Hello! You popped up on my feed and I see you don't seem to have any requests yet, so I decided to try and help fill the requests void a little bit! ♡
Could I get some headcanons for the band with an s/o who loves affection, but rarely initiates it because they don't wanna bother anyone so sometimes they just kinda sit somewhere quietly for a while until the band members figure out the deal is? Thanks in advance!
Thank you SO much for sending in my first request. I’m still learning how to write these four, so I apologize if it isn’t the best.
This came out later than I wanted. Tumblr deleted the post and I had to rewrite some things T-T
But it’s here! I apologize for the wait
Possible trigger warning for mentions of anxiety
As much as he loves affection, Russ enjoys having his personal space
You knew this, and were afraid that your affection may be making him feel uncomfortable or annoyed
You started to withdraw from Russ in an attempt to make him more comfortable in your relationship. You initiating kisses, hugs, cuddle sessions, etc., was far and few in between
He's not the most clingy guy so he wouldn't notice your behavior at first.
He just assumed that you were just like him!
As time went on, though, he began to pick up on something that was going on
Always a firm believer in communication, Russ would sit you down and ask you why you've been initiating less and less, if he's done anything to make you uncomfortable, and all that jazz.
Once he found out your reasoning, he hugged you tight
He told you that his misses your affection
And that just because he isn't one who wants to be touched 24/7, it doesn't mean he doesn't want your affection at all
Reassures you that although he does enjoy time to himself, it doesn't mean you're annoying or bugging him in anyway!
The two of you came up with a plan to communicate better so a situation like this wouldn't pop up again
He'd make sure to tell you if he wasn't up for contact so you'd be less worried about bothering him
You also promised to come to him if you felt this way, instead of withdrawing
When you two finished talking, he invited you to grab a bite to eat :)
Probably the most clingy and affectionate out of all members
Bc of this, he'd pick up on what was going on quickly
May not know the exact reason for your withdrawal, but immediately notices you doing it
Confusion pops up first, followed by anxiety
He thought your relationship was going pretty well..?
He began to wonder if you weren't feeling well
Or if you weren't in the mood for physical touch
Or if you had been tired recently
Or if he did something to make you upset
Or if you didn't like holding him anymore
Or if you fell out of love with him
Okay okay I'll stop but the point is, 2D does nothing but overthink the situation
He'd probably (unknowingly) start to initiate less and less himself!
Which would probably leave you confused
Now you're both confused and overthinking messes
You'd probably be the one who starts the conversation
Asking him why he's been looking so anxious and deep in thought recently
Asking if he did something to make you upset
Why you've withdrawn from him
If you still even love him
And you immediately feel bad because you withdrew initiation because you didn't want to be a bother
It felt like a complete and total backfire on your end
You explained to him that you didn't want to bother him, so you started to initiate contact less
And he just looks at you like "WHAT???"
You already know how affectionate 2D is, so he's quick to knock those thoughts out your head
He just latches onto you and doesn't want to let go
He loves when you hold him
He makes sure to repeat this over and over to you
He doesn't want you feeling like you're a bother
He needs you and your affection
I hc her to be extremely observant
I feel like you have to be if you grew up the way she did
So l'd imagine she'd be the quickest out of all the members to catch on to what you were doing
And why you were doing it
She just didn't know how to bring it up without sounding confrontational
It was a conversation topic she did have to sit on for a few days
She did feel more and more lonely each day she didn't talk to you about what was going on
Noodle missed the hugs and cuddles :(
Don't get me wrong, she still gave you her love and affection, it just didn't feel right without you doing the same
She decided to talk to you during one of your movie nights
You had sat on the opposite side of the couch instead of sitting next to her like you usually do
So Noodle walked over to sit next to you
She told you she's noticed you initiating less contact
And that she assumes why you're doing it
And you confirm her assumptions - you don't want to be bother
Her face softened when she found out she was right
She felt awful knowing you were afraid of bothering her
The whole conversation was basically Noodle asking you questions
How long have you felt this way?
Was there anything I did or said to make you feel like you were a bother?
Why didn't you come to me about this earlier?
Bare with her, she hates seeing you feel this way
You answered all her questions thoroughly, apologizing for withdrawing
She asked for you to communicate with her more and come to her when you feel like this, which you agreed to
You asked her for some cuddles while you watched your movie and Noodle agreed, suddenly remembering that it was your movie night Imao
Murdoc isn’t the most affectionate guy
It just something he wasn’t used to
So you’re the one who initiated most of sfw contact
You learned that he didn’t like being affectionate in front of the band
So contact was mostly kept in his room or in the Winnebago
He found out he liked cuddling. He liked when you played with his hair
But he wouldn’t initiate it, that was on you
He would sometimes drop hints that he wanted to be hugged and you would pick up on it
He was finally comfortable enough to hold your hand
And he’d sometimes ask you to sit next to him while he played his bass
Since you mostly initiated, Murdoc noticed when you started to withdraw from him
He hasn’t had many good things in life
Your relationship is probably his first serious one
And he’s afraid of fucking it all up
Not one to beat around the bush, he’s quick to confront you
He asks you not to leave him
And you’re like, “what makes you think I’m leaving??”
You’re told that you’ve been withdrawing a lot, so he assumed you were done with him
You tell Murdoc that you aren’t leaving, you just initiated less because you didn’t want to bother him
He has this “ohhhh” moment or realization
He appreciates you not wanting to make him uncomfortable
He told you that he’s fine with being touched
And that he wouldn’t mind you doing it again
In fact, he wishes things would go back the they way they were
You picked up on the fact he was trying to say he missed your affection without directly saying it
You apologized for withdrawing and he accepted it, you only had good intentions
He told you that he’d try to be more affectionate
And you said you’d do the same
It did take some time for things to go back to the way they used to be though
You still had the lingering feeling that you were bothering him, despite knowing that wasn’t the case
And it took him some time to be more affectionate but he did put the work in
The two of you appreciated the effort the other was putting in
The day he asked you to cuddle with him is what made all the work worth it
It was like you both reached a new step in your relationship
It definitely took some time, but you both got there with enough determination <3
That’s it for my first request! I hope it was good! Writing this was definitely a challenge, but it was a welcome one <3
Again, thanks for sending the request in!
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