They can paint away, but the songs we sing are stuck in these walls.
2011: The year I got my braces off, the year I got my first ticket, the year I bought my first pop punk albums, and, most importantly, the year I first heard Nature and Nurture.
My life up until that point had been a series of really terrible friendships and feeling out of place in more or less every aspect of my life. That was the year I really started to have a desire to see the bands I’d been listening to on my iPod live. That was the year I got into The Wonder Years, The Movielife, Transit, Fireworks, and this band from Knoxville called On My Honor.
I had just turned seventeen; I didn’t feel like I belonged to any community of peers…until I walked into my first local punk show.
It wasn’t On My Honor, but I saw them for the first time a few weeks later at a Little Heart Record’s anniversary show. A place I would end up interning at in a couple of years. Every single person I call my friend today was at that show—the people I call my family today were all at that show and I literally had no clue, it seems crazy now that I wasted as much time as I did not being their friends. The very first time I met Drew—if I remember this correctly, it may have been a show a year later—he asked me if I was coming to Thanksgiving at his house. That just floored me. I never got invited to things, especially not something like that. I instantly felt loved and wanted and accepted into the group… even today still makes me feel emotional.
2012 came and went, and it was one of the toughest years of my life. I didn’t feel very happy for a lot of it. I graduated high school and moved away from everything I knew for college. Which was fine, and I wanted to do it, but it took me a while to make friends. Toward the end of that year, I went with some friends to Knoxville for the first time. It was probably the best weekend I’d had in my life, up to that point; I finally had people I felt truly comfortable with, I had friends who I didn’t feel like were going to run away for no reason. I was happy.
That next year was, without a doubt, the very best time I’ve had in my entire life.
I went to the east coast for the first time, I watched someone fall through a roof, I started a circle pit…it was just a year of firsts and a year I will love forever, and I mainly owe that to On My Honor, as those dudes were there for all of those firsts.
With all the highs, there were a few lows. But for once, I had people to pick me up and brush me off when I fell. I truly do not have words to express how thankful I am to everyone who ever answered a text at one in the morning, or sat in a bedroom and listened to me talk about my life, or said something that made me feel a little less like garbage. Drew, Molly, Audrey, Serene, Elliott, the list goes on forever. There are not enough ways to say thank you that would truly express my gratitude for everything y’all have done for me.
I Never Deserve the Things I Need still hits home so hard every time I listen to it. And every time I hear those songs, I feel better. There are a few songs on that record that I relate to so much...more than I have with any other song. That album is so important to me. It was so important to my growth in the last year. It was so important to me learning to like myself.
Last month, On My Honor broke up. I’m still really not done processing that. I’ve shed a few tears over it. They were the one band that really, truly helped me through the worst times in my life. They saved me, frankly. They taught me to value friendships, yes, but more importantly, to value myself enough to not let toxic relationships drag me back down.
There will always be a hole in my heart where OMH once was; I don’t think that’s a wound that will ever heal. I also don’t think I’ll ever be eloquent enough with words to truly express what this band meant to me, I’ve been typing for an hour and I still don’t feel like I’ve expressed it properly. Just know that I truly have loved every single moment I had with you guys as a band. You all changed my life. (Well, you and Little Heart Records—which means just as much but which I definitely do not have words to express.)
I am a better person because On My Honor existed. I am a changed person because On My Honor existed. I am happier because On My Honor existed.
As truly heartbroken as I am that they’re done, there’s something that will never go away that OMH created; the friendships we forged singing those songs together. They are forever, because it’s more than just friendship, it always was; we’re a family. A huge, dysfunctional, messed up family, but a family nonetheless.
If you took the time to read this, you’re probably part of that family. So thanks for letting me be in the pictures for once in my life instead of being the one taking them. Thanks for making me laugh. I love you guts.
Team Shithead is forever. Team Shithead will never die.















