It says in teething remedies, are there other products with benzocaine?

I feel so ingorant, ah!

[thedigimomsx]

My boyfriend is doing cocaine again and drinking pretty heavily. I'm seven months pregnant and he won't stop, even for his unborn child... Should I leave him and force him to clean up his act? Should I stay and hope he changes? HELP.

Doesn’t seem like an environment you should be in nor should your child be in. However you choose to go about it is up to you- but he needs to want to change for you both, you can’t force it. I would start giving him resources to help get him clean, etc. If he doesn’t utilize them, then I would leave and try to help from another household. Drugs and alcohol is not a good situation to be in, help him, don’t force him but leave if he doesn’t want to change.

But again, that’s just what I would do. This is all up to you and him babe. Good luck <3

-JM

[crispoet]

What you choose to do is of course up to you. But know that babies have much more sensitivity to environments and vibes, and your baby will be inherently affected by his behavior.

Abusing drugs and alcohol is unacceptable, this is coming from someone who has been on meth and has had an alcohol problem.

But i realized what it was: NOT ACCEPTABLE. FOR ANYONE. Not for me, not for my loved ones. I was clean and sober when i got pregnant, but my baby has been the biggest reason to not even occupy my brain space with those thoughts.

Also, note that these behaviors- if continued- have the tendency to escalate. You and your baby may not be safe.

I dont trust situations like these. I was with a man who was on heroin, i helped him through two relapses in under a year, despite personal losses he caused. When i was 4 months pregnant, he stole from me to get heroin again. That was my final straw.

He is out of the picture. No excuses. Grown men are responsible for their actions. Dont take this more lightly than it is.

I wish you the best mama, hopefully he isnt like my ex- but please be careful!

[samanthathebard]

Reblog if you think refusing to let your child transition is emotional abuse.

My parents refuse to even discuss transition and ignore the fact that I am trans because they doubt how major of a problem my dysphoria is.

[crispoet]

Don't ever hesitate. Reblog this. This should be in the tumblr laws. When you see it, REBLOG IT.

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Solidarity with survivors of multiple traumas. 

Solidarity with unstable survivors. 

Solidarity with survivors of multiple kinds of abuse, over long periods of time. 

Solidarity with survivors with complex narratives. 

Solidarity with quiet survivors. 

Solidarity with survivors who can’t find their voice, survivors who can’t express themselves well or at all or in the ways that make other comfortable. 

Solidarity with ‘bad’ survivors, survivors who can’t set an example.