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[cynfulsimmer]

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[melien]

Some simple truths I learned about simblr (from my experience)

It is okay to start big projects like a legacy, a story, a challenge etc. But it’s also okay not to finish them for whatever reason you have, even if you just got bored of them. You don’t even have to make excuses or apologize for it - we are all people, and those who matter will understand. Be spontaneous and don’t make long-term plans if you feel like you can’t handle them - do whatever makes you happy right now.

I used to think I’m posting for fun, but I wasn’t, for this exact reason: I was starting a lot of things and was fixated on finishing everything. Instead of posting/doing what I wanted at the moment (and I have changes of heart pretty often, it’s hard for me to stick to one thing), I pressured myself to complete some stuff first (e.g. a certain legacy generation) simply not to leave it hanging, even if I wasn’t inspired for it anymore. I won’t even mention that editing/drafting/sharing it on your blog also takes plenty of energy, and I constantly felt the need to update my queue. It became more of an “god, I still have to finish this legacy and post it…” than “I want to play this legacy!”. This, among other things, led to a huge burnout that affected my ability to play and enjoy it properly, and it’s a shame because sims is supposed to be a hobby and not a chore.

Your followers really won’t die if you stop posting a certain save or pause your posting in general, even if they absolutely loved it. And you’re not obliged to finish it if you don’t want to - you won’t get a medal for, say, reaching gen 10 of the legacy or completing some challenge. Your mental well-being comes first.

Speaking of challenges, you don’t have to follow all of its rules. It’s your gameplay, you can adjust it however you like, and there’s no challenge police that will come and tell you that you failed. 

Listen to yourself. Sometimes you may have some ambitious idea that you want to bring to life, but ask yourself: realistically, how many of your resources will it take? Is it worth it, or maybe there can be an alternative, more relaxed thing that you can do? (e.g. less generations, a smaller story, time skips etc.)

It’s also okay to take breaks and play/post whenever you feel like it. I used to worry about people unfollowing while I’m not posting, but I started taking unfollows less seriously - it means these people are simply not your audience, and it’s okay. There will always be others.

POV based on a true story: you’re posting something and not really enjoying it, but you feel like your followers may be. But, chances are, they don’t even need it that much either, and you’re burning yourself out for no reason.

It may be hard, but try not to engage with anonymous hate or people who are provoking you. They are cowards hiding behind the screen without any consequences. As I learned, it will only make you feel worse to get involved into debates with them, because their purpose is to make you feel bad, not to listen to your point of view. Happy and confident people don’t go around spreading hate or accusations, so don’t let them tarnish your enjoyment.

No amount of stressing over notes, trying to follow popular trends and impress the public will ever replace genuine joy in doing what your heart wants and sharing it with those who care most. In the end, this is all that matters.

[prossims]

This really really motivated me to start posting again 💖

[cynfulsimmer]

hey, could anyone recommend sims/gaming discord servers that i could join? i won't be active much on tumblr bc i find it overwhelming.

[cynfulsimmer]

i'm working on a no-cc, diverse stardew valley expanded save file for sims 4 atm, and would really appreciate if there's anyone who would collab with me! it's a huge project as i'm not just doing the bachelors and bachelorettes, but also the non-marriageable townies, and extra characters from SVE, and their little backstories*. basically this save file is like the stardew valley base game plus the following mods:

stardew valley expanded

diverse stardew valley (diversifies the ethnicities of characters in the base game)

diverse stardew valley expanded (diversifies the ethnicities of characters added in the SVE mod)

rn i'm done making like 50% of the characters and working on builds to break up the monotony, so there's a lot of work to go. i hope this piques your interest!

*lore, canon and some fancanon but we can discuss this

[cynfulsimmer]

🌱☁️ the person that sent this to you wants you to have a beautiful day and to tell you, you’re beautiful and you’re worth it! send this to 10 other ppl when you get this message!! ☁️🌱

thank you purplesimmer455! i'm humbled to be in your list! you're beautiful too! and i hope you are having a beautiful weekend.

[cynfulsimmer]

CYN! I just wanted to thank you for your beautiful creations. I absolutely love the spyglass pose, it was so perfect for a scene I done! ♥️

oh gosh. i'm really sorry i missed this. thank you so much for your ask, cosmosim. and your story was amazing, too. may love and hope be with you <3

[cynfulsimmer]

Send this to 10 simblrs you want to know how much you love and appreciate their content!! 🤗

thank you for this ask and i'm humbled to be in your list :)

[cynfulsimmer]

You are doing amazing, keep at it and I hope something makes you smile today because you deserve it and the world 💕

thank you so much for this! your ask brightened up my day :)

hope you are having a great weekend!

[cynfulsimmer]

Harvey’s Apartment

[cynfulsimmer]

Harvey’s Clinic

[cynfulsimmer]

Settling into my new home.

[cynfulsimmer]

And that’s how another fragment of my “home” moved here, too.

It’s funny how he started off as a clingy roommate back at Britechester. Two years later and boy, how things have changed.

[cynfulsimmer]

Back in Senbamachi, Ada decided that she’s had enough of Jonas’s smoking and hogging over her singular outlet for chaos and destruction.

She’s kicking him out.

[cynfulsimmer]

I’m back where I started.

Yeah, I moved. I feel safer around Dayana and Freddy.

Also, Dayana’s son Reese is especially cute. I love him already.

[cynfulsimmer]

One last look at this place I called home.

[cynfulsimmer]

A house does not a home make; it’s the people in it. And for a while, I thought I had found my people. My tribe. My home.

Should I stay with what’s left of my “home”? Or should I go with the other half of it?

It’s a question akin to which half of your heart you’d rather keep.

[cynfulsimmer]

Freddy and Dayana eventually broke the news to me about their upcoming move. They also invited me to view their new home with them. And that’s how I ended back here, in the Spice District where I first woke up in this save file.

This place has changed quite a bit since I was last here. There’s a new community centre called The Space. But the people here are still the same familiar faces.

I felt sad about having to say goodbye to another set of friends, until my train of thoughts was derailed when they asked me if I wanted to join them here too. There were two vacant rooms for viewing. Dayana and Freddy were taking the one on the ground floor. I could have the attic.

It’s only accessible via ladder and there’s little insulation from the cold when winter comes, but the view from the window is facing the sea. It’s nice, but I’ll have to think it through.