the catch 22 of being a femslash fan is that when you try and get anyone else to care or talk about media that has a heavy slant towards female characters and relationships between them you will be met by a bunch of people who tell you to stop whining about the things you like or make being unpopular and just focus on supporting or creating these things. but then if you actually go out and do this and fully commit to that and say that you're not interested in m/m or m/f centric stuff people will act like you are smug, narrowminded, pretentious, or even just straight up bigoted.
there really is no winning because what people actually want is to never have to think about why relationships between two women or female-dominated casts are so proportionately rare in popular or culturally relevant media. they can't outright say they think its because these types of work matter less or are across the board lower in quality than the things they like, but a lot of people do clearly believe that on some level. because that version of affairs is the one that lets misogyny be something happening on the back end that they are just responding to, rather than something they are participating in by "just not really being able to get into f/f" for whatever Mysterious Reasons.
