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libbyframe

Recent flower commissions

My Universe as VHS

#bts #coldplay #my universe #vhs

firefeerie

When you leave Min Yoongi to baby sit the maknae-line:

Yoongi: Seokjin clearly told me not feed them sugar… I regret not listening to him..

dramaism

I missed you. I like you.

ahsung

I’m sorry. Did I surprise you?

seojunies-moved

dohwa and haru, the bestest boys™

오늘의 서울

#seoul #aesthethic #flower #itaewon #namsan #travel

littlecafe

bebeche

neil-gaiman

Dear Neil, I am a horrible person. How to be kinder, please?

Sometimes I suspect we are all horrible people. Or at least, we are human people. Same thing. We are impatient, judgmental, irritating and irritated, grumpy, easily offended and the rest of it.

So how to be kinder if it doesn’t come naturally?

Fake it.

Fake it a little bit at a time.

Because there isn’t actually any difference between doing something nice for someone because you are naturally saintly and perfect, and doing something nice for someone because you are secretly demonic and trying to cover it up. It’s still an act of kindness either way, and you still made their lives better.

Smile at people. Say hullo. Ask about their lives. Remember what they’ve told you about their lives. Do small things to try and help them. (They will not know you are horrible, do not worry. They will just perceive that you are helping.)

Give people the benefit of the doubt. Remember that it’s more often stupidity to blame than evil, that everyone can screw up (including you) and what’s important is learning from that.

Think “What would an actually kind person do now?” – and do that. Don’t beat yourself up when you fail. Just be as kind to yourself as you will be to others – even if you have to fake that.

And good luck.

neil-gaiman

Reblogging because people have begun sharing it again.