How to survive a 79km Long Distance Relationship.
I was never a fan of Long Distance Relationships. I hate the fact that I wouldn’t be able to see my partner whenever I want to and the fact that you cannot communicate well through the screen of your phones and tablets.
I created this post as a reminder for me of how I managed to have a long distance relationship and maybe it could help a reader experiencing the same pick up a few things that might work for them.
1. Admit that you don’t want it. Both of you must admit if you are not used to the distance, but let them know you are willing to endure it with them. When we first started our relationship I told him I never wanted a long distance relationship and told how it makes me feel and what possible problems I foresee and from there we identify what are our next steps.
2. Have a routine. Many might say routines are boring because they just keep on repeating themselves. But no, based on my experience routines are better in long distance relationship because it is consistent and reassuring. What we do is at the end of each day we set a “bebe time”. Wherein we spend time with each other virtually, it could be through a voice call, video call, movie streaming through rave or teaming up in an online game.
3. Always be Honest. Never ever assume they would know what you mean in that cold message you sent. Always tell them how you feel just how it is. Trust me he is already frustrated that you are away and can’t comfort you when you need them so it is important to know if how are you physically and emotionally.
4. Have lots of room for mistakes. Long Distance Relationship has a lot of tendencies to cause mistakes. There are miscommunications, being able not to update your partner when you are tired from work, mood swings that you wouldn’t know about and many more. Instead of fighting it out, extend more patience, ask them what made them frustrated, better understand what they are going through before jumping into conclusions. This way your partner will feel secure even if you are away, they will feel like they can open up their feeling to you regardless of the distance plus no added stress because you are not fighting over something that doesn’t need to be fought about.
5. Love. Love them the best way you can. Many would say love will never be enough. NO, love will always be enough because if you truly love someone respect, honesty, patience, understanding and all the things that are needed in the relationship will be present. Always remember the way of love in 1 Corinthians 13.
Me and my partner has still a lot to learn with our long distance relationship. it is not perfect but I know it will be worth it. We are also in a trial and error stage but it’s fine for us both because we both believe that for our relationship to grow we need accept the fact that we will make mistakes through the process. What makes it worth it is that both of us see a future overcoming the distance and finally being able to be together.
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