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Emergency Self-Administered Aftercare

Written by Mistress Abode

July 16, 2019

There are lots of reasons you are checking out this emergency post…

Perhaps you are a sub who played real time with a Dom/me who was lousy at aftercare. Or you are a dominant or a switch who played with a sub who didn’t realize tops need aftercare as well. Perhaps you have an online Master who doesn’t think aftercare is required after online play – you on the other hand know from prior play experience that you need aftercare, and also sometimes experience subdrop. Or perhaps your normally supportive and experienced Mistress is unable to fulfill their usual “special time” due to unforseen real life commitments.

These emergency aftercare instructions are for all of you – and anyone else who finds themselves alone and depressed, lost and sad after play. They are relevant to both online and realtime situations.

IMPORTANT NOTE: These emergency aftercare instructions are to alieviate post BDSM play exhaustion and “drop” (encountered by many people in the kinky community). If you have had a really traumatic experience during play – or you find you continually sink into long periods of depression after play – you might need to take things further to a professional counsellor, doctor or healer.

DEPRESSED AFTER PLAY? LOST?

SAD AND IN TEARS FOR NO REASON?

“Everyone in this lifestyle who undertakes

any kind of exciting play, whether it be cyber based, physical, mental, or any combination of these can suffer from some form of sub drop”

(D/s seekers)

What you are experiencing is subdrop (or if you are a Dom/me top or dom drop). You can read more about it in the first and second posts in this series (or the third post, if you are a switch). Basically, you are coming down after play, and experiencing a physical reaction linked with changes in body chemicals.

Returning to normality can be a fast and painless experience (often an extremely pleasant experience). But now and then – especially after very intense play – things can get out of sinc and the effects can last for hours, or even days. You may find that you have your worst subdrop experiences after your most intense and wonderful play: what you are experiencing now is literally the fall (“drop’) to earth after extraordinary flight. The withdrawal (or “cold turkey”) after the intoxicating endorphin + adrenalin high of subspace.

Never forget: subdrop is a physical condition. It WILL pass. You can read Wikipedia’s description of the physiological processes here.

SO HOW DO WE DEAL WITH IT?

“I have tried to look for issues on subdrop from an online perspective, but have not found anything yet. “

We deal with this in whatever way works best for YOU. Aftercare is the recovery process at the end of a scene, a term which not only covers dealing with “drop” (if the play partners are experiencing it immediately post scene) but with post scene cleanup, treatment of injuries, and repletion of internal (physical, mental, and/or emotional) resources. Exhaustion is common, as a lot of energy is expended by both partners. But there is also often a need for reassurance, validation and comfort.

Usually aftercare – whether play has occurred real time or online – is provided by the Dom/me (however dominants also require aftercare – you can read about this in the second post in this series). In fact being with your dominant is an important aspect of aftercare because personal physical contact is commonly a part of a submissive’s aftercare requirements. However aftercare can also be provided by a third party – for example, a friend you have informed in advance that you might be needing post play aftercare support. You can read more about third party aftercare in Fetish Diva Midori’s article on aftercare.

Aftercare is still required – and can be very successful – when play partners are apart (for example if they have played online or had a scene via phone), but it does make things more difficult. Communication of each person’s needs and aftercare requirements becomes even more essential, and check ins (when a Dom/me checks in with a sub several times in the days after play) are mandatory for any responsible dominant. Despite this, even if they have received the best aftercare in the world, there is no-one as isolated and completely alone as a sub post play, after their dominant has left.

The fact you are reading this post means you haven’t received the aftercare you need, for whatever reason. So I’m going to start these emergency instructions at the point at which you have disconnected from your dominant online, or your Dom/me (for whatever reason, and possibly after having provided all the aftercare requirements you requested, possibly not) has left you alone in real time. Play (wonderful, high flying play) has finished and you are beginning to feel the first indications that you might crash hard this time. You have concluded your session with thanks and courtesy. You are alone. Its now time to begin your own aftercare rituals.

EMERGENCY AFTERCARE

Everyone’s aftercare requirements are different. You may have a pretty good idea of what you need in terms of aftercare requirements. But on the other hand you may not – you only really get to know what your body requires after you’ve played for a few times. You can read in the first post in this series about how you work out those requirements, and how best to communicate them to your play partner. For now, for those of you reading this for emergency help, here are some general aftercare ideas. You will know best which of these will help:

THE FIRST HALF HOUR…

* If you have played online – or if your real time dominant has not already helped with this – you might like to clean up a little. Wash your hands and face. Visit the loo. Change into spare, comfortable clothes (especially good idea if your injuries are bleeding). Tidy your hair. Don’t forget to take any regular medications.

* Treat your injuries. Clean any open wounds and keep an eye on them re infection. Do you want your marks to show, or not? Remember, how you treat your bruises, cuts etc will influence how you “mark”.

Need to make bruises disappear before heading home? Vitamin E and K cream or arnica gel rubbed on already existing bruises will help. If you see another one starting hop to it quickly and get some ice on it ASAP. For real emergencies find yourself some Heparinoid (LASONIL is one brand name). It improves the blood supply to the skin when applied as an ointment to reduce bruising and inflammation. If marks need to be avoided, a tube of this is worth keeping in your aftercare kit.

* Make sure during this initial recovery period you drink lots of water. Leave food for about 15 minutes but then eat something from your aftercare kit. No aftercare kit? Okay. Here are some of the food items listed as being helpful in the first post in this series:

1. cold fruit juice or high energy sports drink (as well as lots of water)

2. chocolate

3. dried fruit and nuts

4. biscuits

5. energy bar

6. fresh fruit

7. herbal tea / hot chocolate

* Usually one of the most common aspects of aftercare is TLC. Close contact between Dom/me and sub after play is very important. Subdrop issues apart, many subs want to be cuddled – touched gently after the extremes of play – and reassured as they come back down to reality. Aware that important touch is missing, online dominants will put extra effort into staying online afterwards, talking their sub down, or watching them carefully on cam.

For whatever reason, you are now alone and so you don’t have this support. Don’t worry, there are other things you can do. The most important of these is to make sure you are in a familiar environment where you can relax and heal. So:

* Are you home (if you have been playing online or via phone) or do you have to travel home? If the latter, how are you getting there? Are you okay to leave the premises? Have you come out of subspace properly? Try checking the size of your pupils in a bathroom mirror. Allow a good half hour or so – drink lots and have something to eat before you leave. Consider taking a taxi (or ringing a friend to pick you up and drive you home) if you still feel spaced out.

THE NEXT FEW HOURS…

Let’s assume you are now home. And you are not feeling too brilliant. Your emotions are all over the place, you can’t get warm, you feel dreadfully alone. What to do??

Get comfortable. Head for your most comfortable couch, change into your pyjamas and furry socks … relax, its time to put yourself first for a while and listen to what your body needs:

* Feeling freezing cold? You might have felt the same way after donating blood to the Red Cross, or having a body piercing. Or are you feeling way too hot? Endorphins and adrenalin are confusing your internal “thermostat”. So wrap up warmly. Or have a warm bath or shower – these will provide both warmth and comfort. Its definitely bubble bath time. If you are too hot, keep your fluid intake up (LOTS of water), move to a cooler part of the house, or perhaps outside if there is a breeze.

* Mostly “drop” is caused by your endorphin levels dropping too low after being raised during play (via application of pain). However some people experience too many rather than too few endorphins – if you feel your system needs to purge endorphins try stretching, a few minutes of yoga, or grab some bondage rope from your toy box and make a skipping rope. What you are trying to do is increase lymphatic flow. You’ll know the endorphins are decreasing when you become more aware of aches & pains throughout the body. Once your blood chemistry returns to a ‘normal’ level you will feel better

* Dommes and female subs: if your drop is unexpectedly severe, check where you are on your menstrual cycle. Subdrop symptoms are sometimes described by female subs as being similar to how they feel before a period (no concentration, irritable, weepy etc) while Dommes experience more “top drop” the week before their period (Miss Bonnie: “I drop at rapid speed, become all emotional and I’m the one that needs support after the scene ends”). If you are feeling especially lousy you may have accidentally hit yourself with a double dose of the hormonal blues – so do keep this in mind next time you plan a play date

* Keep drinking lots of water. Food is also important. You probably need more now than that snack you had from your aftercare kit. The goal is to stabilize your blood sugar levels, which might have spiked with sweet snack foods like chocolate and biscuits etc (and any other items you’ve “grazed” from your fridge since returning home. You now need meat, vegetables, etc but if cooking is completely beyond you, Sir Real suggests you prepare something like a cheese sandwich on whole grain bread.

Can’t even cope with making a sandwich? Try a glass of milk – being rich in calcium, potassium, and magnesium it’s particularly useful in fighting depression. No milk in the fridge? Try orange juice or an energy drink – anything with B vitamins will help lift your mood. Avoid soda!

* Many people recommend taking nutritional supplements in the days after play to reduce “drop” and promote healing. Sir Real suggests:

“B-Complex vitamins … folic acid … B6 and B12 to manufacture neurotransmitters, chemicals that control alertness and mood by speeding nerve signals through the brain. Vitamin C and the minerals magnesium, calcium, zinc, iron, manganese, and potassium all play a role in healing the body and fighting depression and moodiness”.

* What about natural remedies for lifting drop induced depression? Sir Real recommends adding:

“St John’s Wort to your regimen. This is a well known mild anti-depressant supplement that you can buy in any drugstore on the vitamin isle. Although it’s not as effective as prescription drugs for treating clinical depression, it can be effective for mild depression”.

* Not everyone wants to curl up in bed when dealing with “drop”. If exercise if what your body craves then go for it. Take a walk. Swim. A workout at the gym will quickly increase your endorphin levels.

* If you feel like being social, then absolutely follow your aftercare requirements and go out with friends, see a movie, have fun – but don’t overdo it. Immediately post scene it would be a good idea to avoid alcohol and recreational drugs as these deplete vitamins and stuff your blood sugar levels around. The amount of body chemicals your system is dealing with post play, I promise you will achieve a natural social interaction high on fruit juice and energy drinks alone lol.

* Prefer your aftercare alone, and still feeling down? You might like to head for bed – apart from the fact many of us associate bed with comfort, security and warmth, sleep will help alleviate feelings of depression. Or try meditating. No experience? Not a problem – try this 30 minute step by step guide to practicing stress management meditation.

* Of course many of these ideas revolve around the concept that you have the option to be alone. But what if you have to cope with “drop” and a real life that involves everything but peace and quiet. Its impossible to put yourself first when you have a family to feed, and real life commitments that can’t be put off.

The lesson to learn from this is that now you know you may experience drop, you need to make allowances for it in real life. Make sure you get home BEFORE the after school hordes, so that you can take time to relax and refocus, to re-centre yourself. If thats impossible this time, then there’s nothing for it but to turn on your autopilot and get through your day – try these practical tension reducing ideas for a little relief. Your own time for aftercare comes when your household is asleep.

* An important part of any aftercare ritual is mutual reassurance and validation . Don’t ignore this side of things because you are on your own. Affirm gratitude to your body for its submission / tolerance for pain. Admire your marks (take some photos). Remind yourself how well you did during play, of the kind words your dominant had for you, how pleased they were with you, how proud. Speaking of your Dom/me...

Written by Mistress Abode There are lots of reasons you are checking out this emergency post… Perhaps you are a sub who played real time wit

The article is long it goes on to list....

*Missing your Dom/Me badly? Feeling abandoned?

*What can you do if you simply can’t reach your Dom/me, for whatever reason?

*Don't want to be alone?

*Still feeling fragile /down the next day?

*Day 2 and still not 100%?

*Words from other's that might help.

*How do you avoid this feeling in the future?

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I take no credit for this article, I was browsing last night and came across it. It's a fountain of information too good not to pass along. Especially considering the asks from anons a lot of yall receive from people not receiving aftercare.

To those new to the scene:

It is my opinion and that of every legitimate Dom and Sub I know that aftercare is essential, Id personally say its a requirement.

Just a thought-

If you aren't giving/receiving aftercare you need to take a hard look at your dynamic, do some independent research and get advice from those with experience in the lifestyle.

@texasbikerdom49 @firefairy76 @babygirl-1972 @magpie-69 @heartshapedbruises777 @delightfulsubgirl @daddysbrattygirly @delightfulsynergy2 @reflectedtruthsblog @the-mindful-kitten @hecallsmeharper @itsshinycollectordestinyworld @daddyandhislittleprincess11102 @defiantslv @wickedlysexy121 @instructor144 @dinodaddy @i-am-norasaurus @thecomicbookj @i-am-dubs @droppinby @alythedisobedient

daddybrad80

A common question that comes up when you want to explore BDSM or D/s when you have children or family living with you is how can you do that and not get caught or raise a few eyebrows. Trust me there are ways to be subtle and fly under the radar of prying eyes and nosy neighbors. This is a compilation of essays from Submissive Guide that will hopefully give you some ideas and inspiration to get you started on your own path to discovery with your partner and ways you can take precautions from unplanned discovery!

I've also included a list of resources from other sites and media so you can continue your learning. You'll find it at the bottom of the report.

What's Inside?

🖤Living with Kids While in the D/s Lifestyle ---By Christian

🖤D/s With Family Around

By Mistress Steel

🖤And Along Came Baby: Submission and Parenting

By Malak Briar-Rose

🖤How to Deal with the Question of Being a Parent and Being Kinky

By Kayla Lords

🖤BDSM When the Walls Have Ears 5 Strategies for D/s Play with Kids Around and These Aren't Your Toys! ---By Moonlight

🖤When Kids Find Your Sex Toys

By Kaya

This is a subject that I feel doesn't get touched on enough so when I ran across it I knew I had to share it with y'all. There is a free e-book on the subject when you click on the link. Usually I'd post all info here but it's too long at 24 pages. It's free and you can download it with kindle, pdf or I downloaded mine onto the memo app that came on my phone.

*I take zero credit for any writing above the final paragraph.

Daddy - - @texasbikerdom49

@firefairy76 @babygirl-1972 @magpie-69 @heartshapedbruises777 @delightfulsubgirl @itsshinycollectordestinyworld @daddysbrattygirly @defiantslv @wickedlysexy121 @the-mindful-kitten @reflectedtruthsblog @daddyandhislittleprincess11102 @instructor144 @dinodaddy @i-am-norasaurus @thecomicbookj @i-am-dubs @alythedisobedient @louwho614 @youngkinkyandwild @widthofmytongue @goodhotwife

texasbikerdom49

Nice find Kitten, I agree it should be discussed more. A lot more.

😂😂

onelittlekingdom

This Tumblr "dom" has multiple accounts pretending he's different girls. I messaged him about it and he blocked me...

@your-fuckked-up-dad-volume14

These are all him:

@ickybunny2

@dadsbrokendolly50

@dadsgrossdolly24

@babyxcumwhorexxxx

Say hello to the bad guy. I guess “#masculine energy” when he’s not pretending to be a teenage female acolyte of himself. Thanks for the heads up here Anon.

Update 4/15: He killed the first two fake girl acolyte blogs.

onelittlekingdom

May 2023

Now at @your-fuccked-up-dad-volume16

onelittlekingdom

July 2023

Now at @your-fuccked-up-dad-volume26

daddybrad80

July 2023

I have no problem putting fuckery on blast.

babygirl-1972

Good morning Friends! Thursday is here. The week is almost over. So that means… BOOPS.. let’s boop today! Boop your mutuals! TAG TAG TAG! Make it fun! Start the day with a boop boop boop! I will start! Have a great day! @thelairofthedragon2 @hoke53 @dyverman @masternerd @beast4mynx2 @cptnmorgantoday @daddyandhislittleprincess11102 @mr-arcturus @wolfie2526 @lonewolfromtexas35 @oldgraywolf68-2 @ventraman @sir-daddys-fun-house-returns @belfast62 @magpie-69 @wickedlyredculrs @wickedlysexy1212 @kittysparkles22 @elizabethgraves @ysl123 @virgomomoftwo @loveletters2thedead @daddysbrattygirly @rosszulorzott @tall-little-kitten @texasred43 @daddybrad80 @alearningsubmissive @yoursubmissive46 @docileyieldingobedientlovingsoul @delightedobserverintraining @subwithsass @fullofdelight @shortietravels @thepeculiarsub @angeliqueshadows @charter-oak-leather @darling-babs @alibabe48 @dombruce2016 @redheaded-girlygirl @purplebutchdddy @just-a-girl-72 @thebronxchick @invisible-ginger @icrimsonium @kyhrny

daddybrad80

Have a good day @babygirl-1972

babygirl-1972

Updated Links for my Original Writing

Erotica

HELEN

https://babygirl-1972.tumblr.com/post/182324979789/helen-part-one

https://babygirl-1972.tumblr.com/post/182325048894/helen-goes-to-a-medical-conference

https://babygirl-1972.tumblr.com/post/182325098369/helen-goes-to-a-medical-conference-part-2

https://babygirl-1972.tumblr.com/post/182325149164/helen-goes-to-a-medical-conference-part-3

https://babygirl-1972.tumblr.com/post/182325186984/helen-goes-to-medical-conference-part-4

https://babygirl-1972.tumblr.com/post/182325219614/helen-goes-to-a-medical-conference-part-5

https://babygirl-1972.tumblr.com/post/182325253049/helen-goes-to-a-medical-conference-part-6

https://babygirl-1972.tumblr.com/post/182325290099/helen-goes-to-a-medical-conference-part-7

https://babygirl-1972.tumblr.com/post/182325327619/helen-goes-to-a-medical-conference-part-8

Princess Meets Papi

The Princess and papi meet stories will be linked together. There are several chapters. These are my personal original writings. MicheG

Part 1 https://babygirl-1972.tumblr.com/post/182307060724/princess-and-papi-meet-part-1

part 2: https://babygirl-1972.tumblr.com/post/182307107439/princess-and-papi-meet-part-2

part 3: https://babygirl-1972.tumblr.com/post/182307160939/princess-and-papi-meet-part-3

part 4&5 : https://babygirl-1972.tumblr.com/post/182307206724/princess-and-papi-meet-part-4-and-5

https://babygirl-1972.tumblr.com/post/182307252499/princess-and-papi-meet-part-6

https://babygirl-1972.tumblr.com/post/182307286919/princess-and-papi-meet-part-7

https://babygirl-1972.tumblr.com/post/182307346534/princess-is-released

Princess, Papi and Daddy

https://babygirl-1972.tumblr.com/post/182306546989/brothers-share-their-princess

https://babygirl-1972.tumblr.com/post/182306625959/daddy-and-papi-enjoy-their-princess

https://babygirl-1972.tumblr.com/post/182306770389/training-of-babygirl-begins

https://babygirl-1972.tumblr.com/post/182306838039/princess-is-given-much-pleasure

https://babygirl-1972.tumblr.com/post/182306896689/princess-awakes

https://babygirl-1972.tumblr.com/post/182306976729/princess-is-cared-for

Sir and Little One

https://babygirl-1972.tumblr.com/post/182282260784/a-memorable-day-at-the-library

https://babygirl-1972.tumblr.com/post/182282232739/sir-and-little-one-the-library-part-2

https://babygirl-1972.tumblr.com/post/182281121134/sir-and-little-on-the-day-in-the-library-part

Original Thoughts

What is Dominance and Submission?

https://babygirl-1972.tumblr.com/post/182311232249/what-is-dominance-and-submission

For Better or worse…not just in marriage

https://babygirl-1972.tumblr.com/post/182947250119/for-better-or-worsenot-just-for-marriage

Misconceptions of a Dominant

https://babygirl-1972.tumblr.com/post/183253065654/misconceptions-of-a-dominant

Released- Growth of a Submissive

https://babygirl-1972.tumblr.com/post/183757352769/releasedgrowth-of-a-submissive

When appropriate…rules, tasks and the submissive

https://babygirl-1972.tumblr.com/post/184259227669/when-appropriaterules-tasks-and-the

When appropriate 2…rules, tasks and the submissive

https://babygirl-1972.tumblr.com/post/184282566264/when-appropriate-pt-2-rules-tasks-and-the

The misconceptions of a submissive, pt 1

https://babygirl-1972.tumblr.com/post/184329243749/the-misconceptions-of-a-submissive-pt-1

The misconceptions of a submissive, pt 2

https://babygirl-1972.tumblr.com/post/184353164769/misconceptions-of-a-submissive-part-2

Be grateful not hateful

https://babygirl-1972.tumblr.com/post/184791628774/shadesbe-grateful-not-hateful

Punish to Punish is abuse

https://babygirl-1972.tumblr.com/post/184883081939/punishment-for-punishments-sake-a

Self Maintenance

https://babygirl-1972.tumblr.com/post/185025312419/self-maintenance-a-submissives-personal-ritual

Empowerment

https://babygirl-1972.tumblr.com/post/187200290539/empowerment

Labels

https://babygirl-1972.tumblr.com/post/187245844154/labelsa-perspective

Build your own box

https://babygirl-1972.tumblr.com/post/187675236999/build-your-own-box

Safewords

https://babygirl-1972.tumblr.com/post/188549591259/safeword-a-submissives-perspective

Poetry and Prose

https://babygirl-1972.tumblr.com/post/184023681634/in-your-arms

https://babygirl-1972.tumblr.com/post/184023760819/miss-you

https://babygirl-1972.tumblr.com/post/184045352199/claim-me

https://babygirl-1972.tumblr.com/post/184045427809/yours

https://babygirl-1972.tumblr.com/post/184023806469/kiss-me?is_related_post=1

https://babygirl-1972.tumblr.com/post/186060968999/i-am-free?is_related_post=1

https://babygirl-1972.tumblr.com/post/186060816989/freedom?is_related_post=1

https://babygirl-1972.tumblr.com/post/186061238444/bound?is_related_post=1

https://babygirl-1972.tumblr.com/post/172314192144/my-tree-of-life

https://babygirl-1972.tumblr.com/post/185530198659/trust

https://babygirl-1972.tumblr.com/post/185529306999/part-of-me

https://babygirl-1972.tumblr.com/post/185165776509/touch

https://babygirl-1972.tumblr.com/post/186061165659/your-presence

https://babygirl-1972.tumblr.com/post/186473212229/anchor-of-my-soul

𝕭𝖗𝖆𝖒 𝕾𝖙𝖔𝖐𝖊𝖗'𝖘 𝕯𝖗𝖆𝖈𝖚𝖑𝖆

#bramstokersdracula #Lucy Westenra #wolf #Dracula #Bram Stoker

dominantlife

Updated Library For Kinksters

I completed some major changes to the Library For Kinksters. Here is the update…

Aftercare

Aftercare 101

Aftercare For Dominants

Coping With Emotional Subdrop

Dom Drop

How To Make A Sub Drop Kit

Online Aftercare

sub/Dom Space, sub/Dom Drop and Aftercare

Subdrop and Aftercare

Subspace and Aftercare

Consent

Consent & BDSM

Guide to Consent

Doms, Daddies & Masters

7 Fundamental Characteristics of A Daddy Dom

12 Characteristics Of An Ideal Submissive

25 Things Daddies Should Do For Their Littles

30 Rules For A Modern Gentleman

45 Things A Girl Wants, But Won’t Ask For

50 Rules for Daddies

100 Sweet Things You Can Do For Your Princess

101 Things To Do To Make Your Slave Feel Owned (loved)

Alternative Names For “Daddy”

Alternative Domme Titles

Aspects Of Control

Asserting Ownership - Rules

Daddy Up!

Defining A Daddy Dom

Dominants Need Training Also

Fun Tasks Daddies Can Give Their Littles

Help For New Doms

How (and Why) To Go Down On Your Submissive

How To Be A Good Dominant

How to Find a Submissive

Knowing when to be a Dom and when to be her Man

New to DDLG - A Daddy Dom

Observations On Doms By A Submissive

So you want to be a Dom?

So Your Girlfriend Wants You To Dominate her

Some Little Rules All Daddies Should Know

The Dom Commandments

Things for Daddies to Keep in Mind

What Being A Dom Is About - A Submissive’s Perspective

What does the title Daddy mean?

What is a Daddy Dom?

What is a Daddy Dom Mentor?

What It Means To Be A Dominant

What Makes A Good Dominant

Littles, Subs & Slaves

6 Questions Every Submissive Needs To Ask Her Potential Dominant

7 Common Types of Submissives

10 Tips For Living With A Sadist

10 Things A Dominant Needs From A Submissive

11 Red Flags Of An Abusive Dominant

26 Baby Girl Jobs

50 Things You Can Do For Your Daddy

A Bottom’s Responsibility

A Dominant’s Advice To His Submissive

A Man Who Knows You…

A Good Dom vs. A Bad Dom

Acid Test For Subs

Ask A Million And One Questions

Attraction to DD/lg: A Little’s Perspective

Baby girl or little? A brief introduction

Care and feeding of Daddies

Characteristics Of A Good Daddy

Coaxing The Daddy Dom Out Of Your Partner

Feminist Submissive

Finding Your Dominant

Good Rules For Middles and Littles To Live By

Guide For Young Newbie Sub Girls

How a Dom Behaves Shows How He Will Behave Towards You.

“How do I find Daddy?” A guide to help you safely find the Daddy you’re looking for.

How Does A Submissive Ask for Something from Their Dominant?

How To Find A Dom

How to Take Proper Care of Your Dom

I Solemnly Swear I Will Not Do This To Daddy

Novice Submissives

Physical abuse of littles - it is never OK

Signs Of A Fake ‘Dominant’

Stuff no one tells you about submission, until the spreader bar is on and you are trapped.

Submissives, Learning to Trust Your Instincts

Submissive Pride

Submissive Traits - Intelligence

Things My Dream Daddy Would Say To Me

What is a Little?

When newbie subs, with asinine “doms,” need to run away.

Why I call him Daddy

Your Rights As A Submissive

Long Distance Relationships

10 Ways To Survive A Long Distance Relationship

Getting The Most Out Of A Long Distance Relationship

How To Make Long Distance Relationships Work

Long Distance Relationships - Tools To Cope

Long Distance Relationships (LDR) Contemplation: Sticking with plans

The Long Distance D/s Relationship

Mental Health

BDSM practitioners ‘healthier and less neurotic’ than ‘vanilla’ peers

Body image & BDSM

How to Get Over Feeling Sad

Is BDSM normal?

Love your Vulva – a self-esteem guide to your sensitive bits!

Managing bipolar disorder in a D/S relationship

Meditation And Mindfulness

On Cutting

Steps For Letting Go of Painful Memories

Things to Do When You’re Anxious, Scared, or Just Need a Distraction

Tips for Recovering from Codependency

What Are Anxiety Disorders? (Infographic)

Why Do I Feel Unloveable?

Relationships

10 Habits of Happy Couples

10 Top Communication Mistakes

10 Types of Emotional Manipulators

12 Relationship Truths We Often Forget

50 Best Ways To Say “I Love You”

BDSM Breakups: All Good Things Must Come to an End

BDSM: Control Goes Both Ways

Collars and Collaring - A Personal Perspective

Communication Is Key

Concept Daddy Dom/Little Girl Relationships

Daddy Doms and their little girls

Daddy Doms, Baby Girls, Little Boys And More

Date Night In A Jar

DD/lg In Public

D/s and Domestication

Factors That Make A Relationship

Finding Love When You Least Expect It

Finding Others with Common (Adult) Interests

How To Be Present In Your Relationships

How To Build A Healthy Relationship

How To Get What You Want In A Relationship

How To Know When You’ve Found “The One”

How To Take Your Relationship To The Next Level

Importance Of Confidence In RelationshipsImportance Of Trust In A Relationship

Key Ingredients of a Happy and Healthy Relationship

Needy Girls Are Daddy Dom Bait

Relationship Advice To Follow, And What To Ignore

Searching for a D/s partner?

Self-Fulfilling Prophecies In Relationships

Stop Arguments Before They Start

The Rewards of a Submissive

Types Of Relationship Insecurity

Well-Balanced Power Exchange Relationship

What Is Real Love?

When He Doesn’t Call

Why Love Makes A Night Of Kink Even Better

Safety

Another life ruined because of the morality police

Bondage Basic Safety: Crops, Paddles & Bondage!

Kinks, Risks, How To And Why Sometimes You Shouldn’t

Limits in BDSM

What is Emotional Abuse?

Self Improvement

10 Tips for Creating a Happier Life

10 Steps To Self Care

10 Ways To Be Happy

10 Truths To Live By

Guaranteed Ways To Be More Attractive

How to be Yourself

How To Deal With Your Enemies

How To Ignore Haters

How to Recognize a Toxic Friend

How to Stop Being a People Pleaser

Slut Shaming Explained

Tips for Healing a Broken Heart

What are the Signs of a Jealous Friend?

Sex

50 Cunnilingus Tips from Women

Basics of Breath Play

D/s or Kinky Sex?

Fetishes Explained

How To Make A Girl Squirt

How To Tell Your Son About Sex

Intersection of BDSM and Queer Heterosexuality

Sensual Biting

Sex: Myths & Stereotypes

Sex: Practical Details

Sex: Pregnancy and Birth Control

So You Want To Try Anal? A Practical Guide For Women

Squirting Educational Video

Squirting Notes

Toys

Advice on Dildos and Buttplugs

BDSM on a budget

Bondage Rope: How To Choose Yours (And More)

Training

10 Considerations for Inexperienced Subs

30 Things You Can Do For Your Human Kitten

40 Very Important DD/lg Facts

Age Play: A Short Guide

BDSM for Beginners: Safe and Affordable Play

DEFINED: SSC (Safe, Sane & Consensual) & RACK (Risk Aware Consensual Kink)

Etiquette in BDSM Part 1

Etiquette in BDSM Part 2

Exploring the D/s Lifestyle: Part 1 - Beginnings

Exploring the D/s Lifestyle: Part 2 - The Dominant Mind

Glossary of BDSM Terms

Guide To Blood Play

Guide To Bruising

Guide To Talking Dirty

Guide To Wax Play

How Do I Get Started In BDSM?

How to Make a Blanket Fort/Cuddle Nest

How To Make A Comfort Box

Introduction To BDSM

Newbie’s Guide To Vaginal Fisting

Punishments in BDSM Relationships

Red Flags For Online BDSM Relationships

Some Thoughts On Rules

The Leash Has Two Ends - Responsibility

The Need For Rules and Discipline

Topping from the bottom

uddermasterr

Worth a reblog

artofbondage

Huge link of lifestyle articles.

daddybrad80

If I ever stop reblogging this assume I have fallen off the earth.

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Omg you’ve been horribly abused in some of your pictures. Especially the one where your behind is a bloody mess. You deserve so much more. I understand this is a fetish, but wow, that broke my heart to see someone hurt another so badly. I can’t imagine how painful that must have been for you not just during it, but for days or even weeks later. Hope you realize how beautiful you are and that you deserve so much better than these type of sex fetishes.💕

I’m going to list 3 types of people:

* Vanilla people who just see abuse

* 50 shades groupies who see a bit of spanking as fun, but anything more is abuse

* Masochists

Now I’m unsure if you are the first or the second example. The fact you’ve stumbled across my blog makes me think you’re the second, but who knows.

I am the third. I am a masochist, and I am a submissive.

Do I need to explain what a masochist is? I enjoy pain. I ADORE bruises. That photo you are referring to was done for fun, MY fun, as well as theirs. It wasn’t even that painful if I’m honest, and I loved it. I look back on those pics and smile.

Despite you calling me beautiful, what you have done is make me feel like shit, you come to my blog and decide that you’re going to try and tell me I deserve better- yes, I deserve far better than being told to feel ashamed of myself and who I am. YOU have shamed me.

I hate separating my 2 partners but I’m going to.

You see a few pics of my beaten butt and you scream abuse and think I need saving. Did you see when I was in hospital, dozens of times because of my chronic condition, did you see me coming out of surgery and Daddy holding the straw to my mouth to get me drinking? Or lifting tiny morsels of food to my lips to get me eating? Do you see him coming home from a full days work and starting on dinner because I can’t move? Do you see any of that?

Or how about Mister, we don’t live together but he’d do all that too. In fact when I have bad days, do you see him spend 5 hours on FaceTime with me whilst he’s working, just so he can keep me company? Do you see him, every single day, checking I’ve eaten and taken my meds?

You tell me I’m beautiful, after shaming who I am and making me feel crap about myself, whereas he has had me saying mantras into the mirror for the last few days, until I start believing that I really am beautiful, until I start believing him.

When I’ve had a bad day and told Mister I wish he could sing to me, do you know what he did? He recording him singing, have you seen 3 men and a baby? You know where they sing “Goodnight sweetheart”? That. He sung that to me just before bedtime to help calm my head.

You’re right, I am worth more than a bloody butt- I’m worth all that they give me. I’m worth all their love.

This is who I am. This is what I want. Please don’t go around telling people they are being abused when they are very clearly happy and love what they do.

I love these men so much, and they love me. We are so much more than the few pics we decide to share- can you imagine how much love and trust there is to do what we do?

Everything is consensual, I have limits which have always been respected, I have a safe word, which again will always be respected. On top of that, any of us, at any point, can say actually I don’t want any kink right now, and it will stop- the kink will stop, but the relationships will continue, because guess what?

We are more than “just” the kink you see, and although we’d miss it, we love each other and that is stronger. So if I wanted to take a break from kink, I know that my partners would respect that and still be right beside me.