Regarding the subs that you have, how many are you training in some type of chastity requirements? With local subs I guess you manage that by just holding keys, but for the remote ones do you use anything special. I know there are apps that can be used and Bluetooth padlocks that some Sirs use to remotely lock emergency keys by phone. And there's the low-tech numbered plastic locks. Since you're seem to be a pretty busy Dom I figured you had streamlined ways to keep subs chaste when you want.
I hold the keys to a few devices, but that’s rarely how I run chastity with most subs.
First: Devices are a pain. Most of the subs that want a device end up going through 3-5 devices before they find one that is wearable long-term. Generally, the smaller the fag’s dick, the easier it is to find a device, but penises and balls are weird shapes and finding the right fit is a marathon. As such, unless the are intensely interested in wearing a device I usually just forego it and let them be chaste on an honor system.
Second: Although I like the look of a caged nub, it’s not the end-all-be-all for me. I enjoy chastity in terms of the restraint, not necessarily the device. For me, it’s even hotter if I can just give the order of “do not touch yourself for X days”, and trust that my sub will maintain that.
The large majority of my subs are very obedient and honest. I’ve created a safe space where they can be honest about their service, so I can also trust them to do what I ask. Do they fuck up sometimes? Sure. But we work on it and move forward.
I get off on the control and connection. It’s hot for me to hear that the sub can’t touch his dick because it’s locked, and it’s equally hot for me to hear from the sub that he really wants to touch it but won’t because he wants to obey my order and prove himself.
Being a dom to many subs is… exhausting. And a bit of a juggle. Subs are grouped into two categories: “permanently locked” and “occasional chastity runs”. The permanently locked guys I don’t have to manage at all. They are super dedicated to their own chastity and manage it themselves. Chastity, to them, is like brushing teeth or combing hair. It’s nothing special, just a default they have. In fact, travel and doctor’s visits, where the device comes off, are more strange than them ever having to think about managing their own cages.
The “occasional chastity runs” are subs to whom I give chastity tasks for a specific reason. Maybe they are coming to visit and I want them worked up. Maybe it’s just for my enjoyment to see them “suffer” for a week or so. Maybe it’s a slow build to a climaxing wallet drain. Whatever it is, the chastity is a layer of control for a period of time to magnify whatever other BDSM headstuff we’re playing with. In those cases, device or not, I check in with them on a daily basis and see how their headspace is.
There’s one or two subs who I enjoy edging throughout their chastity. I have them make videos of them edging their dicks for 10-15 minutes, multiple times throughout the day, using their “fag mantra” to concentrate. It’s fun for everyone involved and it keeps their nuts extra churny and blue. Plus, it really ratchets up the headspace.
In general, if I can’t trust a sub to keep his hands off or stay locked up, then we’re probably not a good match. I don’t want to keep an excel spreadsheet of numbered locks or other nonsense. I want to give an order and expect it to be fulfilled. Just like every other aspect of my life. Subs are not supposed to be work. Like Balaga, they’re just for fun.
