to the one who holds the stars

des. twenty four. canadian. astrologer. tarot reader. fourth year university student.

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Chiron Aspects (and how to go about healing it)

Chiron / Sun: You need to realize that who you are as a person is good enough, you don't need to change who you are. There's no need to put on a mask around the people who care about you, they want to see you and love you for you. It's okay to explore and figure out who you are, you don't need to figure it out right away. You need to remember that people love you.

Chiron / Moon: You need to realize that it's okay to have emotions, it doesn't make you weak. You need to stop hiding how you feel from other people, you need to stop telling people that something is okay / and or good when it isn't, and you need to realize that it's going to be okay when you stick up for yourself and make sure your voice is heard. You need to remember that having emotions is okay.

Chiron / Mercury: You need to realize that it's going to be okay for you to speak up. You need to stop hiding what you truly think and feel because you're fearful of "fucking everything up." It's okay to tell people your ideas, it's okay to properly communicate with the people around you, and it's okay to tell people that you need time for yourself. You need to realize just how smart you are, stop doubting that.

Chiron / Venus: You need to realize that you're worthy of love. You need to stop thinking, feeling, and telling yourself that no one cares for you, no one is going to love you, and that you're unworthy of receiving love from the people around you. You need to realize that it's okay to accept people's love and affection. They love you for you, not for what you can contribute or give to them.

Chiron / Mars: You need to realize that it's okay to show what you're feeling, especially with your anger. You don't need to be scared or shy away from your anger in fear of what you're going to do, you need to embrace it and feel it. The longer you suppress it, the more it's going to build and build; it's going to continue to make you feel worse and worse as time goes on. You need to feel your anger. It's going to be okay.

Chiron / Jupiter: You need to realize that you know just as much as anyone else around you. You have the proper materials, the proper resources, and the proper ideas to make what you want a reality; you don't need to look to anyone else to tell you about this. You need to realize that you have just as much luck as anyone else, you're just as smart as anyone else, and you know just as much as anyone else.

Chiron / Saturn: You need to realize that it's okay to take a break. You don't need to be pushing and pushing yourself, you need to realize that you're human and you have limits to what you can do. You need to realize that it's going to be okay if you take one day to yourself, leave that project for someone else to do, and it's going to be okay if you tell someone "no, I can't do that." You need to put yourself first.

Chiron / Uranus: You need to realize that it's okay to be yourself. You don't need to hide away in fear of how the people in your life see you, I guarantee people see you in a much better light than you see yourself in. It's okay to act on those ideas that you have, it won't make you seem "weird", "unusual", "not normal", etc. You need to realize that everyone is a little weird and that's okay.

Chiron / Neptune: You need to realize that it's okay to daydream. You don't need to always be serious, it's okay to indulge your child-like wonder, and it's okay to work on those creative projects you have stashed away from the public eye. It's going to be okay to buy something for yourself too, you don't always need to be taking care of the people around you. You need to realize that it's okay to take care of yourself.

Chiron / Pluto: You need to realize that you have the power, no one else does. You need to realize that no one can, will, or does have power over you unless you give it to them yourself, it's okay to not always be in control of everything, and it's okay to allow yourself to rest. You need to realize that you don't always need to be in control of everything, know what's going on 24/7, and you don't need to fear everything falling apart. Everything is going to be okay.

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The Mars Signs (and what they fantasize about)

♔ Mars in Aries likes to fantasize about chasing after the person they like or being chased after themselves. These are the kinds of people who love being tied up during sex, but they're not afraid to take control of the situation if you're not performing the way they like.

♔ Mars in Taurus likes to fantasize about taking care of their partner or having their partner take care of them. Don't let that fool you though, as they're usually into really rough sex while using pet names, collars, or sex toys.

♔ Mars in Gemini likes to fantasize about receiving and sending pictures to their partners, sometimes they like to send pictures in a very public setting because they enjoy the thrill of almost being caught in the act. They're the type to enjoy sexting too.

♔ Mars in Cancer likes to fantasize about being the one in control or they enjoy the idea of their partner being in control of them. There's a love for pet names too; there's a secret love for being called degrading names and being told to take what they're given.

♔ Mars in Leo likes to fantasize about having their partner dressed up for their eyes and their eyes only. This can translate into a love for lingerie, collars, or anything that they believe will make their partner look even more stunning than they already are.

♔ Mars in Virgo likes to fantasize about being taken care of, especially in regards to their every day needs. Don't be fooled by that though, they're the types to enjoy degrading their partner (or being degraded themselves) and they likely have a thing for sex toys.

♔ Mars in Libra likes to fantasize about dressing up for their partner or having their partner dress up for them, they're very similar to Mars in Leo. They're the type to send their partner photos at random points during the day just to see their reaction.

♔ Mars in Scorpio likes to fantasize about wearing collars or anything that shows that they're "owned" by their partner (or vice versa with making it known that their partner is "owned" by them). They're the type to be into sexual torture too.

♔ Mars in Sagittarius likes to fantasize about being the one in charge, telling their partner what to do, and they like to believe that they'd dominant their partner. They're really into sex toys and "trying anything once" just for the experience.

♔ Mars in Capricorn likes to fantasize about dominating their partner and pleasuring their partner to the point where they can't speak or form a coherent sentence (or vice versa, they want that done to them). Very into taking care of their partner too.

♔ Mars in Aquarius likes to fantasize about receiving pictures or texts from their partner that shows what they're wearing or what they want / wish to do with the Mars native. They can swing either way, but they're very quick to take control of their partner if needed.

♔ Mars in Pisces likes to fantasize about being taken care of by their partner and they have a thing about wanting or needing a piece of clothing from their partner that smells like them. They're very into sex toys too and, like Mars in Scorpio, they're into sexual torture.

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Retrograde Planets (and how they're a blind spot)

So, my friends and I were talking about retrograde planets and how the energy of a retrograde planet turns inwards rather than outwards. I told them I've always seen retrograde planets like that and, more specifically, I see retrograde planets as a blind spot. So without further ado, here's how I think retrograde planets work as a blind spot in a person.

Keep in mind aspects, the houses, and degrees could change this. This is just for fun and shouldn't dictate your life.

Mercury Retrograde: One of the major blind spots I've noticed with natives who have Mercury retrograde in their natal chart is they can't see how much they contribute to projects, social gatherings, etc. Most of them have convinced themselves that they're idiots, have nothing worthy to offer and they often can't see how smart they are. Even if they think of themselves as smart, there's still this self-doubt that exists in them "because what if I'm just faking this"? One of the major lessons here is to stop doubting how much you contribute to things and how smart you are; speak up when you have something to say! People want to hear you, I promise. Oh, and remember to speak up when someone does something you don't like either! It's okay to communicate how you're feeling.

Venus Retrograde: One of the major blind spots I've noticed with natives who have Venus retrograde in their natal chart is their inability to see their worth in any relationship, whether that be romantic or platonic. Most of the individuals I know who have a retrograde Venus have issues with over-extending themselves with the people in their lives too; they want to be everything to everyone, especially the people they hold dear. Also, there can be a fear of being vulnerable with another person because they've been taken advantage of one too many times. One of the major lessons here is to put yourself first and to stop burning yourself out to make other people happy; learn how to express the love you give to others towards yourself.

Mars Retrograde: One of the major blind spots I've noticed with natives who have Mars retrograde in their natal chart is their inability to properly express when something or someone has upset them. This was likely learned in childhood too, where all of their emotional reaction was seen "as too much" or they were seen as something to write off. Due to all of these experiences, I've found the native often has a fear of their own anger and refuses to express it; perhaps they saw too many expressions of anger being portrayed in the wrong way growing up, thus causing the native to fear anger or any aggressive behaviour. One of the major lessons here is learning how to work with your anger rather than against it; it's okay to express how you feel about things, you don't need to keep it bottled away "for the sake of others".

Jupiter Retrograde: One of the major blind spots I've noticed with natives who have Jupiter retrograde in their natal chart is their inability to trust themselves when it comes to anything spiritual or educational; these are usually the types of people who heard that they were "stupid", "dumb", etc growing up when it came to anything they were interested in too, which can cause resentment towards people who are easily able to find their own spiritual path and for those who seem to breeze by in an educational setting. They often don't see how much they have to offer in these two areas either, often looking to others to tell them what to do before they feel comfortable going out and doing it by themselves. That's one of the major lessons here: stop looking towards other people for the answer, you already know it.

Saturn Retrograde: One of the major blind spots I've noticed with natives who have Saturn retrograde in their natal chart is the inability to see their self-worth. They have an inability to see how much they offer to other people, always misjudging themselves, their character, their morals, etc. There's an immense fear of rejection or appearing as "stupid", "dumb", "a loser", etc to others too; they have an inability to see how and why other people like them (whether romantically or platonically). They always see themselves as this big, bad, terrible and horrible person when that's the furthest thing from the truth. One of the major lessons here is learning how to accurately judge their self-worth and the qualities they possess; they need to stop painting themselves as the bad guy for not knowing the answer to a question, for not knowing how to help someone out, etc.

Uranus Retrograde: One of the major blind spots I've noticed with natives who have Uranus retrograde in their natal chart is the fear of being themselves without putting a mask on. Let me be clear, they don't put a mask on to "do evil things". They put on a mask because they think this is what the people around them want to see, how these people want them to be, etc. They likely had their individuality suppressed in some way when they were growing up, making them terrified to express any part of themselves that wasn't approved by the parental figures or the people around them. With that being said, that's one of the major lessons for the native: to be yourself without having to wear a mask. People are going to like you for you, it's okay to let people see the true you.

Neptune Retrograde: One of the major blind spots I've noticed with natives who have Neptune retrograde in their natal chart is the fear of being uncreative, of being boring, of having no substance to who you are as a person. There can be a major doubt or fear that you're misremembering the things that happened in your life, especially because it's likely that the person around you told you that you were being overdramatic with expressing how much you feel, how you felt about a situation, etc. There can be a tendency to avoid showing other people what you've created in fear of being judged, rejected, abandoned, etc by the people you love too, likely due to having your creative side suppressed during childhood. One of the major lessons here is learning how to stop doubting yourself, to stop doubting your memory, and to learn that it's okay to show your creative side to the world.

Pluto Retrograde: One of the major blind spots I've noticed with natives who have Pluto retrograde in their natal chart is the fear of being in the spotlight. There's a fear surrounding standing out in some way, a fear of having your talents, dreams, goals, etc recognized by the people around you. Also, I've noticed these natives have a fear of moving on or letting go of people or things that have/had a lot of sentimental value to the native. This can cause a block with transforming the person, the situation or the environment around them; there's a need to be in control of situations because the native likely had that taken away from them a lot when they were growing up. They were likely subjected to someone else's control, wishes, etc which can be a source of fear when the person grows up. That's one of the major lessons they need to learn: no one can take away your power unless you allow them to do so. You are in control.

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astrological observations (18+)

⟡ someone's lilith placement can tell you a lot about whether or not they like bdsm, prefer vanilla sex, etc. also, when someone's lilith is making an aspect to a transit planet (e.g. mars, venus, moon) they're more likely to have sexual dreams.

⟡ the sign that venus is in can tell you the type of woman you'd be attracted to, especially in regards to whether or not you'd prefer a submissive or dominant woman.

⟡ i've touched on this before, but 8th and 12th house synastry is full of sex dreams. for the most part, i've noticed that most of these dreams involve being chased by the other, being tied up / pinned and not being able to move, etc. there's usually some form of restriction involved.

⟡ i've found that most people who have a chiron/moon, chiron/sun, chiron/venus or chiron/mars have some form of sexual trauma. i've noticed this with retrograde chiron too.

⟡ water and earth mars and venus placements are the types to hoard sex toys. they have so many that they want to test on their partner or have their partner use on them. if the person doesn't have any in their home / in their possession, it's something they've thought about.

⟡ i've noticed that fire and air mars and venus placements can write paragraphs upon paragraphs of dirty talk or what they want to do to you sexually and don't bat an eye or blush. they're very stoic with showing it on their face.

⟡ air and earth venus, mercury and mars placements get turned on by how intelligent / smart someone is. if you can debate with them and make good points? you've caught their attention.

⟡ i've noticed that earth placements portray themselves as dominant most of the time, but every person i've met who has an earth mercury, mars or venus is into being dominated by their partner. they just want to be looked after.

⟡ water and earth venus and mars placements are the type to cook you food after having sex with you.

⟡ water and fire mercury, venus and mars are extremely into the idea of being a brat and "needing to be tamed", or they're extremely into the idea of their partner being a brat and needing to be tamed.

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The Venus Signs

It's almost Christmas, so love is in the air. I thought I'd write something small about the Venus signs because of that. I hope you enjoy it!

ღ Venus in Aries is all about the chase. They love chasing after another person because they love to feel like they're in charge, but they're a lot softer than they like to portray themselves as. All they want is to be cuddled and recognized for all their hard work; they're always trying their best and sometimes all they need is for someone to see that.

ღ Venus in Taurus is very slow, steady, patient and understanding when it goes after the person it's interested in. They want to make sure the other person is comfortable, has the best things, and they're very in-tune with their partner's needs. These are the type of people who are going to cook or create something for you; they take care of you by providing any material wants or needs you have too.

ღ Venus in Gemini is all about pretending to not care because they're afraid of having their feelings hurt or rejected by the person they like. These are the kind of people who will stay up all night to finish a "project" that talks about why they like you, how they fell in love with you, etc. Also, you know they're interested in you because they can talk and talk about their interests for days.

ღ Venus in Cancer is all about being straightforward and not beating around the bush. This Venus placement gets stereotyped as being shy or scared to chase after someone, but this placement isn't scared to do so. These are the type of people who create a playlist of songs that reminded them of you to show their love and affection; they'll always be there when you need them too.

ღ Venus in Leo is all about showing off what they have. They need to show off their partners because it's their way of saying "look at what I have that you don't"; they're into the idea of having their partners dress up nicely for them too. Like Aries Venus, all they want is for their partner(s) to tell them that they're doing a good job and that they're proud of them.

ღ Venus in Virgo is all about trying to get everything perfect all the time. These are the type of people to type, delete, re-type, and repeat when trying to confess their love and affection to other people (even if it's just them trying to tell a really close friend that they love and appreciate them). All this venus placement wants is for someone to tell them that they're doing a good job and they don't need to be perfect 24/7.

ღ Venus in Libra is all about trying to show the person how much they love and care for them in subtle ways. They're the type of person to take over a project for you, finish an assignment for you, or do anything else that's been heavy on your plate; they want to help make sure you have time for yourself. These are the type of people to create an entire slideshow or handwrite a letter to tell you how much they love you and why they love you.

ღ Venus in Scorpio is all about trying to subtly show that they love and care for you. This Venus placement is terrified of having their love rejected, so they're more likely to take care of you in subtle ways: "have you eaten today? Have you drunk water today? Is there anything I can do to help relieve this stress off of you?" Also, they're the types to put together an aesthetic board or playlist "because it reminded me of you".

ღ Venus in Sagittarius is very similar to Venus in Aries and Venus in Leo: they want their partner(s) to tell them that they're doing a good job, especially because a lot of the work they do slides by without any praise or recognition. You can tell when these people have a crush on you because they're always taking an interest in what you're doing, what you're saying, etc; they're always the ones trying to put a smile on your face. Despite popular belief, they're very shy with flirting too.

ღ Venus in Capricorn is all about trying to make sure everything is perfect and nothing is out of place, very similar to Venus in Virgo. These are the types of people who are going to make sure they buy you your favourite things, handwritten love confessions, and they're going to make sure you know they're interested in you. There can be problems with confessing because they want and expect everything to go smoothly.

ღ Venus in Aquarius is all about trying to figure out your likes, your dislikes, what your hobbies are, what you like to do in your free time, etc. Despite popular belief, these are the types of people who need to feel some sort of connection with you before they begin to pursue you, which can be hard to figure out because this venus placement isn't always straightforward with its wants, needs and expectations sometimes because they're terrified of being rejected.

ღ Venus in Pisces is all about longing from afar, as they're too shy and nervous to make the first move most of the time. These are the kinds of people who will make playlists, make drawings or they'll make aesthetic boards as a way to show their love and affection towards you. Also, these are the types of people who will see something when they're out shopping and buy it "because it reminded me of you".

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18+ astrological observations

⟡ if you want to know how dominant or submissive someone would be in the bedroom, you should look at their mars and lilith placements. mars is drive, action and passion and lilith covers the sexual desires someone would have.

⟡ look to someone's mars or mercury placement to see how they'd approach "dirty talk" in the bedroom.

⟡ if you have 8th or 12th house synastry with someone, there's a fixation on sexual and dirty fantasies with them. there's a lot of sexual daydreams too.

⟡ fire and earth placements are extremely into the chase. the more unavailable you are to them, the more interest they have in you. fire is more expressive about this, but earth is not. it's more mental for earth.

⟡ everyone thinks 8th house placements are focused on sex a lot, but i've noticed that 2nd, 5th or 7th house placements truly focus on it a lot. they'll never tell anyone anything they've been dreaming about, but there's a lot of thoughts around fucking their partner into submission.

⟡ earth placements (and earth houses) are into sappy sex more than water placements. earth placements need to feel a connection with you before they chase after you.

⟡ i've noticed that earth and water venus and mars have a huge breeding kink. they're very into the idea of getting someone pregnant, even if they don't want children of their own.

⟡ i've noticed that a lot of water and fire placements tend to love being tied up during sex. they love being helpless and being unable to move while you have their way with them.

⟡ air venus and mars is more into the mental aspects of sex than the physical process. in order to turn them on, you need to turn on their mind and catch their interest first.

⟡ earth placements give very big "brat tamer" energy. same with air placements.

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𝐚𝐬𝐭𝐫𝐨𝐥𝐨𝐠𝐢𝐜𝐚𝐥 𝐨𝐛𝐬𝐞𝐫𝐯𝐚𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧𝐬

here's some observations i've noticed over a couple of years. don't stress if it doesn't fit / resonate though, as aspects and the house(s) involved can change it.

⟡ libra mars isn't as passive aggressive as people think. while this mars placement is in detriment, it doesn't mean it doesn't know how to express itself, go after what it wants, and it doesn't necessarily shy away from confrontation either. most libra mars i've known have been extremely confrontational, especially where friends or family are concerned.

⟡ most people who identify as LGBT+ have a venus/jupiter, venus/moon, or jupiter/mars aspect. it's something i've noticed in a lot of the charts i've studied.

⟡ 8th house placements aren't as mysterious as everyone thinks, they're just extremely good at reading the room (and you). they're extremely private people who know how to get what they want, but deep down they just want someone to love.

⟡ cancer, libra and pisces placements or any placements in their houses (4th, 7th, 12th) aren't nearly as soft or people-pleasing as people like to stereotype them as. they'll laugh and play along with it, but these are the kind of people who will enact revenge with a smile on their face and you'd never see it coming.

⟡ fire signs like to play the part of the clown because they know what it's like to be upset, angry, or depressed and have no one there for them. they don't want anyone else to experience it, so they're always trying to get people to laugh or smile. this can annoy people who just want to feel through their emotions, but remember that they do it out of love for you.

⟡ water mars can be quite deceiving, especially in the bedroom. it'll play and act like it's submissive, sweet and caring but the moment you let your guard down? they'll take control so quickly. they go from being the baby to "call me daddy / mommy".

⟡ earth and air placements have a hard time realizing that emotions exist and that emotions are a good thing. they're always expecting perfection from themselves all the time, rarely taking time out for themselves. check up on your earth or air placement friends, don't let them tire themselves out.

⟡ if you want to know what someone's love language is, you should check their ceres placement. ceres is how we nurture and love others, but it's also how we want to receive love. you can check their moon, venus and mars too.

⟡ air and fire placements like to do this thing where they pretend that the gift they gave to you wasn't a big deal. they'll play it off as "oh, i was just out for a walk and found this, it made me think of you". they're lying!! they put a lot of time, effort and energy into finding this gift for you but they don't want to admit it.

⟡ earth and water placements somehow know what someone wants before the person knows it themselves. they're extremely observant and they're always tuned into other people's needs.