Mila Guy's advice for her daughter
I'm pulling this Womensday theme through this month on the blog.
Last week I wrote a letter for my daughter where I gave her some advice. Advice, I would want to listen to and, hopefully, other ladies as well. I decided since we are eager to listen to other people's advice and since your pond of good-life-tips can never be too big, I asked some pretty spectacular women in my life to do the same.
I am such a fan of Mila Guy that I think, if I would ever come out and say I've got a liking for the ladies and that Mila Guy is the girl for me, no one would be shocked. As I have publicly announced my love and admiration for this lady, more than what seems appropriate.
We are so focussed on our own ideas, hopes and dreams. More driven to get to our own destination that we often forget that we have neighbours who are either right beside us, walking towards their own dotted spot on the life-achievement map. Or we have friends who have already been where we are heading to that we don't realize the impact they could have on us, or even what we could do for them.
We all look to Google, read the Joyce Meyer books on being better and then Youtube for more inspirational, preach content to help you with the situation you currently find yourself in, rather than just: phone a friend.
A lot of people's advice about changing the world is to start at home. I want to apply this to seeking advice on the how-to's of life as well.
My Dr Phil is right next to me, fighting the same battle I've had, but in a different way.
We all want to be successful and happy. Don't lie, I know you do. Your success and happiness might just look different than mine.
We often say: "Just keep to your own lane", "Don't worry about what others do or feel", and I completely agree but asking Mila for her advice for her daughter, gave me advice and even gave me a few ah-ha moments.
My dreams are still my own. I haven't turned into Mila Guy, and I know our roads differ but I am acknowledging her presence and her walk of life. She has value to add to mine.
We should focus on ourselves- yep- but not so that we loose the essence of community and how much cooler a cheerleading squad is that ends in an epic pyramid pose, than just one single person waving their lil' pom-pom.
So with AAALLLLL of that being said: here is another person's list of advice she would like to teach her daughter, that taught me a thing or ten.
I particularly liked nr 10.
Do unto others what you would want them to do to you.
Have fun. And just be happy. (It's quite a simple sentence, but I kind of like these simple things that seem so easy, butt hat we compliace. If you read that sentence, and your heart sorta gave a little thump, softened and dropped a little bit you understand the simple, easy, goodness of that).
Don't let what other people want, expect or think of you affect what you want to do. What makes you happy is your business.
Ask yourself the question: If I had to die right here and in this moment will I be happy? If the answer is NO, do something about it. You have that much power.
Trust and love others, no matter what, until they prove you wrong.
Find each moment and learn from others.
Love yourself- if you want to wear a lot of make up, because it makes you feel pretty, do it. If you only want to wear sweats, do it. Get to know yourself, what you like and what you don't. And DO that.
Be prepared to change because that is how you grow.
Mila Guy needs to be witnessed.
If you have some advice of your own- like I said: the pool of advice for life can never be too big- drop it in the comments below.
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