dc sugar

PYT originally from the DMV - A sense of humour and style.

[aromes]

[wetdirtandearth]

SHE LOOKS SO GOOD!! THE DEXTERITY OF THOSE TINY HANDS!! PURE GENIUS!! BEAUTIFUL!! IM INSPIRED

[dc-sugar]

😭😭😭 what an angel

[xnose]

Wow, she’s ugly.. Her nose is huge.. lol she’s completely flat chested.. She wants plastic surgery?! That is so shallow.

Way too many people I know (via xnose)

If you can learn to love your flaws, God bless you. If you want to go ahead and get surgery to make yourself look they way you've always wanted to, God bless you too!!

I've learned to love my flaws but also went ahead and got my breasts augmented and I am more self confident and secure than I ever thought possible. I finally feel like this is how my body was meant to look. DO YOU!

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Sugar Baby Guide w/ 200+ tips!

So I recently ran into a sugar “master post” on here but noticed a lot of the links were broken. Since there are so many aspiring sugar babies with a ton of questions I thought I’d make a new one! Here it is: a very long compilation of my favorite tips and tricks from sugar babies all over tumblr. Enjoy! Xoxo

Safety

Deleting yourself from the internet

Sending pictures via google voice texting 

Square cash warning 

Amazon gifts safety

COP or POT?

Tips to remaining safe as a sugar baby

Phone safety

What information should you give your SD?

Verify him

Safety links for sugar babies

All about screening

How SD’s can track where you live

The Miranda warning

Internet safety tips

Receiving packages

Staying safe as a sugar baby

Sugar baby safety 

Sugar baby safety tip

Sugar baby safety & catfishing

Free background check website

Is he the real deal?

Tricking him to keep your privacy

Keeping your privacy

Very important hoe safety tip

Free-styling

Free-stying guide

Eye-contact

Turning vanilla to sugar

How to approach men while free styling

Free-styling and where to meet sugar daddies

Where to freestyle

All about free-styling

Free-styling and how to trigger a mans generosity from the start

Free-styling tips

Top three places to freestyle

Free-styling & staff

What NOT to ask him

Meeting SD’s online

Craigslist title tip

Ashley Madison

Sugar dating and craigslist

List of sugar dating sites

Sugaring using tinder

Tindering tip

How to tinder

Craigslist masterpost

Craigslist sugar

Writing/writing back to messages

The perfect message

How to message men on sugar sites

Sugaring: Tinder and OkCupid

Perfecting your message

More messaging advice

Sugar sites to check out

Weeding through messages on sugar sites

Allowance, financials, and budgeting

How to get the allowance you want

How to ask your sugar daddy for an allowance

Allowance or pay per meet?

All about money

Cash/gifts on a POT date

What form should I take my allowance in?

How to make real money

Sugar baby banking tips

Spending your sugar money

Asking for money on a POT date

Getting him to buy you something

Financial advice

Drain his bank account

When he says he doesn’t feel comfortable with allowance…

Saving money

How much can he really pay you?

Budgeting tips for sugar babes

Tips on spending your sugar money

Allowance and AmEx cards

Let’s talk budgeting

5 questions to ask before agreeing to allowance offer

What to say to get the allowance you want

Sugar banking

Allowance and bank laws

Random cash tips

He pays for what he wants

Investing 101

Allowance negotiation tactics

The art of sugar dating

How to handle a first date with a POT

What NOT to talk about on a POT date

Organizing your POTs

How to: manipulate the conversation 

How to create a positive impression

6 ways to make your sugar date the best date he’s ever had

What the hell am I going to talk to him about?!

50 unusual date ideas

Checklist the night before your date

What you need to do before your POT date

Your first POT date

Dining etiquette

Dining etiquette pt. 2

How to fake confidence

Conversation tips

Confidence

Classy conversation topics

First date conversations with your SD

What to bring in your purse on a sugar date

Bullshit to spit on dates

Things to know about wine

First date advice

How to handle a first date

100 “non allowance” questions to ask a POT on a date

How cheat your way through small talk

Conversation topics

Developing your personality

The psychology of persuasion

Seduction, manipulation & negotiation

Remember: You are an actress/actor

The art of seduction

Strategies to try on your SD

Sugar negotiation

Bullshitting 101

Make him take you seriously

How to make him want to say yes

Body language 

Master guide: Body language linguistics 

Manipulation tips

How to manipulate people into liking you more

Sugar manipulation

How to keep wealthy men coming back to you to give you more

Emotion, seduction and manipulation

Marketing yourself

How to attract a man

Perks of sugaring - power

Being your SD’s fantasy

Manipulation success

The girlfriend experience

Keeping your SD

Treat your SD right… Or someone else will

Keeping him hooked

Don’t become familiar or ordinary

Become his fantasy

Don’t forget the details

Keeping your sugar daddy

 Bedroom tips

Treating your SD right

How to keep an SD interested

Showcase yourself to yourself to your SD

Blowjob tips (for uncircumcised penises as well)

Blowjob tips

Appearance

How to make yourself more attractive

Fashion tips and dress codes

How to dress “sugar”

Hoe products

Fuck-proof makeup list

How to be a kept woman

Looking elegant

Sex prep

Lingerie masterpost

20 beauty tips

Charming cash out of your sugar daddy

Vaginal hygiene 

Invest in yourself

Sugar tote essentials

Contouring cheat sheet

A hoes guide to body care

Sugar baby check list

Platonic Sugar

A tip for aspiring sugar babes

Being a platonic SB

Being a pure sugar baby

Sugar Travel

Traveling with your SD

Travel etiquette for sugar babies

Sugar baby travel tip

Traveling sugar

General tips/info on sugaring

The rules of sugaring

Sugar baby manifesto

Sugar baby academy

How to find a sugar daddy in 6 simple steps

This lifestyle isn’t for everyone

The secrets to being a successful sugar baby

Random sugar baby tip

Great sugar tip

“Thing’s I’ve learned from living with sugar babies”

25 tips to make you better sugar

Being a successful sugar baby

10 golden rules of sugar dating

General sugar baby tips

Sugar baby general guide

Apps every sugar baby needs

Sugar baby mentality

Sugar baby survival tips

Sugar baby wisdom

Sugar baby resources

What being a SB is all about

6 common sugar baby mistakes

Remain calm, cool and collected

Things you need to remember when you start sugaring:

What SB’s often forget

You are not asking for too much!

Beginning advice for newbies

Tips for new sugar babies

Always have a plan B

Tip to new sugars

So you want to be a sugar baby…

What would you tell your newbie SB self if you could go back?

5 newbie mistakes and how to avoid them

Patience

Remember this when you become a sugar baby

4 things every aspiring SB should know

“How do I become a sugar baby?”

How to stand out as a sugar baby

“Learn from my sugar mistakes”

“When is right to start sugaring?”

Tips from a successful sugar baby

6 tips for aspiring SBs

All about him

How to know if he’s the right sponsor

Sugar daddy check list 

Don’t believe what he says

How to get him to raise your allowance

POTs

Filtering the POTs

How to spot a fake POT

Things POT’s say when they’re trying not to pay

Distinguishing sugar from salt

10 questions to ask a POT before a relationship

Figuring out if they’re salt without going on a date

“What should I say?” And personality

Don’t be mundane and predictable

When he asks “What are you willing to do sexually?”

When he complains about paying you

When he asks if you’ve had an arrangement before 

Communicating your standards

How to say “no” to your SD

How to insist on a condom

What to say when he asks “What are you looking for?”

When he says “I’ll pay you later”

Your sugar profile

Writing tips

Make your profile work for you

Face shot or no face shot? 

Random tips/things/misc.

P.O. boxes and why you should have one

“Advice I received from a whale SD”

Long distance sugar

How to be a boss ass bitch

Why love is poison for a heartless gold-digger and a guide to the antidote

How to organize your hustle 

Sugaring from scratch

“Sex is sex, but money is money”

Mandatory sugar tool

No luck finding a sugar daddy?

The official sex worker reading list

Getting your sugar daddy back

Sugar baby texting

Suggested sugar reading list

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There’s this guy that work at your job, your new there so you don’t know much about him.

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He like 6'4 darkskin handsome, got that whole GQ thing going for him, but you got a man.

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And your man is faithful loving supportive. Everything you could ask for so, so you feel bad for even looking. You start avoiding dude in the office even though yall never even interacted before.

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One day your boss pairs you two up for a project. It’s one of those long ones that require you to work outside the office and really get familiar with one another. You find out his name is Jonathan.

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So yall set up a coffee date to get better acclimated, and before you know it your inner hoe is busting out your chest.

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The night before you’re stressing over what to wear, how to do your hair. You even whipped out that hoe red lipstick you wear for your man on special occasions. Now your man is starting to wonder wassup, but you assure him its just a business meeting. The funny thing is he knows you don’t ever have business meetings because you’re not that high up in the company. So he stay quiet pretends to believe you and takes himself to sleep.

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Next day you arrive at the coffee spot with that post fuckboy glow. Your titties all in your neck, dress hugging your ass, heels looking fierce. He see you and he like

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So now you all wet and bothered, your phone done rang 10 times and you acting like you don’t hear shit. Meanwhile your bf back at your office trying to take you out for lunch after your “business meeting”. Your coworkers telling him you had off today, he all upset cause where tf could you be? When you start lyin’ to him ?

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You and Jonathan over here sharing laughs, you sliding your foot up his leg under the table. You playing with the straw in your mouth just being a hoe. Your phone rings its bae you answer. You tell him your in a meeting but you don’t know that he outside and he can see you through the window. Now bae all fucked up in the head he wanna walk in but that nigga look grown. And he grown too but not that grown so he go home. He all upset and speeding and shit, crying to keisha cole in the car like

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Yall in bed he ask about the business meeting you telling him how well it went and how your numbers were great. Talking about how you “ have projected profit” for your company. He walk out the room all sick bent over the toilet throwing up and shit. He can’t even look at you. You’re phone starts buzzing, Jonathan invited you out to dinner tomorrow, you say yes all fast and shit. Bae walk back in the room and you throw ya phone on the night stand. He like who dat and you like wtf are you talking about. You start yelling at him for no damn reason, he in shock cause you the one that got caught. He lay down like

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All day go by and yall ain’t talking. You walking around the house singing and shit and bae just confused. Around 8pm you start getting ready and he over here asking questions and you keep saying you going out with the girls. So you hop in the shower and he unlock your phone and writes down John’s number. He know this gotta be the nigga cause his name say “Big J 🙀🙈” . You out the bathroom is red lingerie hair all pinned up. You slippin on a tight black dress, bae ain’t even questioning it. Around 9:30pm you grab the keys and dip. You tell him not wait up he say iight.

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You get to the restaurant and John looking GOOD. He already ordered 2 glasses of red wine and spaghetti for each of you. He tells you its what the place is known for and you don’t even argue cause he look like he right. Yall eating pasta, you licking sauce off ya lips he slurping the noodles letting you watch them slide up his lip. You all wet you know better but damn. And here goes bae blowing up your phone. You answer and tell him to stop calling you’re safe and you hang up. Now bae know something is up cause you never dismiss him. You look at Jonathan all sad cause you think he care, but he a hoe too so he brush it off.

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He tell you to come with him for one last drink. You say ok he pay the bill and yall get in the car. He speeding got the car vibrating all on ya pussy you amped like shit. But here come the sirens. He was doing 70 in a 55. The cops ask for his license and you see it says 1964 you can’t even do the math but that mean this nigga like 60 or some shit and you ain’t even pushing 25 yet. But he black and that don’t crack so its really like he 30. So you relax until you get to his place. He opens the door for you and picks you up and carries you inside.

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He don’t even take off ya dress. He hitches that shit up and shoves your panties in your mouth and dogs your shit. He got all your tracks in his grip and he’s giving you life. He got you on the counter like you don’t have gone training. Meanwhile back at home bae is over here typing in the number. He opens his phone and starts dialing. 718 like four contacts come up. 546 two more pop up. 4567 and only one contact is left. It says “ This nigga Pops 💪”. He looking like maybe he didn’t put that shit in right. So he do it like 3 more times. Now he in tears. He aint know his pops moved back to Memphis so that why he never introduced yall. He dial the number

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Meanwhile on your side of the world you got “Johnathans” dick in your throat. You going in for him reciting scripture. That’s how you know he old. He talking about being grateful for all your blessings in life. His phone starts ringing and he say he gotta answer you give him n permission and you keep going. He like hey son how are things. You like son? ? But it’s whatever cause yall grown. He talking about how he just moved here and how he’d love to meet his sons gf and he can’t wait to see a photo. You think it sounds like bae but you think you tripping cause you guilty. He hang up get a message and starts bugging. He like oh shit he storming around the room. You got his unborns on your chin, he trynna get dressed he say is an emergency. And it is cause it was your picture he got. But you clueless.

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Your nigga back home he invited the boys over done called strippers just all upset and shit. His boys bring drinks they chilling. The strippers arrive and there she go. Your hoe ass cousin TeeTee.

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She don’t know him but he’s seen pictures. She start stripping. She was shaking her ass bending over poppin pussy she was making that cash. So he ask for a private dance. She hype like shit cause she got a car note. You get her in the room and start bussin her shit. Your girl pulling up to the complex she thank Jonathan and hop out the car. She creep into the building fixing her makeup and shit,only to find strippers in her spot and her nigga is missing. She start breaking they lookin at her crazy

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Out of no where she hear her nigga bust. She know the sound cause its so ugly. She kick through the door to find her children all over TeeTee’s face. She beat that bitchs ass on sight.

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Now everyone done creeped out your spot and your girls in the kitchen washing blood off her hands you walk out like

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She about to flip but your phone ring and you put it on speaker you like dad come up… she like dad?? Why it sound like Jonathan? ?? She look and there he is. Her mouth drop open, she starts crying her heart is on the table. She ready to vomit. All she can do is run out. You and pops chilling like

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9 months later Pops get served with papers for child support cause apparently he introduced strap up and your ex girl laughing at you cause TeeTee just told you she gave you herpes. Your ex girl send you a pic like

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She have the baby and you get a text saying to never choose your niggas over your girl. And you like what?? Then you realize that one year you left her on her birthday to go to vegas with them. You realize she had planned this whole shit. You realize you met Satan and now her baby is your little brother and you’re stuck with her forever.

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About 3 years go by and her and lil Jon are doing great. He’s on a little league team, your pops is keeping up on child support.. unlike when he had you, and he’s overall being a great dad. You wanna get to know lil Jon and be a great big brother but the situation is sticky. Y’all get to hang out when he visits your pops and he seems to be a great kid.

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Sooner than you would imagine you get an invite in the mail. You have just been invited to the wedding of Jonathan Marshall and Katherine Supter. You sick. How your ex girl just gone marry your dad? What kind of Madea, Tyler Perry shit is your life. You can’t even think and your dick is on fire from the herpes cream. Your life is a wreck and its all her fault. 

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You say yes to the invite and start planning your revenge because if she taught you anything its how to be petty. 

Months go by and some how its the day of the wedding. You pull up to the church looking spectacular, fresh line up, pants all creased, and low and behold you brought a date. She looking bad too and you know it’s gone kill old girl. So you make your way inside and ask to see the bride. You say you’re a cousin and you just wanna wish her good luck. Her homegirl recognize you but she love drama so she let you slide in.

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You enter and she behind the curtain, you text ya pops and tell him to meet you in room 23B. He aint pay attention to the wedding details so he forgot thats where his soon to be wife is. 

Now you see her and she is looking gorgeous. Being triflin has made her skin glow. She look at you and tears come to her eyes. She wont say sorry and you know that but you understand. You close the door and start breaking down you telling her how you love her and how much your heart was hurting and how you cant believe everything happened that way. You saying you understand why she marrying pops and you wish things were different. You kiss her and she doesnt pull away.. she done forgot about you having herpes and you know it. You start putting your hand on her waist and before you know it her wedding dress is on the floor and she’s in nothing but her guarder. 

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You start thrashin her shit. You know they can hear you from the hallway but you know her homegirl nosey so she letting it slide. Then you hear a pounding on the door. She’s saying just a minute cause she know you bout to bust and you ain’t moving because you know it’s pops. Then the door springs open. One of her curls done fell loose and she looking at you like wtf and you grinning. You get up and before pops can even grab you, you dip downstairs. Your girl been waiting patiently and she not even mad she know you had some unfinished business so she is being understanding. Right then and there you get down on your knee and propose to her infront of everybody. She screaming and smiling and y’all rush to the alter. You tell the priest you know it’s not traditional but you don’t think the original couple is gunna get married and can he please marry you off. He doesn’t see a reason not to so he has you guys stand on opposite sides and begins the ceremony. 

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You saying you vows all slow and shit because you want pops and ya ex to catch your betrayal. They rush down just in time. She in her bridal robe and he standing next to her fuming. Meanwhile your lil bro in the front row not understanding anything. He’s 4 now but he knows somethings up. You look your ex dead in the eye and you say I take you TeeTee Washington to be my lawfully wedded wife. Ya ex face turn white she look like she might die. She just realized TeeTee has herpes.. so you have herpes… now she have herpes.. and her and “Jonathan” just kissed and made up… he has herpes not. The pastor finishes off and officially marries you and TeeTee. Ya ex turns to pop and whispers it to him. He look like he seen a ghost. he runs up the isle and pulls out a gun. TeeTee start screaming she pregnant, ya ex screamin Jonny do it. Ya brother just swingin his feet and the whole church in shock.

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Pops shoot you in leg, you bleeding all crazy and what not TeeTee hollerin, you in pain and ya ex just chilling behind pops like this shit normal. Pops grabs her and tells the priest to marry them right fucking now, so he does and everyone awkwardly claps cause there’s a nigga with a gun in the front of the church. He tells everyone to leave except for you TeeTee ole girl and his son. You on the floor in pain and you here pops tell lil Jon to come here. He telling him to look at you and how he should never be this weak and you wanna say something but again he got a gun. Lil Jon kicks you in the bullet wound and tells you not to be a bitch, you confused cause when tf did he become harder than you. Pops hands your ex girl the gun, you crying out for TeeTee to help you she silent. YOu looking up pleading with ole girl and her face is stone cold. She lifts up her robe and pulls pink gloves out her guarder she puts them on. She shoots you in your spine right before you black out you see TeeTee standing behind her.

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You wake up in the hospital the doctors say you were in a coma, they say you’re paralyzed from the waist down and that you will need to be taken care of for the rest of your life. They say your wife and her family are there to take you home and take care of you, you all confused. You look around and there goes TeeTee and your old girl and pops and lil Jon just smiling. They tell you your wife will collect your disability monthly to help with your expenses, you just flabbergasted. You wait for the doctor to leave and you ask them how they got away with it. Pops grab TeeTee and goes that pussy works on police chiefs too, TeeTee smiling all hard and shit touching pops’ chain. You start tearing up, they all leave the room. And then the curtain opens and its that Herpe Havin Hoe your ex. She bends down and whispers

[sucrebruun]

[keepitpushinggg]

Omg using this

[seekingcommunity]

Splenda

[dc-sugar]

Smh it's SALT

[realitytvbitch]

[shibarisugar-blog]

#pillowprincess forever

[keepitpushinggg]

What exactly would you say to a POT who says what is in it for him?

[darling-inamorata]

moroccansuggar  and anyone else

Flip that question right back at him.

Why?

BECAUSE HE KNOWS WHAT HE’S GETTING OUT OF THIS SITUATION.

He knows his ass is getting any one or all three of these:

companionship 

sexual favors

being seen with a beautiful & intelligent woman on his arm

And most times when a POT ask you this question, it’s to determine if whether or not they can either play you to their tune, trying to decided if you are trying to get nothing but the money (which is a fucking joke because…hello, why do you think we met?!) or scam you with a low budget P4P.

And if you don’t want to flat out ask him “What’s in it for me?”

Try: 

“We both met through/by (insert wherever you found each other) so you know exactly what’s in it for you.(insert some flirty emoji or if talking face to face gently touch his hand for a second and proceed to the follow-up) So, do me a quick run through of what’s in it for me.” 

or

“We both don’t want to get played in this type of situation and I’m also wondering what I get out of this. So, how about we each list one by one the things we want and we will negotiate whether or not it works for the both of us.”

Always include a “We” or “Us” in this process because this makes a bigger connection with him and gives him a feeling that the both of you are on the same page and in this together (even if you know you’re not or don’t feel like it yet) and will most likely get him to open up more so you can work off of him and figure out what he’s looking for and hustle off of that.

This is my process and it hasn’t failed me yet so I hope it works for you as well!

[keepitpushinggg]

Omgg thank you so much forever using this one 😘

[sugardomme]

Lmao! I did something like this a few weeks ago when I asked a POT what he was going to provide and he said something like “opportunities and mentorship for a fresh new lifestyle.” When he asked me what I was going to provide, I said “ditto.”

[keepitpushinggg]

About to use this one again

[certifiedlovergurls-world]

[goalsmami]

goalsmami.tumblr.com

[raemonroeshow]

I have these 😘😍 and they are adorable!

[bubblemintt]

@raemonroevip where are these from?! 😍😍😍

[raemonroeshow]

I don’t know they were a gift from a client but I can ask.

[shibarisugar-blog]

here they are! and the nude ones too. 🐰❤

[dc-sugar]

My heart just stopped...I need!!

[babypinkvixen-blog]

OMG

On Friday I was out partying with friends. Talking to some mutual friends and am introduced to some of their friends that were visiting from NYC. One of the girls had a super familiar last name..asked her if we had met before..no okay. Then why did her name sound SO familiar (same with her face) This girl gets trashed and me being the good person I am, help her get all fixed up and have her friends get her an uber. So later I get home, decide to Facebook creep her and what to I find out?

I’m fucking her dad. Her dad is my fucking sugar daddy and I don’t know why I didn’t put two and two together. (I blame it on the shots) BUT GIRLLLLLL, talk about oh shit moment. I’m still laughing.

[shibarisugar-blog]

hahahahah holy shit

[shibarisugar-blog]

¯\_(ツ)_/¯

[givememorgann]

She’s working at the pyramid tonight.

[888muse]

[pussysista-deactivated20170521]

Omg

[misandry-mermaid]

lol men can’t handle rejection at all this is so embarrassing for him

[moaningmabel]

I shouldn’t have read this the second hand embarrassment is making me nauseous

[catlovesmocalike]

Oh my God… the sheer entitlement of this guy. yikes. And then they say girls are clingy

[dc-sugar]

I'm mortified

[howaboutsugar]

[brownsugardoll]

In the previous post (here) I emphasized on the importance of a good relationship with your SD before discussing allowance. A good relation is easily formed over 1- or 2 dates, however during these first dates make sure you know he isn’t salt so that you are not wasting your time. (more tips on weeding out salt soon!)

Sugar daddies will give more allowance if they genuinely like YOU as well. All sugar daddies will of course be attracted to your beauty, however if he likes your personality as well it’s just : ka-ching!  

The whole ‘mutually beneficial’ stuff it based on that you both have power: he has the financial power, you have the sexual power. This means that while we are pondering about allowance increases, he looks for ways he can have more intimacy. Of course he is a generous and respectful sugar daddy, he won’t pressure intimacy but he remains a man… 

The more comfortable he is with YOU, the more allowance he gives. Think about it like this; the more comfortable you are with any guy the more likely you will have sex with him. The more appreciation a guy shows you, the more likely you will have sex with him. Therefore the more appreciation you show your SD the more allowance he will give you. 

Invest in developing a good relation during the first two dates, show your best side. 

Allowance talk usually starts with me during the third date, AFTER I have received a present on the second date that shows he’s serious. 

1.During the second date I will hint subtly my favorite brands, so he will know what I like. Then after we leave we ‘coincidentally’ (planning remember?) bump into my favorite store. Since he remembers what I like; he’ll ask “Shall we have a look”? :) 

2.Another tip to get your SD in shopping mood (especially if your SD is rather insecure/introvert, that is how I like them btw since I can shape them into my idea of an arrangement): go lingerie shopping. This maybe sounds a bit hypocritical since I said previously to avoid any sexual references, but I have done this quite a few times successfully. Lingerie shopping is indirectly more a gift to him, he will see it as useful (instead of a bag for example) hence he won’t mind spending on it. Go to La Perla or Agent Provocateur, pick a nice set, let him have a ‘sneak peak’ (only if you know he’s decent etc/not salty, you get what I mean) and leave the store with a 1000$+ lingerie set. 

He’s a man, he will think about that ‘sneak peak’ he just saw. That is not being a pervert, that’s just how men are. Next you go where you want to go “Won’t a pair of  heels (pointing at Jimmy Choo) go nice with it?”. Success guaranteed, since he wants you to feel pretty and appreciate him. 

After the second date, send him a picture (no lingerie/nude!..well that depends on you but it’s not advisory) wearing your newly purchased bag/shoes/idk. He’ll feel even more appreciated. Send that you are looking forward to the next meeting. He’ll me like a puppy next time you meet him ;) 

3. By the third date you should know he’s SD material. You know he likes/loves you since you make him feel appreciated/young again. This time you have invested in the beginning will now pay off since you are more comfortable with him, reversely he is definitely more comfortable with you. 

What I noticed (since I genuinely became to like my SD’s, I would advise any SB to pick one out that you like spending time with) I can comfortably ask for what allowance I need, the reaction was that they were comfortable with that too sincethey saw me more ‘like a friend’ then a stranger. 

Additionally since you have done some shopping with him he is more familiar with ‘prices’ of designer goods, hence he knows why your allowance is high. (I usually say why I need more allowance is that “I want to look nice, and I think you like me to look nice as well ;)”

Maybe the above seems natural to you, however I think that this approachresults in the best long-term arrangements, since I know that wherever I’ll be, I can ask my SD’s for help. 

Of course I have made the mistake to start about allowance too soon, as I thought that it is ‘natural’ but I came to realize that the SD’s I pick out, don’t like the idea of randomly giving money to a stranger although you spend a dinner with him. With a wrong impression the chances you can correct it are low, and if you can.. it will take much longer. 

I know as well that the Sugar Bowl can be exhausting, those endless e-mails/contacts that result in nothing, that it makes you think you can minimize your wasted-time by immediately mentioning the allowance you are expecting. Wrong! I made this mistake, it results most of the time in nothing.

Lastly this all can be difficult when you are desperate for money, luckily I have never been really without since I escort as well, but try to hide your desperation as much as possible. I see how this can be really hard, but try your best.

The right SD is human too, and doesn’t want to make this a business deal since he sees enough business on a daily basis and just want a real, great and beautiful girl like you to get a chance to have fun and relax again, and he’s willing to make your life more comfortable in return. 

Good luck! 

X

note: I’m talking from my experience. I’m kind of the person that always evaluates what went wrong, and tries to learn from it. This approach has been the most successful from all. It can also be that this approach is particularly adjusted to the type of SD I’m looking for (more here), I’m not really sure :) 

[howaboutsugar]

[brownsugardoll]

An allowance is one of the aspects that differentiates an arrangement from a regular relation. I always make sure before I meet any POT that they are aware of the financial component. I however NEVER talk about exact numbers, not even until the second date or so, but I will mention some more about my ‘strategy’ later.

For any new sugar babies or aspiring sugar babies please take note that sugaring is not a quick way to make a lot of money doing nothing. No man is giving away money for free.But with a little bit of patience and some techniques you will maximize your sugar experience.

I am both an escort and a sugar baby. It is advantageous to have another source of income (doesn’t have to be big). This makes you less desperate for money, because when you’re desperate for money your necessary criteria for a sugar daddy will drop, with potential consequences…

 I use the money I make as an escort for basic necessities only. I never buy clothing, bags or make-up with it, and if I’ve got money left I save it. Sugaring then provides me with the luxuries and things that make my life more comfortable. I never buy expensive things with the allowance, most of the time I save 70% of my allowance and make sure I get the designer bags as gifts and clothing during shopping sprees. The other rough 30% I use to lead a mo re comfortable lifestyle.

This is my way of spending money.Of course this is not necessarily yours, but no matter how you spend it keep the following tip in mind:

1. Tell your SD that you use the money for rent/ tuition/fitness centre etc. I don’t care if you actually spend it on a whole stack of nail polish and fund your LV collection, but your SD likely wants his money to be spent in a useful manner. When you tell him you will use his dollars to afford your shopping addiction, he will give you less since he doesn’t like it. Think about the reverse situation; if you were a sugar mommy and your sugar baby needed money to fund his gaming stuff. Since you don’t like it you will less likely give money. Exactly the same works for SD’s. Since SD’s do like intellectual fit sugar babies, they will give more if you spend it wisely.

2. I always use my 3-date rule for getting allowance. Sugar daddies want you to be real, and like them for not only their money. Therefore I always ignore ‘allowance talk’ on the first date. Instead I get to really know them and connect with them. Of course I ask questions about their view on an arrangement, but I will pretend it is like a real-date. This way he knows I don’t see him like just an ATM-machine, this then makes him more comfortable in giving a bigger allowance since he knows I’m a sincere person.

The second date I make sure I get a gift. It is important that you ‘plan’ this (will save this for a later post). People give gifts because they want something from you. Your SD wants sex (eventually…). And he knows he can make you like him more by giving big gifts. Be humble and thank him to make him feel appreciated. A lot of (new) SD’s are uncomfortable with giving you directly financial assistance, thus in this approach you will make him feel more comfortable with the ‘sugar’ part of the arrangement (but my SD’s have always been very generous themselves).

On the third date you should get allowance. Since this is part of the arrangement. You can decide with you SD to get an allowance per meet in the first month or so, just so he can built trust in you. Since he likes you know a lot and he knows his money is well spent, the allowance you will receive will be much larger. This method requires a bit of patience, and is only advisory if your POT really has a lot of potential. However this method has been very successful for me. Not only did I receive a big and steady allowance, I also got the nicest gifts on our second date (with my second SD I got a bag and a wallet -both dior- on our second date).

3. Know how you will receive your allowance/set a date. I stick to getting the allowance cash. This way you will minimize any legal trouble and keep your anonymity. Furthermore I have set that every beginning of the month I will receive the full allowance on our first dinner. Personally I think it’s important to have the allowance details straight for both parties so that there is no misconception about it, to avoid drama and disappointment etc. But I think this last point is pretty self-explanatory yet important to keep in mind. 

I hope I wasn’t too wordy, but I hope this helps you to form a successful arrangement.

X 

Some questions you can ask him or yourself: 

-How many times will we meet? 

-(What is the allowance per meet?)

-Does the allowance include/exclude gifts? 

-Where will I use the money for? 

-How much allowance is achievable? (setting 20,000+ as an expectation for 4 meets a month sure isn’t, yet there are exceptions)

-When will I get the allowance? 

-Is the allowance per meet/monthly?

-Do I get extra if I spend a full weekend/week with my SD?

edit: This is the way I have been successful, however this is not the only way nor will it work for every situation.

[darkcocosb-blog]

When I know I just slayed the date with a new POT😂🍬🍬🍬

[venusvictorious]

omg you look incredible !!

[spmr2015]

Why do old people do this

*doesn’t give allowance*

him: we can still get together if you want

me: no

him: wow okay fine. bye.

him: wow i see how it is!

me: 

him: now i know the real you

…..didn’t you just say BYE?!

[browntravelgirl]

Thissssssssssss!!!!!

[sweetie-stripper]

hahahahaha

[dc-sugar]

🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄