How do I care for a ChiRe baby?
This is for all the new carers out there, or anyone needing some helpful hints on how to care for your ChiRe!
(Please keep in mind I am referring to the ChiRe to be cared for as âyourâ ChiRe to simply say you are the one caring for them, not in any way, shape or form that you personally own them, as they are their own individual and there is ABSOLUTELY no power exchange here in the ChiRe communityđ.)
So first thingâs first; what is your ChiRe like? How old do they regress to? What do they like to do when they regress(draw, prance around, play with toys, etc.)?Â
You should know these things about your ChiRe before you start to care for them. The most important thing is to talk to your ChiRe outside of regression and know what they expect, whatâs comfy for them, and other important information such as their regression age. If your ChiRe is always regressed, which I know some are, do your best at talking to them, nicely, and let them show you what they like. Itâs likely that if a ChiRe trusts you enough to allow you to be their carer, then they will comply and tell you exactly how to care for them!
So, I understand that all regressors and carers alike are all different people, and not everyone can follow a step-by-step rulebook on what to do.
However, thereâs very important guidelines that you as a carer, have the responsibility of knowing how to do.
Carers have different roles in a ChiRe babyâs life. Some may take on a parental role, some may be the ChiReâs datemate but care for them when they regress, some may be the ChiReâs best friend, family member, or platonic relationship. Whatever the means, you as a carer are responsible for that ChiRe you agree to care for.
So that in mind, itâs okay for you as a carer to have your doubts and your own needs. But, you have to be understanding that your ChiRe has certain needs that also must be met. A ChiRe can regress and with the promise of a carer, expect you to put them to bed, brush their teeth, and other simple things of that nature. But if you donât do those things, and a ChiRe expects you to, hereâs where a serious problem begins to unfold. If youâre not able to be there for your ChiRe, something must be worked out between you and said ChiRe thatâll make it so something seriously wrong does not begin growing. Your ChiRe could fall into depression, feeling as though they are being neglected, they could lack to take care of themselves as they are not being guided by their carer, and lack of self-care could lead to illness, eating disorders(if the ChiRe needs you to remind them to eat/fix them a meal), and so forth- I mean, you see where this is going, of course.
You might also be caring for a ChiRe with a mental illness. This is especially important, (not to say that all ChiReâs arenât important, because they are!), however most mentally ill ChiReâs require lots of extra special needs, that you must be willing to adhere to. If you agree to care for this ChiRe, you need to understand that this ChiRe is very, very tender and likely depends on you, and that isnât your or their fault. It can be a good thing for the both of you if you understand what your ChiRe needs and you are okay with this. Make sure you talk to your ChiRe, as stated before. If you fail to be there for your ChiRe and you allowed them to depend on you, very serious things could happen to that ChiRe.
No one would ever wish these harsh things on the person they love and care for, Other solutions may be- having more than one carer for that ChiRe, setting up alarms for that ChiRe, or, in some cases, the ChiRe can not be regressed while you are away. Whatever works for you and your ChiRe is how it should be- and remember, itâs always best to communicate and tell each other what you need from one another. Caring for someone else is an important and a serious matter, please do not take it lightly, in the end you could hurt someone very small, and end up hurting yourself too.
So, are you ready to care for a ChiRe? If you think you are not able to, itâs okay. Gently let that ChiRe know that you arenât stable enough to care for anyone else. Ultimately, you need to put yourself first before you take on the role of caring for someone else- you must care for yourself! But if you are ready, feel free to read on.
So now we know that you are able to care for a ChiRe- great! Iâm already super proud of you for taking on such a unique and important role in someoneâs precious life. Now, itâs up to you to make this a good experience for yourself and for your ChiRe! Iâm sure, depending on the ChiRe, that they will help you through all of this- so please donât think you are all alone. Your ChiRe loves and trusts you, and will likely understand your mistakes and help you to fix them. And please know itâs okay to make mistakes. However, if you make a mistake, donât give up on your ChiRe- they love you, and Iâm almost positive they forgive you and WILL help you!Â
So now what? Youâre ready to be a carer, you know your ChiRe and what they need, you feel confident and excited! Well Iâm so glad for you, welcome to being a carer!
One of the most important things you have to do is wait for your ChiRe to be ready and how much theyâd prefer you help them at first. Maybe they want you to watch how they regress first, and let themselves warm up to you. Or maybe theyâre shy and need your help regressing in front of you. Whatever the case, itâs time to put in your best effort. If you are figuring out exactly what to do while watching your ChiRe regress, it could actually help to take notes, as silly as it sounds, it may come in handy in the future.Â
You should plan a schedule for yourself to keep things from cluttering and clashing. Plan a time that your ChiRe agrees on when they should eat, play, nap if needed, spend certain amounts of time doing things they need, take their medicine if needed, when they should brush their teeth, get ready for bed, and sleep! Of course, you need to make sure your ChiRe is comfortable with you setting up a specific schedule. Some ChiReâs might prefer to keep their normal schedule, one you might have to conform to!Â
When everythingâs all set, you can ease into starting the schedule and helping them to regress. Itâll feel funny at first, but youâll soon start to see it is an honor to care for someone and very rewarding. (Hey, you might even get super cute drawings to put on the fridge!)Â
Youâll have lots of fun with your new ChiRe!Â
Aside from all the good times you and your ChiRe baby are going to have, there will be harder days for you, and especially for your ChiRe.
Suddenly your ChiRe is upset. You canât tell if itâs at you or something else. Perhaps the ChiRe baby wonât speak to you, is crying, or worse- having a panic attack.
I know this moment can be SUPER scary- and it may be hard for you to keep your own composure. But please, be patient. It can be a very tough life for someone who is regressed, and possibly mentally ill. The best thing you can do is be there for your ChiRe. This will allow them to trust you even more by showing them you will not leave them when they need you most.Â
But first and foremost, you must know if your ChiRe baby wants to be alone or truly needs your help. Still, whatever the case, you still need to be there for them. Even if they prefer to be alone, youâd still might want to remind them that youâre there- donât spam them- but make sure they know you care.
If you are with them in real life, and your ChiRe is comfortable with this, pull them into your arms and tell them you are there. Those are some of the most comforting words a baby whoâs sad could ever hear. Shush them, tell them itâs okay, rub their back if they are okay with that. Let them know that youâve got them.
If you arenât with your ChiRe in real life, you can still do just as much to be there for them. Perhaps in a Skype call, or messaging them constantly to tell them itâll be okay.Â
Try offering them their favorite toy, snack, or stuffie (or if online, telling them to get their favorite toy/snack/stuffie and asking them to show it to you and explain it to you), offering to take them to play somewhere, play a fun online game with them, or even watch a movie with them of their choice!Â
Maybe they need a relaxing bath with bubbles or a nice dinner, or even a nap.Â
Whatever you do to help them, please donât leave your ChiRe alone. They need your care in this, and just as much as theyâll brighten up your days- they need you for their darker days, too.Â
These times are always hard, but all bad things will soon pass and hopefully quicker with your help. Just remember, everyone has their own healing pace, but it always helps to have someone there who loves and cares for you.Â
Now things start to get tricky when itâs you thatâs having the rough day and not the ChiRe baby. You may be sick, or something happened and youâre really sad and you might not be able to care for your ChiRe all that well. Believe me, it could and most likely will happen- everybody has off days.
The best thing you can do is understand youâre still responsible for your ChiRe, and you have to communicate your problems to them so they can understand and help you to the best of their ability. Itâs a 50/50 effort, and even ChiRe babies must know that their carer canât handle too much all at once.
The worst thing you can do is pretend nothingâs wrong. Bottling things up is never good and neither is keeping something important from your ChiRe, who may be a very, very important person in your life. Communication is always key! Your ChiRe will understand. They may even be able to help you while regressing. They might bring a smile to your face by making silly faces, sending silly messages, drawing you a picture, and so on.Â
But remember itâs okay to have a bad day; for both sides. Always be there for one another, and everything should be okay.
Eating. Meals are always tough, but if your ChiRe requires your help, itâs best to know the diet they are on and how to maintain it.Â
Your ChiRe may not eat meat, or may eat too much of it- itâs time, if they are comfy with it, to help them adjust their diet if needed. Everyone should have at least 3 meals a day. If your ChiRe needs that help, sort out some meals for the next few days and keep them on a good schedule(one you can maintain as well as your own, of course.)
Make sure your ChiRe gets enough protein and enough veggies and all the vitamins they need. Donât force them to eat, but donât let them not eat either. Itâs very important for them to get all the nutrients they need to grow!
If youâre with them in real life, it might be a good thing to prepare their meals for them, as well as making them happy while doing it- like nuggets shaped as dinos, mac and cheese and sprinkle brownies for dessert! You donât want your ChiRe baby to get sick so make sure they eat as healthy as possible. Even if they donât like veggies, make sure to sneak some in their meals as much as possible!Â
If youâre not with them in real life, send them gentle reminders of what they should eat, how to make it if they need help, and guide them along. Maybe have the two of you eating around the same time!Â
If your ChiRe baby is vegan/vegetarian, try preparing them some veggie nuggets, veggie burgers, or other meals they may like and make sure they eat lots of fruit and veggies and take all their vitamins. Have them drink a milk alternative or juice. But most importantly for everyone, is make sure they have WATER!
Lots of people donât stay hydrated especially babies who canât really care for themselves when regressed. Itâs always a good idea to make sure your ChiRe baby has AT LEAST 11 cups of water a day- I know that sounds like a lot, but itâs VERY important! Encourage your ChiRe that water will help them grow strong and keep them feeling good!
Make sure you get the right amount of nutrients you need as well!!Â
Keeping your ChiRe baby entertained can be easy or hard depending on if youâre busy or not. This is why schedules are always important.
ChiReâs have lots of different things they like to do, especially when regressed. You have to make time for them to play, color, and learn. You should always be able to do these things with your ChiRe. However, if you have things to do like a job or schoolwork, giving your ChiRe certain things to do while you are away may be super helpful.Â
You could give your ChiRe some online games to play, some things to color or paint, or make sure they have a friend over or someone else to help keep them busy. While youâre with them, however, you should always try to spend time with them and keep them company- after all, you are their carer.
This part of the post wonât be very extensive, because I am not entirely sure what every single individual ChiRe is like! They all want to do different things, and it may also depend on the age they regress to. So of course, talk with your ChiRe about what they may like to do!Â
You should always make sure you have some time with your ChiRe. Not spending time with your ChiRe is very bad, as you already know Iâm sure- it can lead to super bad feelings on both sides!
So make sure you always spend consecutive time with your ChiRe- help them to read, count, have them color for you, watch movies, play games, and all sorts of other stuff you and your ChiRe like to do together!
And if you think youâre limited because youâre online, thatâs not true! Try video calling or voice calling, using sites like Rabb.it to watch stuff together, send each other pictures, and if you really like to, roleplay!
Roleplay can help with distance because you could say: Okay, time to brush! *picks you up and takes you to the bathroom to brush your teeth.*
Lots of people are familiar with this and it may seem silly, but itâs really helpful! It adds more to your words rather than simply saying âOkay, time to brush!â. It feels a lot more real and comforting, which is super duper important to someone who needs to be taken care of. However, itâs not a neccessity if you or your ChiRe donât like it- itâs simply helpful for some!
Your ChiRe should be one of the most important things in your life, so please, treat them like they are a priority. Leaving them entirely out of your life and life decisions is not good, and can be very damaging. Remember that you are taking care of someone. That is someoneâs whole life, please be a good experience for them, and for yourself.
Bed time- bed time is very important to me personally and is one of the most important times you can spend with your ChiRe baby. How they enter dreamland is so important and something every carer should be able to help their ChiRe baby with. Always make sure you read them a story, tuck them in with a kiss on the forehead, make sure theyâre super comfy and snuggle them! Itâs always the best time putting your ChiRe to bed!Â
If youâre with your ChiRe in real life, take them to a park and push them on the swing, take them shopping, or somewhere fun where they can play and be themself and still have time with you! Spend some good time with your ChiRe, and please donât leave them all alone!Â
Let me know if I need anything else here, I can always add to this! But I truly hope this is helpful to some!Â
As always, be safe and happy, and thank you for reading!~Â
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